The Daily Man-Up: Stop Apologizing For Being Yourself

January 30, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up

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I’ve got a simple question for you: Who are you?

Look, this is not a job interview or any type of interview.

I’m not looking for a politically correct answer. “I’m a person who’s serious about his career. I like to spend time with my family and friends.” That’s true for every single person who is determined enough to have a job.

No, I’m talking about who you truly are — deep down.

Because let’s face it, you and I both know that we all have two personalities, who live two different lives. There’s the life we want to live, and then there’s the life we’re actually living.

I used to be that way. I always thought that “it’s impossible to live the way I really want.” And that’s what held me back from:

You know what my problem was? I was afraid to be myself. That’s all. But most of us are simply so scared to admit that.

But I meet people all the time who are afraid to be themselves. Not only at work but also outside of it.

Recently, a reader asked me:

“Hey Darius, do you think I should stop being silly so that people take me seriously?”

And I get emails like this all the time. And it pisses me off. Not that I get these questions, but that we live in a world where these things happen all the time.

You should never apologize for who you are.

I get a lot of questions that can be boiled down to this: I can’t be myself. I get it because I was like that too.

We fear that people won’t like us, respect us, or value us if we don’t “fit in”.

Why do we fear that so much? It’s a waste of energy.

Like all fears, it’s unnecessary. Look, you’re not going to die alone when you become yourself 24/7.

It’s not only a waste of energy, but it’s also a waste of LIFE, if you’re not living it on your terms.

I believe that you should live the way YOU want. You should always say and do what YOU want. I don’t care where in the world you live. “That’s not what we do in our country.” Find a way!

Because what’s the alternative? Do you want to shut down your true personality and become some robot that’s programmed by society or other people?

No one deserves that.

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