The Daily Man-Up

September 21, 2017 | 3 Comments » | Topics: Man-Up

"I met this girl in January of this year at the start of the second semester at our university when we worked in one of the rec centers together. She was a freshman and I was a Junior. She started college a semester late (she said because of family issues) and said she was nervous about it, so I decided to show her around a bit. We got lunch a few times during the first month on campus and I gave her tours of the campus. We hit it off immediately and I knew I was in love instantly. Well, long story short, I asked her our and she said no. I was heartbroken, but she agreed to still be friends (unfortunately, I don’t have evidence of this since the conversation was in person). I tried several times throughout the semester to show her what she meant to me, but she ignored me and all the thought I put into the gifts I gave her. We had a falling out that involved me drunk calling her and her telling me to leave her alone when I tried to explain.

I have spent the last month in absolute depression. I think about her every day. She blocked me on social media, so I can’t see her profile, but I haven’t texted her since school ended. But it finally got to be too much for me. I decided I would try one more time to show her how much I love her. I knew the town she moved to school from (its only like an hour away from me and I have family that live nearby- we have talked about it before), so I texted her and told her I was coming to meet her. I was going to meet her at X coffee shop and I wanted to talk about everything. Once again, she couldn’t even do me the respect of replying. I checked her Instagram that night and saw that she was out partying that very night. There were pictures of her with alcohol (she is UNDERAGE) and her wearing skanky clothes (she told me she hated partying). its like she has become a totally different person. So I did freak out a little. I told her about how much I cared and about how awful it was for her to just ignore me like that. That I was going to come to coffee shop on X day and if she should do me the respect of coming to see me.

She never replied, but I got a piece of mail today. It was a fucking cease and desist letter. She said she would “seek legal avenues” if I didn’t stop “harassing” her. I need to know what I can do legally to talk to her and make sure she doesn’t understand. I don’t want to live a life knowing she hates me. From my research, a Cease and Desist letter isn’t legally binding like a restraining order or anything and I am not harassing her since I don’t have an intent to intimidate or hurt her, so she can’t charge me with anything. Is all that true? Do I need a lawyer to respond to her letter?"


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  • Josh Gordon

    Dude she was giving you warning signs left and right she wasnt interested and you just wouldnt let it go. Learn when to let things go and move on, who knows while you were obsessing over this one woman there may have been 2 or 3 cute ones in one of your classes giving you googly eyes but you just didnt notice to busy thinking about Ms. Perfect.

    Do yourself a favor go find some hobbies you enjoy and at least one that has you spending time outdoors and just have something to do in your life that you enjoy and are passionate about that doesnt revolve around women.

  • redwood618

    You were in love instantly?? Relax you just wanted to fck her. Yes, you are a stalker. She said no the first time. Life isn’t Romeo and Juliet – leave her alone and go find another girl. You sound very desperate and pathetic. You spend the whole year thinking about this girl because she gave a bit of attention. Go join a gym, stop jerking off and go to some bars.

  • Nero Young

    I have been into similar situation, I know how it feels. You started on wrong foot. When you knew you had feelings for her, you asked her out. She said no, end of the story. However you had a chance, when she friend zoned you and you accepted it rather than denying it. It was obvious after that she wanted you just as a friend and you freaked her out. And that lead you to a situation where she blocked you everywhere.
    Instead of being a cry baby you should have moved on or you should have said that you don’t wanna be her friend. A girl did same thing to me and I declined. Within one week she said I love you to me. That’s another story that after that I dumped her to teach her a lesson xD
    Grow up man, don’t cry over a single girl, before you met her you didn’t even know she existed.