The Daily Man-Up

January 18, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up

“Better to trip with the feet than with the tongue.”

What It Means

If you trip with your feet, you can get back up again and carry on business as usual. We all make mistakes like this sometimes. It might be embarrassing, but only if you care greatly about the opinions of others.

If you trip with your tongue, you unleash more than just words. You share thoughts, desires, or perspectives that may hurt others. Once you’ve said something hurtful, you can’t undo it. There’s no getting back up; there’s only asking for forgiveness and hoping they’ll pull you back up.

What to Take From It

Think before you speak. Whatever you say, write, or tweet will be out there forever. You can burn pages, delete tweets and Facebook comments, but you can’t pull your words from someone else’s mind. So, while you may one day forget why you said such hurtful things, the world won’t. Don’t forget an earlier lesson that says it’s best not to speak unless you know for certain it’s something worth saying. If even a sliver of your being thinks what you’re about to say is better left unsaid, keep it to yourself, or at least save it for a more opportune moment where your words will be seen in the right light.

If your hurtful words are already out there, don’t try to make them go away, or tell people that they misunderstood—apologize. Say that you’re sorry for what you said, sorry for how you made them feel, and express your desire to be more mindful in the future. They may not accept, but that’s why it’s so important you avoid tripping with your tongue in the first place.

– Patrick Allan