The Daily Man-Up

June 30, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up

Men love a good challenge. When we have to work for something, we see it as more valuable. We tend not to appreciate what’s handed to us as much.

Think about every good story ever written. It focuses on the hero’s journey. The main character must face some struggle which makes his victory that much sweeter.  If there was no tension, no battle, nothing to work for — it would be…boring.

The same goes for dating. A lot of men complain that they don’t want women to play any games. They just want them to be upfront. But what we say can be different than what we respond to.

When a woman is too available or shows too much interest early on, many men become hesitant. They question why things are so easy. And they are less attracted because of it.

So on many occasions, women are forced to challenge men in order to win their affection. And you need to be ready for when that happens. School is in session.

What are tests and why do some women challenge men?

The simplest definition I can think of is…

Any action in which a woman tries to determine whether or not you’re confident in yourself and your intentions.

It’s no secret that confidence is one of the most attractive qualities in a man. So women want you to prove that you’re the real deal.

They wants to know if you’re the hero…or just another guy.

And that may threaten you. Maybe you don’t like being put on the spot. Maybe you take it as a personal attack. You think a woman is purposely trying to put you down.

What you’re missing is that much of the time when a woman tests you, it’s because she’sinterested. It’s playful flirting. Because she’s feeling attracted to you, she wants to make sure you’re really who you say you are. Women test guys they see potential in.

These tests are usually unconscious, too. It can be a natural reaction when some women feel insecure or are trying to impress you. So they project those insecurities outward as a defense mechanism.

Why it’s important to pass these tests

Women want men who are comfortable with their identity and value themselves. They don’t want good “actors”, or men who are secretly insecure and overcompensate to hide it. 

When you fail a test, you’re showing a woman that she has shaken you and maybe you’re not as confident as you let on.

You’re also showing that it’s easy to get to you and you can’t roll with the punches. You’re not able to laugh at yourself or throw it back at her. Basically, you can’t keep up with a woman who’s flirting with you.

Confident men can deal with any situation that comes up. They love themselves. So in any tough moment they just have to be unashamedly themselves. There’s nothing sexier or more masculine.

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