The Daily Man-Up: You Need a Life Strategy Because Extraordinary Lives Don’t Happen by Accident

July 3, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up

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To achieve the life you want, one that will truly make you satisfied, you need to prioritize it above all else. If you want a life of success, a life filled with spiritual happiness shared with your partner, you need to visualize it. That life you envision will then contain these pieces of your puzzle. But don’t get confused — these pieces are not your life, in itself. You are more than these pieces. Your life isn’t your job, it’s not your marriage, it’s not your kids or the people in it. Don’t limit yourself. Visualize and plan who you want to be, and how you want your life to be.

1. Prioritize the life you want.

This is not putting your role as a spouse first, or even your role as a parent. It’s not even putting your family first. It’s putting yourself first and understanding what you need. By being whole, you’ll enjoy others and situations as a complement to your prioritized life, and not a “fix” to complete you.

2. Recognize what you need to avoid.

Identify and avoid situations that aren’t good, but occurring over and over. Is your health upsetting you? Fix it, do what you need to do to feel better about yourself or take action to heal. Stuck in traffic constantly and getting home angry and frustrated? Change it.  Move closer to work. You can’t be a good partner, parent or contributor if you are shut down, angry and upset.

And, like everything I do, commit to this. You have to make a decision to be obsessed with having the life you want. You have to take ownership of your life. I work to fund the life I want. I shape my life so I can be with my wife and kids. I align the pieces so I can have the life I want and deserve. I make sure I have things around me in order so it reminds me, and reinforces that I have my life in order and in control. That is the life I want.

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