The 7 Defining Characteristics Of An Alpha Male

April 23, 2012 | 8 Comments » | Topics: Dating

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1. Be a leader of men

People should look to you as a leader. You lead by example. You set the tone for the night. When there’s any doubt about what the next move should be, you’re the one who decides. You take women by the hand. You’re a social hub. You’re the one people look to when they’re looking for a fun time. You’re assertive but take everyone’s feelings into account.

2. Protector of loved ones

If there is one tried and true attribute of the alpha male, it is his ability to take care of the people he loves. The alpha male father could care less if he dies in a struggle as long as his wife and children survive. He puts the value of his life below those he truly cares about. In terms of strength, his body language lets you know that he is not to be messed with regardless of his height or stature. 

3. Be firm in your values

You have meditated and thought about your deepest inner values. You are unwavering on these. These can include things as basic as love of life, traveling, studying, religion, or not tolerating condescension or self-defeating behavior. These are the basic pieces that make up your personality and it is important to know what they are. The average, beta male has trouble describing his personal values to others. He looks to others to define who he is. This will not be you. YOU will define who you are. Nobody else.

4. Be self-validated

You do not need the validation of others to define your confidence. You can get “in state” from energy generated purely from within. You don’t look to others for approval because you KNOW you’re an all-star. You’re AWESOME and every fiber of your being knows it. You will not be knocked out of state in the field because nothing can harm your ego. You are awesomeness embodied. Settle for nothing less.

5. Be non-reaction seeking & non-reactive

How someone reacts to your behavior is not particularly important to you. You are self-validated and emanate awesomeness. You are positive, understanding and beneficent to others yet do not need this fact acknowledged. People react to YOU. You do not react to THEM. People seek your approval which you dole out as appropriate. You are outcomes-independent.

6. Have social proof and preselection

Everywhere you go, people want to be associated with you. You have many friends. Beautiful women are part of your life. You accept this as a god-given fact. You own every room you’re in. You’re Bill Clinton. You have an abundance mentality because your life is abundant.

7. Be a value giver (and not a value taker)

You do not NEED approval from others. Approval is something a high value individual doles out to others. Receiving approval is taking value. Seeking approval is being a value taker. YOU dole out the approval. YOU are approached by value takers. YOU are a value giver. Every person you encounter in your life is better off for having met you. Whether it’s just a wave hello to a stranger, a compliment to your butcher, or a massive party you help organize and invite high value people to, you’re enriching the lives of others. You are benevolent and compassionate. You look out for and protect the people in your life.


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  • Pestimouse

    I like it! Not sure you can change, gentle reader?

    Then stick “Die Hard” in your DVD player and watch Alan Rickman – a guy with a receding chin and bit of a largish nose – act both the super-charismatic criminal, and the whiny lame guy when he tries to take Bruce Willis by pretending to be a hostage.

    If you’re a Brit/like British sci-fi, watch the difference between how Chris Barrie plays Arnold J Rimmer and Ace in the series “Red Dwarf” – both played for laughs, but the body language and stuff is worth noting. Even Al Murray, playing the bitter and neurotic pub landlord, versus being on TV himself as a funny, self-assured kinda guy – again it’s all in the body language, the posture – something in the eyes, with him especially. The last 2 examples should be available on YouTube if you’re going “wtf” right now.

    Gary Oldman also plays a few roles where he’s super-cool, and a few where he’s a total gimp, as well, can’t remember any titles off-hand though – he’s a pin-up, but again not a classic looker.

    If you’re a woman, get the episode of Buffy where Juliet Landau, playing Drusilla, changes from gawky simple girl to sexy vamp chick… again, bit of makeup but the rest is pure attitude and poise: she does the same in the La Femme Nikita (TV series) ep “Before I Sleep” – and again, looked at cold and hard, she’s not conventionally attractive at all.

    And then if you’re thinking “this is bullsh*t, they’re actors” then think back to every time you’ve ever played a role or changed your reactions to get a response – I think if you’re honest, you’ll see that at work, at least, you’re likely to have done this more than once…

    Bonne chance! ;o)

    • Pestimouse

      PS This is a good post to back up the assertion in the above article, “You can get ‘in state’ from energy generated purely from within.”

      Myth 8, “Introverts are aloof nerds.” in that article is busted, thusly:

      “Introverts are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their thoughts and emotions.”

      So all personality types can reset their inner compass away from needy, approval seeking, people-pleasing etc (or their darkling twins: dishonesty, bitterness and snark), back to the more magnetic, and charismatic, reliance on themselves as the ultimate arbiter of self-worth.

  • Simonellismith

    This is very Good and amazing charateristics of the alpha male.

  • This is a very good description, I believe that more men need to act like an Alpha Male ….there would be alot more happier women

    • Sdadd

       if you say so buddy, i don’t hit the bar scene often anymore because there’s too many beta, charlie and delta males who can’t tolerate their inferior genes.

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