"The notion that human beings are always victims to their circumstances is an affront to those bold spirits who throughout history have spent their lives prevailing over adversity."
~ Jim Stockdale
Where many fail to act like men is in the belief that their actions aren’t a result of their choices. Many feel that they act only in response to what is around them, and what is around them is usually a reason (read: excuse) to give up, quit, or to put it more eloquently, to be a little bitch.
When you’re a victim to circumstance you have – in your mind – a valid reason to be less than what you can be. After-all, what you can be isn’t a choice you make but a choice made for you by the environment you were born into. You didn’t choose the town in which you were born or the parents who conceived you. You didn’t choose where you begin, so how can you be held responsible for where you end?
If you in any way agree with this notion that your circumstances choose where you end your life and what you do in your life, you need to wake the fuck up.
This is tantamount to a heroine addiction. They have similar effects. You’re at the beacon of the drug, which in your case is the love of victimhood. When you see the odds stacked against you not as a challenge – as men see them – but as immovable barriers that can’t be climbed nor destroyed, you are at the whim of your circumstance.
If times are hard you’ll shut down rather than rising to the occasion. Your views of what can be accomplished will be incredibly safe and easy. You won’t seek challenges in your life because you believe that your life is a challenge. You’ll end up living an easier life than the man to sees obstacles as a part of life, but also as things that sharpen character and feed the life force.
Just like heroine addicts often need an intervention or a moment where they hit rock bottom, if you don’t wake the fuck up as fast as humanly possible you’ll end your life regretting nearly every day you “lived”. You’ll go through your years without tasting life’s beautiful highs nor it’s crushing lows. You’ll confine yourself to the middle, to safety, to purgatory.
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