The Daily Man-Up: 13 Highly Toxic Habits You Must Drop if You Ever Want to Reach Your True Potential

August 9, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up

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1. Non Stop Complaining 

Life isn’t fair.

Get the fuck over it.

Complaining has zero positive impact on your life.

You waste valuable time, you put yourself in a negative state of mind, make yourself really unattractive, and repel people like magnets because frankly…

No one else cares, nobody wants to hear about it.

Not your best friends. Not your mom. Not your girlfriend. No one.

What your “harmless” whining does is create a victim mentality in your head, which leads to an undeserved sense of entitlement.

People who let this sense of entitlement dominate their psyche tend to avoid the realities of life – stopping growth right in its tracks.

The reality of life is – no matter how special and unique you think your problems are, there are millions of other people who are going through the exact same shit as you, and millions more who are going through worse.

The sooner you can recognize this truth, the sooner you can reclaim control of your life.

And the sooner you will develop the motivation and backbone to fix your own damn problems.

Take a second to appreciate every single advantage that you were blessed with, and realize that there are thousands if not millions of people who would kill to be in the position that you’re in today.

People have accomplished far more with far less than you…

So quit bitching and own your problems like a man.

2. Excessive Partying or “socializing”

Ah, I bet you were hoping this point wouldn’t be on the list. I was the same way. Pure denial.

I used to be the definition of excessive partying. Half-ass my work week, constantly thinking about letting loose and getting completely wrecked that weekend.

Friday night finally comes (and goes) in a drunken haze. Lay in bed hungover all day Saturday. Get smashed again Saturday night. Lay in bed hungover all day Sunday. Better yet, hair-of-the-dog it and hit Sunday brunch. Crawl into work Monday, thinking about nothing else but blacking out again the next weekend.

You might not think you’re an “alcoholic” per-say, but if you center your life around something that you can’t do without (i.e. getting smashed every weekend), it’s a form of addiction. And there’s no such thing as an addiction that won’t hinder your growth.

And forget about labels for a second. You don’t have to be a straight up “alcoholic” or have an “addiction” for it to be bad for you – grow up and take a hard look at yourself. If your behaviors aren’t beneficial to your goals, have the courage to put an end to it.

I’m not saying you have to stop drinking and occasionally going out with your friends.  But you should definitely be able to identify if your constant partying and drinking habits are a detriment to your growth and a distraction to your goals.

Let me tell you from personal experience that freeing myself from the constant need to get drunk or high every weekend was one of the most liberating things I’ve ever done.

I literally felt like I was not only adding extra days to my life health-wise but adding extra hours to my weeks efficiency-wise.

You aren’t in high school anymore.

Don’t be someone who lives only for the weekend. Do the fucking math. That would make you someone who lives for 2/7’s of their life.

I’m no mathematician but that sounds like a pretty shitty ratio of life enjoyment.

There’s some unspoken idea in our society that leads us to believe that we are “entitled” to going crazy on the weekends. Because we work five days a week, we get to let loose on the two days we get off.

It’s a really unhealthy, un-motivating mindset.

You should be finding out how to make every single day of your life something you’re more excited for than getting shit-faced without an obvious goal. A lot of people don’t even realize that they’re living for the weekend… Don’t be one of those people.

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