Dating

4 Books Every Guy Needs To Read To Be Successful In Dating And In Life

May 14, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Dating |

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Dating, for a guy, is a pretty lonely ordeal. Most men don’t really talk about relationships the way women do. Nor do they often have the support that women do, either. So, it’s not surprising that a lot of men end up getting lonely and unable to find quality advice. 

Part of the issues that men face when dating is that they don’t know where to turn for advice—and often end up turning to the wrong sources. The biggest part of the issue is that guys often believe that relationship books are only “a girl’s thing.” 

That’s just not true!

While it’s true that relationship advice books are mostly bought by women, there are a ton of books out there that are meant to help men get the success they’re seeking out in love. Many of them are ideal for helping men get out of toxic cycles and into healthy, happy relationships.

If you know a guy who’s struggling in love, you might want to gift them one of the best dating books for guys—such as these relationship-expert approved titles below. 

 

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The Daily Man-Up: 10 Warning Signs To Look For Before Entering A Relationship

February 28, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Dating |

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1. They’re Manipulative

This is the biggest one. Both women and men do it. I see it all the time — someone getting a man to buy dinner or drinks with no interest of getting to know the person, or a man expecting sex for doing so. Manipulative behavior is often not seen at first because of the initial superficial interactions and the “puppy love” effect. Manipulation is when someone acts or uses something or someone with a maleficent or aggressive intention in order to induce a desired action. Manipulation is emotional abuse (Fjeltstad, 2014).

Other big ones to watch out for:
a) Guilt tripping someone into doing something they don’t want to do.
b) Intimidation, using fear, or verbal abuse for creating submission for some action.
c) Positive/ Negative Reinforcement (E.g. Only saying I love you only after someone does something “good” or pleasing to the partner).
d) Anyone who “presses your buttons” or uses your insecurities to get you to do what they want you to do.
e) Giving gifts with strings attached or crossing your boundaries often.

Someone who is manipulative must be in control. So If you find these circumstances to be the case, realize that no one deserves to be subjected to this kind of behavior.

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17 Women Tell Guys What It Takes To Be Good In Bed

February 26, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Dating |

1. Listening. When we say “right there” do NOT change what you are doing!! That usually means we’re close to an orgasm and if you change something it all goes away. And please make noise! Sex should be fun, noisy, sweaty and a good time!

2. If I’m saying YESOHMYGOD DONT STOP, try to keep it up, don’t stop, pull out and decide that is the time to switch positions. So frustrating.

3. If you enjoy it, let the girl know. It’s really awkward if the girl’s enjoying herself and moaning and the guy is just ninja-quiet. I know some guys are conditioned to be all quiet, but during sex, it comes off as weirdly contemplative and like you’re uncertain.

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The Daily Man-Up: Maintain Your Relationship By Treating It Like a Bank Account

February 14, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Dating, Man-Up |

In the first few years of a relationship, you and your beloved’s brains are bathed with a heady cocktail of chemicals that make you feel positively high for each other. And you can’t imagine ever feeling differently. Those middle-aged couples who sit silently staring at each other at restaurants? That will never be you two. Those friends you know going through an acrimonious divorce? No way you’ll ever find yourself in their shoes. You guys are different. Your relationship is surely above average. You’re destined to beat the odds in every way.

You get married and several more years go by. You argue more and have sex a lot less. You don’t feel as close, and sometimes you do stare at each other silently while digging into a Moons Over My Hammy. You’re not unhappy, per se, but you’re not really happy, either. You kind of feel like platonic roommates who enjoy each other’s company; you get along alright, but there’s a lack of depth, richness, and ardor to your relationship. The old spark is gone.

While the arc of this common story might seem like an inevitability, it’s not. Research shows that romantic love can last. You can beat the odds.

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The Daily Man-Up: 6 Reasons Why Women Always See You As Just a Friend

February 13, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Dating, Man-Up |

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Let’s set the record straight.

If women always tell you, “You’re a great guy but I don’t feel that spark…”

It’s because they don’t feel a sexual connection with you. And that’s most likely because you haven’t taken the right actions to facilitate that attraction.

You may be sweet and have engaging conversations. You make women laugh. You wait patiently until a girl’s comfortable with you.

That all builds rapport, trust, and comfort within a connection. But that’s rarely enough to have women desire intimacy with you.

I know this as true even without hearing your story. Easily 9 out of 10 times I’ll be right. People try to argue it’s not that cut and dry…but it is. 

Some men stay in denial. They keep trying to “friend” their way into romance and never flirt, often due to the advice of their female friends.

