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Fact: Women Will Test You Ever Chance They Get

February 3, 2012 | 2 Comments » | Topics: Dating |

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It’s a fact, like the sun will rise tomorrow morning or the fact that I will get a boner from looking at pictures of skanks on the internet. Women will test you every chance they get. Why, you ask? They need to know that you have a backbone, that you’ll set limits, that you’ll stand up for yourself. It makes them feel safe when you won’t take any crap. It somehow provides them with reassurance that you are strong enough and confident enough to fight back when you’re provoked and that you’re capable of protecting them from danger. And not being able to pass these tests is the surest way to know that you will be going home with your head tucked between your legs and your right hand to console you from such a failure. Here’s a few examples of common shiet test thrown out by women with the corresponding correct and wrong way to answer and pass such tests.

“I’m mad at you!”

This is a fairly common one. I’ve had this one thrown at me from both a serious and playful side (more often playful).

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For All The Guys Out There Looking To Improve Their Inner Game, You Need To Read This Article.

January 30, 2012 | 1 Comment » | Topics: Dating |

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Basically, this is how I changed my life,

Starting Point

I was 25, only had 1 girlfriend who I lost virginity to. Small kid in highschool, I was the picked on, geeky kid. No real romantic involvement until my first girlfriend at 17(lasted 8 years). Had a crush on my best friend from 14-17, we hung out everyday, never really made a move(fml). I really believed no girl would find me sexy. I had never called a girl, flirted with one, gone on a date, none of that. At 25. This was 2 years ago.

However I had a lot of positives going for me. First, I had insane confidence in my abilities to learn and live life. Even though I didn’t think a girl would be sexually attracted, I have a great career, lot of interesting skills and a great life. I believed I had value and I trusted myself to act correctly. Second, I am a performer(actor, magician), since a young age I’ve loved being the center of attention, even in beta ways. This helped me be comfortable at opening and telling stories, even though stories had a lot of low value qualities in them.

Beliefs

From a young age, I realized I could get through school by being a class clown, backing down when bullied. Once that worked, and it was how my social circle saw me, any attempt to act as the alpha or popular was met with resistance. You see this all the time, you can take a popular kid, move them to a new school and next thing you know they are a goth kid getting picked on. The “alphas” are not alpha by special talent or ability, they took the role at a young age by chance, and continually were self-reinforced in that role. This means your “role” is achoice, and you can change it anytime you want.

It is pretty much proven that if you constantly think negative sad thoughts, you will be sad. If you think positive thoughts, you will be happy. We are what we think, and what we think is a controllable process. If you can’t stop thinking “I’m so worthless, I can’t attract a woman”, then you won’t be able to.

This is a natural process, and it is a good one. (within reason, when monitored) If you go through life looking for X, then you will find evidence for X where you might not have seen it, and ignore conflicting evidence. If you look for Y, then same thing, meaning you might ignore X. This has a huge impact on your life, and it places extreme importance on what you are looking for and expect to find rather than the data(experience) itself. So if you go out, expect to find women who are attracted to you, rather than looking for reasons they aren’t.

Random high quality people you meet have no idea who you are as a person. No one really does, and we can’t take weeks to judge people. So we expect everyone to self-broadcast their social standing, and if unsure we test them, if they respond to the test then we believe them. If you “Hack” the system, there is no way for them to challenge you. How could Brad Pitt prove he is a successful guy and sex symbol if stuck in some bar in the middle of nowhere with people that haven’t seen his movies? What would stop you from acting the same and convincing an entire bar you are a movie star?

If your goal is to get 20 #’s or to kiss 2 girls, and then you don’t get that due to random chance, then you failed. You feel sad, you wonder what went wrong. Screw that! You should focus on doing your best, having a good time. Don’t be outcome dependent! Just do your best, and trust yourself. This avoids collecting evidence against your progress and stops you from giving yourself reasons to fail. Often my goal is just “Make someone smile” when approaching a set. I always win!!!

