No-Fap Is The First Step To The Rest Of Your Life With Women

June 25, 2012 | 26 Comments » | Topics: Dating |

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This process changes – and usually improves – the life of every man who even attempts it. Here’s the best part: You can channel that change and focus it on your sex life, if you choose to, and it will get you laid. IF you do it correctly, that is…. and don’t cheat.

Here’s how: you have a primal, almost irresistible urge to procreate. That biological urge, when mixed with your testosterone, is intended to motivate you to jump out of bed in the morning ready to fight and fcuk your way through the herd, leaving vanquished foes and satiated hoes in your wake. Unfortunately, our advanced brains and opposable thumbs over time have discovered an almost perfect and flawless cheat: Masturbation. After all, it’s so much easier, so much less of a hassle, to simply cut all the corners, skip through the level, and polish that platinum trophy really fast until the end credits roll.

Here’s where this wonderful thing we’re discovering called NoFap comes in: You, being the horny, over-sexed, perverted woman crazy fiend that you are, have a choice in how you get off.: Your hand or a vagina. You may feel like only one of those choices is viable, but that’s merely because it’s the EASY choice, so it appears to be the preferred one. Guess what: If you actually stop jerking off, and I mean STOP – eliminate it as a possibilty from your life (as I and many others have) – your sex starved brain and testicles will literally lead you out into the world and between the legs of a female. It just HAPPENS. Try it, you numbskull. You’ll see that I speak the truth.

“But….but…. Chinesegangster, that’s easy for you to say but I have bad acne, back hair, a harelip, and my breath smells like a circus chimp’s used diaper!”

Fine. Lower your standards and look again. The only reason your standards are so irrationally high in the first place is because of that damn computer screen you’ve been sitting in front of half your life. Hint: now that you’re no longer wasting your life in your comfy jerk-off chair, you will have plenty of time to apply Clearasil, shave your ape nape, and brush your teeth. NO MATTER WHO YOU ARE, THERE ARE REAL WOMEN OUT THERE WHO WILL HAVE SEX WITH YOU. They’re just waiting for you to poke your head into their personal space and say “Hello beautiful. You look bored. Can I help you with that?” Don’t believe me? Go to the Manga section at Barnes and Noble right now. There are three (3) nerdy girls on the floor at this very moment feeling lonely and unattractive, faces pressed into some crappy Japanese rape comic, dreaming of the day that someone like you comes along and says those exact words.

Stop mentally objecting to the wisdom of what I’m saying and automatically trying to make yourself the exception to this absolute rule. You’re not different, you’re not unique, and you’re not a hopeless case. You’re a MAN, and mother nature wants your penis to hang out inside wet vaginas. PORRN HAS BEEN COCKBLOCKING YOU FROM YOURSELF. SNAP OUT OF IT! Stop jerking off, and sex will happen to you. You will do it for yourself on an unconscious and biological level and you will literally marvel as it’s happening. And it will be FUN. Trust me, meeting and flirting with young women may be effort, but it sure as hell isn’t work.

I’m speaking undeniable truth here. This place has changed my life for the better, and I’m just like YOU.



How To Escape The Dreaded ‘Friendzone’

June 22, 2012 | 6 Comments » | Topics: Dating |



Sit down folks and let me tell you a story on how I not only entered the friend-zone but I managed to escape. Now I wouldn’t say I’m a novice to the seduction methods around here, but I am far from being good at it as you will see.

This story starts off with your typical boy meets girl (whom I will refer to as Kate) story. I met Kate at a local book store while I was out and about. I believe I went in to buy the hard back copy of one of my favorite books or a cook book. That is not important. What is important is that I spied this beautiful little Asian girl with a copy of John Keats’s complete work tucked under her arm. I quickly worked my way over to her and opened her with a “Is that for school or are you looking for the right romantic words to say to me?” She laughed and told me that she liked his works and it had nothing to do with her Masters. I told her that he was one of my favorite poets and recited one of the verses from a poem he wrote from memory. The look on her face told me that I had performed the equivalent of bringing her to a raging orgasm while she was tripping on ecstasy. I quickly made an excuse to leave and handed her my phone while I went to purchase whatever I was buying. By the time I had finished with my purchase I had her phone number, e-mail , and name already programmed into my phone. She even dialed her phone to make sure I could return the favor.

