by George P.H.
Hard to get, easy to lose and impossible to recover: respect is one of the most important things in a man’s life.
When you have it, girls compete for the right to spend time with you – on your terms. There’s never any nagging, lying or mind-games because women treat the few men worthy of respect like kings.
Respect is also a form of social currency. Have it, and people will help you get what you want out of life; everyone will treat you well. Don’t have it and people will take every opportunity to make your life more difficult.
So let’s go: here are 6 ways to get respect as a man!
1. Keep Your Word
“All I have in this world is my balls and my word” – Tony Montana (Scarface)
There is something incredibly repulsive about a man who breaks promises and fails commitments. It’s cowardly; it’s weak; it’s just unmanly.
If you want to be respected – especially by other guys – be a man of your word. Following through on your promises, no matter how hard that can be, is the foundation of being respected as a man.
2. Be Yourself
“When you are content to be simply yourself and don’t compare or compete, everybody will respect you.” -Lao Tzu
Some men think they need to hide their real thoughts to be pleasant. They agree with whatever’s being said and say what other people want to hear. Nice and polite, right?
People-pleasers may as well come out and say: “Your approval is more important than my opinion. I have no respect for myself, and neither should you.” They may be pleasant – like lukewarm water – but they are neither liked nor respected.
A real man is strong and self-sufficient; he doesn’t care what others think. He likes himself for who he is – and why wouldn’t he? Be yourself: most people will love you, a few will hate you, but everyone will respect you.
3. Stop Caring
“Being powerful is like being a lady. If you have to tell people you are, you aren’t.” – Margaret Thatcher
Think of a man who’s well-respected by everyone. How do you think he spends his days? Thinking about respect, demanding it from others, bragging about it – or living his life?
You don’t get respect by seeking or claiming it. You earn it by being a real man; the kind of man who doesn’t care about what anyone thinks.
4. Respect Yourself
“Only by self-respect will you compel others to respect you” – Fyodor Dostoevsky
In point 3, I wrote you shouldn’t care about being respected by others. You should, however, care about respecting yourself.
Self-respect doesn’t mean placing yourself above others. It simply means having rules for what you will and will not accept in life – and enforcing them. As a man, you should always be doing this.
When people overstep your boundaries, there’s no need to get upset or violently confront them. Just respect yourself enough to address things you don’t like – or walk away from negative people and situations.
5. Be Successful
“People respect success. They respect big. They don’t even have to like [what you do]… If you’re big enough, people are drawn to you.” – Shawn “Jay-Z” Carter
On a basic level, we respect successful people – and this is especially true for guys. A man with no direction in life will only win contempt from those around him.
You don’t need to be a millionaire or rockstar, but you must do something worthwhile with your life. Be great at your hobby; live passionately; find a purpose for yourself. No matter what it is, find a way to be successful at something.
6. Have Respect For Everyone
“I speak to everyone in the same way, whether he is a garbage man or the president of a university.” – Albert Einstein
How do most people act? They treat those above them on the social ladder well and those “below” them like shit. This is because they’re looking to take value and only appreciate those who can give it.
A real man, however, doesn’t seek value from others. He doesn’t treat people well because he wants something from them – he does it because he’s a good person.
Treat everyone as a fellow human being, not someone you can later use to your benefit. Judge people for who they are – not what they can do for you. Respect is won by being fair, not kissing ass.
Ultimately, getting respect comes from having it for yourself and other people. Treat others well; judge people for their achievements (and not what they can give you); never hesitate to defend your interests. Respect will become a natural side-effect of your lifestyle.