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Cheat Code To Get Out Of The Friendzone

January 17, 2012 | 2 Comments » | Topics: Dating |

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I’ve been doing this for a couple months (now I have a girlfriend) and it has worked every time. When I am with a girl I am attracted to that I am friends with I use one line to take her for seeing me as a friend to seeing me as someone attractive. It goes:

“I am so happy we are just friends”

Yep, that’s it. This makes women think “why am I not good enough for him” and try to prove their worth. This has worked for my friends too. Try this and let us know how it goes. 😀

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Another Episode Of MTV’s Friendzone, Because Who Doesn’t Like To Cringe When Somebody Gets Their Heart Stomped Upon

January 9, 2012 | No Comments » | Topics: Dating |

God, I love this show. Partly, because we all have been there and can relate to the pain of being so close to someone, yet at the same time being so far away from them. As much as it is fun to laugh and cringe at the missteps of others, this show is an invaluable tool for others to see their positioning with persons they want to start a romantic relationship with. It also sheds light on the Anti-Friendzone Movement that is currently rippling throughout the entire internet. A movement defined by guys not being pussies anymore and not positioning themselves as friends and then trying to worm themselves into the hearts of women. A movement defined by learning the skills of social dynamics and seduction and taking what they want, when they want.

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Picking Up A Girl On A Plane Like A BOSS

January 6, 2012 | 6 Comments » | Topics: Dating |

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At the Terminal, a bit of Eye Contact

I decided to visit my friend in L.A. for five days over new years. We’re planning to chill out and work on some music. I’m at the airport terminal. I arrive about an hour early. I’m sitting there working on my laptop. This girl walks over and sits in one of the seat across from me. Really hot. Young, like 22. Redhead with blue eyes. Legwarmers over her skinny jeans. Right as she’s sitting down, I catch a look from her.

I consider talking to her. But there’s nowhere to sit near her. And I’m like fcuk it, I didn’t even really do my hair or even put much effort into my clothes. This trip was just to chill out.

They finally start calling our flight. I get into the line behind a different not-so-cute chick. I ask her if they called my zone, number 3. I make some joke about being in the twilight zone. She laughs. I look around and I notice that the hot girl from earlier is looking at us.

We start getting on the plane. Cute 22 year old redhead is a few people in front of me walking through the dock.

On the Plane, the Conversation Starts

On the plane I get to my seat. The gods are smiling down upon me. It turns out the hot young redhead is sitting next to me. I’m in the window seat. She’s in the middle. There’s this asian dude on her left with headphones on looking at photos on his camera.

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How to Text a Girl

January 4, 2012 | 1 Comment » | Topics: Dating |

Even though texting a girl is a relatively easier task then going up to a girl and asking her out on a date, there is still some skill and craftiness involved to ensure that you get from point A to point B when it comes to dating. Check out this awesomely informative video from the guys over at Simple Pickup which details out all the little intricacies required when it comes to texting a girl.

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Girls Need To Realize…

January 4, 2012 | 6 Comments » | Topics: Dating, TRUTH |

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Girls need to realize:
(this was written by a guy)

We guys don’t care if you talk to other guys.
We don’t care if you’re friends with other guys.
But when you’re sitting next to us, and some random guy walks into the room and you jump up and tackle him, without even introducing us, yeah, it pisses us off.
It doesn’t help if you sit there and talk to him for ten minutes without even acknowledging the fact that we’re still there.

We don’t care if a guy calls>OR TEXTS< you,
but at 2 in the morning we do get a little concerned.
Nothing is that important at 2 a.m.
That it can’t wait till the morning.

Also, when we tell you you’re pretty/ beautiful/ gorgeous/
cute/ stunning, we freaking mean it.
Don’t tell us we’re wrong.
We’ll stop trying to convince you.
The sexiest thing about a girl is confidence.
Yeah, you can quote me.