Over the next few weeks we went out a few times, but each date was unique and a bag full of mixed signals. One date she was buying me drinks and grinding against me while we played pool; the next date she was acting as nervous as if I had told her that Chris Brown was my personal idol. What had made it worse is that I still could not K-close her. By the third date I had grown tired of the game and started to shut her out, which normally works on most girls but on this one just made her grow even more distant. I finally asked her what was wrong and she explained that she was considering taking a job across the country after she finished her courses at the end of the year. She didn’t want to be in a relationship and wouldn’t do anything intimate (including kiss) if she was going to move. After a bit of discussion she asked if I would be ok with just being friends. I stupidly agreed because I had fallen under her spell.



Don’t “Be Yourself”, Be Authentic!

June 21, 2012 | No Comments » | Topics: Dating |

By Nick Notas

Nearly every “self-help guru” has preached, “just be yourself” at one time or another. Somehow, this single statement is supposed to change us into an all-knowing and ever-confident being that others want to be around.  Unfortunately, it doesn’t work that way.

What does that advice even mean? If I’m scared to express myself to new people, how is that going to help? If I don’t know how I’m supposed to act, how do I know what to fix? What you really need is a thorough understanding of who you are, what you want, and what’s important to you. Only then can you be your real self.

I spent a long time as a “shape-shifter.” Because I didn’t know myself, I would always adjust to what I thought other people wanted me to be.  It was emotionally draining and I felt lost to the point of depression. I was finally freed by the conscious decision to dig deeper and find the real me.

Here are five things that helped set me on the path:

Discover and go after what you want

We all have desires…why fight them? I used to be ashamed of wanting things for myself in life. It felt selfish, so I always put my priorities and needs after everyone else’s. The problem was, I never got around to making me happy and because of it I harbored resentment and a lot of negative feelings.

If you want a girlfriend, start talking to more women. If you want your dream job, hustle, start networking, and pursue it. If you want to lose that extra 40lbs, eat better and start an exercise regiment. Life is too short to wait for tomorrow. When you start fulfilling your own wants in life, a world of possibility opens up.

Stand up for your beliefs

What are your core values? Do you treasure honesty, integrity, open-mindedness, or just being a good person? Live through those values and hold yourself accountable when you betray them. Lead by example and others will take notice.

If someone challenges your beliefs, don’t be afraid to speak up. You don’t have to start a fight, but let it be known that you won’t buckle under pressure. Bootyociate with those who hold the same standards and don’t waste time with people who disregard what’s important to you.


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Is Porrn Keeping You From Dating Success?

June 19, 2012 | 5 Comments » | Topics: Dating |

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by Nick Notas

Chances are that if you’ve used the internet within the last 10 years, you’ve watched porrn.

Recently, there has been an online movement against overexposure to porrnography. Gary Wilson lead this rebellion by along with a now infamous TED talk. His overall message is that masturbating to porrn regularly can produce the following symptoms:

Some people argue that his findings are unscientific and unfounded. Whether you agree with the above is up to you, but I’m not here to argue those points. I’m here to discuss a different negative resulting from porrn that I know is true for many guys.

Consistent masturbation to porrnography stops men from meeting women.

I was skeptical, too and refused to believe it was possible. But over the last few months I’ve thought about my own porrn habits in the past and started digging further into the guys I worked with. 

Almost every guy I talked to had the same reason for their dating struggles — they weren’t meeting enough girls. They gave excuses like “I don’t have the time,” or “I just don’t feel like it.” So, I pried further to determine where this lack of motivation stemmed from.



5 Ernest Hemingway Quotes to Inspire Your Love Life

May 30, 2012 | 2 Comments » | Topics: Dating |

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By Nick Notas

After writing my Midnight in Paris review, I got excited to learn more about Ernest Hemingway. I loved readingThe Old Man and the Sea when younger but I wanted to get deeper and truly understand the Nobel Prize-winning author. I discovered the story of a courageous warrior, wonderful writer, alcoholic womanizer who lost his mind due to a genetic disease and committed suicide. Talk about a wild ride.

Despite all his faults, Hemingway was an intricate and passionate man with brilliant lessons on life. Many of his words can be applied directly to dating and inspired me to share them with you guys, enjoy.

I like to listen. I have learned a great deal from listening carefully. Most people never listen.

