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20 Ways to Be More Assertive and Get What You Want

November 8, 2012 | No Comments » | Topics: Dating

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By Nick Notas

In my previous article, I shared with you my “selfishness epiphany”. I told you how I once believed going after what I wanted and needed was wrong. And it was only when I realized that making yourself a priority is perfectly healthy that I became a liberated, fulfilled man. Now I want to show you how to get there yourself.

Understand that cannot think your way into becoming an honest man. If you plan on reading this and expect to change immediately, it’s not happening. I’ve tried that route and it doesn’t work — you have to lead with actions and your mindset will follow.

Start applying the examples below today. No more waiting and no more frustration being second place.

  1. Express your sexual intentions and desires with women. Follow my guide toovercoming sexual anxiety.
  2. Politely refuse to help someone when you truly don’t want to or have time to.
  3. Make a decision and choose where you want to take your date/girlfriend on a Friday night. Don’t just flip flop between “Where do you wanna go?” and “I don’t know, you pick.” Be decisive and take the lead.
  4. State your opposing opinion to someone without being confrontational. Hold your ground. “No way, there are plenty of metal songs with good lyrics.” “I disagree, the war on drugs has been a complete failure.”
  5. For every girl you meet and have more than a minute of conversation, ask for her number. Do this regardless of whether or not you think you’ll get a yes.
  6. When you find yourself apologizing, think back over the event and determine if you actually needed to apologize. Many times we say sorry out of habit or insecurity. Consciously stop yourself from unnecessary apologies in the future.
  7. Invite a girl you’ve been texting or chatting with (online dating) to do something that interests you.
  8. If you truly feel overworked and underpaid, ask your boss for a raise. Know there are potential consequences. (Disclaimer: I take no responsibility in what results from this action…unless it’s good.)
  9. Ask a girl for directions to the nearest Barnes and Noble (or wherever you’re going). Chat for a minute and then ask if she’d like to come along with you.
  10. Negotiate a lower price. This can be done at places such as flea markets, yard sales, or outdoor festivals.
  11. Don’t ask a girl out on a date, suggest a date activity in statement form. Also, get specific and concrete. Bonus points if it’s a commonality you discovered in conversation. “Do you want to hang out sometime?” becomes “Come see Shakespeare in the Park with me on Wednesday.”
  12. Email a company you want to join. Tell them what you genuinely appreciate about their values and business model. Then explain what you can offer to them. Do this once a week minimum. All it takes is a single moment.
  13. Tell a business you’re disappointed with their product or service. Whether your waiter was exceedingly rude or the shipping packaging was terrible, explain your frustrations in person, on the phone, or over email.
  14. Share a traditionally “unattractive” hobby with a girl. This could be your side programming project, comic collection, or love for building model airplanes.
  15. End a friendship with a girl that you don’t want to be “just friends” with. This sounds harsh but hear me out. This is for when you’ve already shown your intentions and she’s not feeling it. Rather than stick around hoping she’ll change her mind…
  16. Approach and meet women on a regular basis. It’s step #1 to having a successful dating life. Grab my approaching eBook, get off your ass, and go say hello to someone!
  17. Break up with a significant other that you’re unhappy with. Don’t stay with a woman out of fear of being alone, because it’s comfortable, or you don’t want to hurt her feelings. If you care about her, end it now instead of stringing her along. She’s only going to get more invested and hurt with time.
  18. Calmly inform someone that they’re crossing your boundaries or mistreating you.“You are talking down to me and I don’t appreciate it.” “You’re prying too far into my personal life right now.” “I don’t like the way you passively aggressively attack me.”
  19. Let a friend or date that cancelled (last minute or more than once) know that behavior is unacceptable. Avoid anger and hostility. “Okay, next time give me a heads up so I can plan other things.” or “It’s not cool to keep wasting my time like that. Hit me up when you’re serious about hanging out.” If it happens repeatedly, cut contact and move on.
  20. Be upfront with your relationship expectations to a woman you’re seeing. Tell her exactly what you’re looking for when the time is right. That could be you’re still figuring it out, friends with benefits, open dating, or an exclusive relationship.

Be true to yourself and your needs as part of your daily life. Each time you follow the path of honesty, you’ll reinforce those values. Make them a habit until they become you.

Check out more awesome dating artickes by Nick at The Dating Specialist



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