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The Daily Man-Up

December 18, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Dating, Man-Up |

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I know the other reason you avoid meeting women is because you’re scared of bothering them. You’re ashamed that you’re going to upset them or creep them out by saying hello.

This makes you feel like approaching women is somehow fundamentally “wrong”.

That’s bullshit, though. That assumes all women are going to have a miserable time talking to you.

We’re all searching for meaningful human connections — women included. It’s at the top of our list for living a happy life. Most people will entertain 30 seconds of conversation to meet someone that could change their entire world.

Many women will be so excited to connect with you, even if you’re inexperienced. You don’t need to be perfect to make good impressions. And with time, you’re only going to get better at engaging people and making connections.

For women who aren’t interested, that doesn’t automatically mean they hated the experience. They’re often flattered someone found them interesting or attractive. I see women all the time who are blushing or smiling even after they’ve turned down a guy.

But unavoidably, some women will see you talking to them as a “negative experience”.

Why is that such a big deal?

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The Daily Man-Up: The Mindset You Need to Talk to Any Woman

November 15, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Dating, Man-Up |

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The fear that holds you back doesn’t have to

Most men tell me they don’t approach for three main reasons:

  1. You feel you’re doing something wrong or shameful. You don’t want to creep a girl out or make her feel like you’re hitting on her. You don’t want to bother her. You’re worried what your friends, her friends, or people nearby might think.
  2. You don’t know what to say. You can’t seem to find the right words. You feel like you don’t know how to approach without something really cool or engaging to say.
  3. You’re worried about being rejected. You don’t want to face that moment when she shows you she’s not interested. Maybe you think she might even be harsh or disgusted.

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The Daily Man-Up

October 25, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Dating, Man-Up |

I know some guys that are virtually fearless. I’m talking about really tough guys, the type who don’t back down from nearly any situation, regardless of how dangerous it may be. But for some reason, the only thing that makes them hesitate is the thought of approaching a beautiful woman.

Without getting too philosophical, there’s a growing trend of young men who don’t have the romantic life they want. The big joke on internet communities and online gaming is being “forever alone” and not having a girlfriend. And it’s because we’re afraid. Afraid of looking stupid, afraid of being laughed at or ridiculed, but mostly, afraid of being rejected.

And I ask why, why are we so protective of ourselves? We would rather play it safe and feel unfulfilled than to take a risk and go after what we desire. The problem is, we’re the only ones that end up losing in these situations. As Wayne Gretzky said, we miss 100% of the shots we don’t take.

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The Daily Man-Up: 20 Lessons to Learn About Women And Dating

October 3, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Dating, Man-Up |

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Lesson 1: The #1 Myth About What Women Really Want Debunked

Men often think they can’t have the women they want because they don’t have enough money or good enough looks.

Let’s be real – money and good looks will get the woman’s attention, but that is all. It’s like a nice billboard advertisement it gets your attention but it doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll buy the product. The media has done a great job at making you believe in the erroneous assumption that money and six pack abs is the path to get your dream girl.

When you use money to take a woman out to nice dinners and to buy her gifts too early in the relationship, the woman will begin to think the man is trying to BUY her affection. Women see this as manipulation… and a LACK OF CONFIDENCE. Both of these are instant attraction killers. The woman may still answer your calls and let you take her out, but that is simply because she enjoys free stuff.

And who doesn’t?! Think about it.

You take this woman out and buy her stuff. You take her to a nice dinner. And then she heads home and meets the guy she really wants to be with. This guy does nothing for her except hang out, have fun with her and build tension yet he is the one taking her home while the other guy just dropped $150+ in one night on a date that lasted 1.5 hours.

After a certain point, money is meaningless. It ceases to be the goal. The game is what counts. – Aristotle Onassis

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The Daily Man-Up: 9 Signs of Male Insecurity That Turn Women Off

September 7, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Dating, Man-Up |

If a beautiful woman is insecure or shy, it doesn’t really matter to the majority of men.

Most men will still find her attractive and want to be with her even though she is a bit insecure or shy.

In fact, some guys will find it a bit of a turn on that the beautiful woman is shy and he can be more confident around her.

However, the same doesn’t apply for a woman’s attraction to a man.

Women are attracted to the emotional strengths of men such as confidence, high self-esteem and self-assuredness and turned off by emotional weaknesses such as insecurity, self-doubt and shyness.

What you may have noticed is that confident guys can easily attract women to get laid or get a girlfriend, whereas shy guys have a difficult time getting anywhere past the friend zone.

Some shy guys can get laid or get a girlfriend, but they don’t really have their choice of women because their emotional weakness turns most women off.

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