Don’t be mad when we hold the door open.
Take Advantage of the mood im in.

Let us pay for you!
dont ‘feel bad’
We enjoy doing it.
It’s expected.
Smile and say ‘thank you.

Kiss us when no one’s watching.
If you kiss us when you know somebody’s looking, we’ll be more impressed.

You don’t have to get dressed up for us.
If we’re going out with you in the first place, you don’t have to feel the need to
wear the shortest skirt you have or put on every kind of makeup you own.
We like you for who you are and not what you are.
Honestly, i think a girl looks more beautiful when she’s just in her pj’s.
or my tshirt and boxers, not all dolled up.

Don’t take everything we say seriously.
Sarcasm is a beautiful thing. See the beauty in it.

Don’t get angry easily.

Stop using magazines/media as your bible.

Don’t talk about how hott Chris Brown,
Brad Pitt, or Jesse McCartney is in front of us.
It’s boring, and we don’t care. You have girlfriends for that.

Whatever happened to the word ‘handsome’/’beautiful’
I’d be utterly stunned by a girl who greeted me
with ‘Hey handsome!’ instead of ‘Hey baby/ stud/ cutie/ sexy’ or whatever else you can think of.
On the other hand im not sayin i woulndnt like it ether ; )

Girls, I cannot stress this enough: if you aren’t being treated right by a guy, dont wait for him to change!!
Ditch his sorry butt, disgrace to the male population
and find someone who will treat you with utter respect

Someone who will honor your morals.
Someone who will make you smile when you’re at your lowest.
Someone who will care for you even when you make mistakes.
Someone who will love you, no matter how bad you make them feel.
Someone who will stop what they’re doing just to look you in the eyes….and say ‘i love you’ ..and actually mean it.

Give the nice guys a chance.

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Attention aspiring pickup artist, this is how you pickup a model on the street

December 29, 2011 | 4 Comments » | Topics: Dating |

Here’s a pretty awesome video of some dude on the street cold-approaching some model and spitting game at her like a fcuking Cassanova. Don’t try to break this video down on a step by step basis, just pay attention to the vibe that is flowing in their interaction and get a sense of how a natural operates.

This will come in handy on your journey to becoming that pimp daddy pickup artist, who can have any woman he so desires…

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Date + lay, learned about what makes a good date

December 28, 2011 | 2 Comments » | Topics: Dating |

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I had a date yesterday that went really well, ended up staying over at her place and had sex twice.

I learned a TON from this, and I think some of it might be useful.

I haven’t been on many dates. I’m more of a same-night lay sort of guy. To be honest, dates actually frighten me. So much of my AFC dating in the past was awful and anxiety-ridden, so I actually avoided standard dating.

This one went well. Here’s what I did to make it happen: I had a general plan of how it would go that wasn’t too specific. I met her near where she lives — this is crucial, it allows you somewhere to go later. I picked a starbucks in the middle of a promenade-style area. Gives us an obvious way to start the date, with the option of open-ended walking around checking stuff out.

First lesson: Have a plan, assume you’ll lead, but also be flexible.

After starbucks, I thought we would walk around. Turned out, she was hungry and suggested a bar with food. Right on! Happy to oblige. If I had tried to go along with my original plan, it would’ve been weird.

Second lesson: Take responsibility for moving the date forward, and do it before a venue feels “stale.”

I had good instincts both times. I moved us out of starbucks at a good time. And moved us out of the bar at a good time. By good time, I mean we were chatting, having fun, feeling good, and right as the conversation hit a natural transition point, I suggested we go. I didn’t wait until the venue became boring. And I didn’t wait for her to do it.

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On being an Authentic Man

December 14, 2011 | No Comments » | Topics: Dating |

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Seduction and game fascinate me. So many different thoughts, philosophies and theories combined, interpreted and reinterpreted to many different lives, lifestyles and contexts. I’ve taken in as much information as I can, and as I’ve begun to practise it I’ve developed a theory of my own behind it, as broad a concept in order to reach the root of what we consider game to be.

