The Daily Man-Up: How to Build Lasting Male Friendships in a Chronically Lonely World

March 7, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up

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There is an epidemic facing the men of the 21st century.

Although it’s staring us right in the face, few of us are even aware of its existence.

It increases our risk of cardiovascular disease, stroke, Alzheimer’s, and can damage your health just as much as smoking.

What is it that I am referring to?

Loneliness.

A seemingly innocuous consequence of our hyper-developed society that has some very real and tangible implications for the modern man.

More than 35% of middle age men report experiencing chronic loneliness and the number of millennials who self-report feeling alone and isolated continues to rise on a daily basis.

As a result, more men than ever before in history are suffering from depression, crippling anxiety, suicidal tendencies, and other mental illnesses that our “Fix it with Chemistry” society seems to ignore.

Men in 2018 are facing a real problem, but not an unsolvable one.

Somewhere around our second or third year into the workforce, most men simply concede that loneliness and lack of real friendship is just “How it is” today and that it’s “Just Life”.

Heck, even your older mentors may have told you as much.

Eventually, the loneliness and isolation just felt like a normal, everyday feeling that every “man” is supposed to experience at some point.

But I’ve got news for you.

This isn’t how life is meant to work.

Building and maintaining relationships might have seemed like a passive activity when you were younger, but just like anything else in real life, it’s something that takes real work and devotion to maintain.

Saying “It’s just life” is a cop out to the reality of the fact that relationships, whether creating new ones or maintaining old ones, takes real, genuine work.

The inconvenient truth of the matter is that the need for male friendship has become a taboo subject someone signifying that a man is weak if he can’t function as a lone wolf.

And in the same way that our society has avoided addressing anxiety, depression, and suicide, we have avoided discussing our need for authentic male friendships to the point that most men feel awkward when they even think about trying to make new friends.

Quality friendship is a necessity for a well-rounded, happy life, for both your mental and your physical health.

So today, I’m breaking all of the stigmas and stereotypes and talking about why you, yes, you need to invest serious time and energy into cultivating high-quality friendships.

Check out the rest of the article at Knowledge For Men



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