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Where Guys Go Wrong When They Meet A Girl They Really Like

January 3, 2013 | 1 Comment » | Topics: Dating

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by Eric Disco

We’ve all tried to improve ourselves with women. At some point, you realize that what you’re doing just isn’t working. You’re too tame, too friendly, too passive, and too nice. Too many opportunities are slipping through your fingers because you aren’t making the move. So you learn new strategies that are edgier, bolder, and more sexual. You start to take risks with attractive women. You start to get better results. Women respond to your new boldness. Things are looking up.

But then it happens. You meet a girl you really like. And things seem different now. Even though she’s not getting sexual with you, for some reason you decide it’s okay to be a lot nicer and take things a lot slower sexually with her. Your brain comes up with brilliant reasons why it should be okay for you to do this:

The underlying idea is this:

There are two big problems with this strategy.

First, you become too emotional to get sexual. The longer you hang out with her `as a friend,’ the more emotionally invested you become. You start to have more and more feelings for her beyond friendship. As you spend weeks/months/years getting closer to this girl without getting sexual, your emotional investment makes you careful and inhibited around her because you don’t want to lose what you have with her. So it becomes almost impossible to make the move to get sexual later.

Second, she starts to lose attraction for you. The more emotionally invested you get in her without her commensurate sexual investment, the more she loses attraction for you. She reads your unwillingness to get sexual as a lack of self-confidence on your part. She sees this as you not having enough confidence in your own sexual attractiveness to bring the relationship to a sexual place. Your deliberate, careful, sex-free demeanor bores her.

Instead of letting this girl off the hook in terms of sexual investment, it is critical that you get her sexually invested in the relationship sooner rather than later.

Sexual investment doesn’t just mean sex. It could mean sexual banter. It could mean physical contact. But whatever it is, it leads to sex. It’s a small sexual investment on her part which calls for a small emotional investment on your part.

If she is unwilling to get sexual with you early on, then you should not be willing to invest emotionally in this girl. Sure, you could be friends with her if that’s honestly what you want. But honestly, is that really what you want? It isn’t. Don’t try to be friends with her if you are interested in her sexually. That will just lead to problems for you.

Typically, if you inject sex early on and she isn’t into it, she’ll filter herself out. Often she’ll drop the conversation or stop talking with you. She may act offended or `creeped out.’ That’s fine. That’s what you want. You want to find out if there’s any attraction for you early on instead of wasting hours/days/weeks/months on this girl only to find she isn’t into you.

When you meet a girl you really like, don’t change your game for her. Don’t slow down. She doesn’t get a free pass just because you like her. No matter how nice and wholesome she seems, she will be willing to invest something sexually if she likes you. And if she isn’t willing, it’s not worth the investment on your part, no matter how great she seems.

Shameless self-plug: If you aren’t meeting women you really like, it’s time to learn how. My new program, She’s Six Steps Away , teaches you everything you need to know to get past your fear of approaching women.

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  • Anne Wellington

    This is a reasonably accurate article, but clarify exactly when he should start to make sexual suggestions, or what signs he should look for before dropping those hints. else you might have a case of a guy continues to use his trashy pickup methods that worked on trashy girls but don’t work on quality ones, and he then complains he can’t catch a nice wholesome woman or that nice wholesome women are cold frigid bitches that won’t respond to his awesome dating skills.


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