The Daily Man-Up

May 14, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up

Some days, the motivation just doesn’t happen. No matter how great or fulfilling your job is, sometimes your enthusiasm for it will inevitably wane. And here we get to another piece of advice — but, sincerely, this is the only motivational advice anyone has ever needed: You don’t have to feel like getting something done in order to actually get it done.

This idea — that your emotions about doing something must fall in line in order for you to actually do the thing — is what much of the existing motivational advice is based on, and yet it’s not entirely true, as psychology writer Oliver Burkeman wrote in his book The Antidote: Happiness for People Who Can’t Stand Positive Thinking. He writes:

Who says you need to wait until you ‘feel like’ doing something in order to start doing it? The problem, from this perspective, isn’t that you don’t feel motivated; it’s that you imagine you need to feel motivated. … If you can regard your thoughts and emotions about whatever you’re procrastinating on as passing weather, you’ll realise that your reluctance about working isn’t something that needs to be eradicated or transformed into positivity. You can coexist with it. You can note the procrastinatory feelings and work anyway.