One of the great dismays of adulthood is that we cannot separate the aspects (or indeed lack thereof) of our lives; our work-lives, family-lives, love-lives and social-lives are unmistakeably intertwined due to a common factor – Ourselves. It’s easy to focus on one aspect. Like the basement nerd, or the workaholic, the mummy’s boy or even the player; none of these have particularly positive connotations, and they are unhealthy because the individual is struggling to find validation along a single branch of their life. Branches are a good metaphor for this, the further along you go the weaker the branch and the greater likelihood of a fall. That is to say, to seek validation in any one aspect can only take you so far, and you never know when you might lose that tenuous support.

A far stronger alternative is to be the tree trunk, which supports each branch flawlessly and continuously grows. To balance each different aspect and the responsibilities that come with it will provide an internal validation, you may look at yourself and say “Look at how complete the mastery of my life is, look how I can embody these roles as the same person, how I can be the dutiful son, the industrious worker, the social butterfly and the Casanova when other men are content to simply be one of these.”

I call this state the authentic man as a reference to Sartre’s ideas of ‘living in authenticity’. You face up to your responsibilities and truly own your own life. Each action you take has meaning because you have owned your circumstances, you have effected change by the strength of your will and the force of your action and the consequences, good or bad, are yours. You realise that when you do not act, you allow external forces to affect you, the action is not yours but the consequences are still owned by you.

This is perfect for seduction, when you have taken control of your responsibilities there is nothing that weighs on your mind, nothing to affect your state. Anything a girl asks about your life you have the perfect answer for, because you have refined and perfected that aspect. You are freed from AFC behaviour by this authenticity of action with regards to your thoughts. You do not shy away from your responsibilities; you do not shy away from the very instincts of manhood. You have no need to make declarations of affection to a girl; she already knows you want to be around her because your touch shows her this (kino). She already knows you want to get to know her because you ask the right questions to tap into the roots of her passions. She knows you find her gorgeous because the tone of your voice tells her your thoughts and your eyes are gazing into hers. You don’t suffer from fixations or oneitis because you have everything you need in life; you are just indulging your desires. You do not feel inferior or unsuitable to any girl because you are the complete man, and that is more any woman is looking for and the most a woman can ask for. You have no reason to feel challenged by another male in your pursuit even though they may seem superior to you in some aspect, because you outstrip him in all others. You will not feel any approach anxiety because you have nothing to be anxious about.

Taking control of your responsibilities and fulfilling them sounds like a lot of work, and people have become very successful with women without doing so. But I consider even taking steps towards living in authenticity to be vastly superior to the concept of the alpha-male and ‘faking it until you make it’, to fake it you have to constantly second guess your actions to make sure you’re acting in the ‘ideal’ way, you lock yourself in your own head. Whereas by actually staking stock and devising practical solutions to your life, you are given the confidence of a man who knows what he wants and how he gets it. That is the mark of a great man in the making.

I don’t mean to share an ideal state and then leave people to puzzle about to attain it. I wish I could say with authenticity (see what I did there?) that I have reached this state. I haven’t, but in working towards it I sometimes get glimpses of how it feels. Everyone will have to reach this in their own way, I only offer one idea which will not be novel to anyone familiar with anything self-help.

I sat down with a pen and paper and my favourite music in the background. I thought about my life, considered where I was successful and where I was failing. I was as open and honest with myself as I could possibly be. Then I wrote basic goals to get into the career I wanted to, to get the body I wanted to have, to have the interests and abilities I wanted to. I was specific in my desires, and the steps to take but I did not expect too much of myself. Now every evening before I go to sleep I write down a task list for the next day, I wake up, exercise and try to tick off every item, sometimes I don’t manage it, and I have good days and bad days, but every day I know I’m making a step towards living in authenticity.

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