How often does someone introduce themselves only for you to forget their name three seconds later? Have you found yourself focusing on what to say next instead of just being in the moment? I used to struggle with remembering names before I realized that getting stuck in my own head prevented me from being a good listener. Don’t stress over finding the perfect words: just relax, listen to her, and the conversation will come much easier.

Never mistake motion for action.

Going out to bars or parties with friends is a great first step to meeting women. However, you have to be sure you’re making the most of your time. It’s good that you socialize with your friends but you should also actively seek out new people to talk to. It’s easy to feel like you’re accomplishing something when you’re not actually taking any risks. To make a significant change in your dating life, you have to consistently push yourself. Everyone gets nervous, but those who improve their social skills challenge themselves and expand their comfort zone.



5 Legendary Barney Stinson Quotes to Help You With Women

May 14, 2012 | 3 Comments » | Topics: Dating |

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by Nick Notas

I just started watching How I Met Your Mother (I know, I’m late to the party) and I’m constantly inspired by Neil Patrick Harris as Barney Stinson. His fearlessness, brutal honesty, unrelenting optimism, and impeccable sense of style make him a character I can look up to (most of the time.)

Granted, I don’t agree with him on certain points, but damn he has some nuggets of wisdom. If you’re ready to take advice from the epic NPH, then suit up!

A week? That’s like a year in hot girl time.

The longer you wait to take action with a girl, the less likely it is that something will happen. If you get her number, hit her up within 24 hours. If you want to get her on a date, ask her. If you like a girl you’ve been friends with, show her. If you think she looks cute in her dress, tell her. If you want to kiss her, go for it.

Why play the waiting game and “hope it happens”? That rarely works and you’ll end up losing more opportunities than you’ll gain. Strike when the iron is hot — before someone else does and while she’s still interested. Great women don’t wait around.

Dude, lots of chicks think that architects are hot. Think about that, you create something out of nothing. You’re like God. There is no one hotter than God.

Be proud of what you do! It doesn’t matter if you’re a software developer, an aspiring writer, a barista, or a male nurse. There’s value in every job and you should never downplay your abilities. Speak with passion in your voice.

Software developers influence everything we do. Writers fill our hearts and minds with imagination and have the power to change the world. Without baristas we’d all be tired allthe time (well, most of us.) And nurses, save lives.

How does your job benefit society? Who do you help? What’s exciting about it? Own your career path and I guarantee she’ll find it sexy.



How to Be a Gentleman That Turns Women On

May 9, 2012 | 2 Comments » | Topics: Dating |


by Nick Notas

In my previous post, I let you see the inner workings of my adolescent mind and how I evolved into the sexual man I am today. After I got out of school, I began applying the knowledge I gained from a younger age to the adult dating world. Initially, it didn’t go as well as I’d hoped.

The idea that women wanted to be desired held true more than ever before. However, the way I approached it required some tweaking. You can’t act like an overexcited sixteen-year-old and expect to get the same results you once did. By showing a little restraint and class while still being direct, I discovered an essential element of grown-up dating

Here are the lessons I’ve learned about being a sexual gentleman who gets women hot.

Have self-control

While being bold and sexually assertive is attractive, having the ability to restrain yourself is equally so. If you’re non-stop trying to get her in pants, you look desperate and can be a huge turnoff.

I had a friend growing up in school who always chased after the same girls that I did. He’d poke them, playfully push them, and constantly be saying sexual things. At first it would get them hot, but soon they’d question his intentions and the novelty would wear off.

I would have that same forward attitude but I would break it up by asking meaningful questions. By wanting to learn about girls and sharing stories about myself, I kept them intrigued. By listening to what they had to say with legitimate enthusiasm, I gained their trust. The combination is irresistible.

Be unashamed

I never apologize for my interest in sex and nor should you. Too many times I’ve heard guys drop a cute innuendo or be forward about their intentions, only to say sorry or “just kidding” a few seconds later. Any romantic tension the girl was feeling is cut short and the mood is lost.

Now of course, if you say something that gets her truly upset, apologize right away. Most girls will be fine with a slipup as long as it’s followed by a genuine apology. Which leads me to…



How to Be Yourself Around Girls

May 3, 2012 | 3 Comments » | Topics: Dating |

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by Nick Notas

Don’t be fooled, women know when you’re being genuine with them. Even when they can’t put their finger on it, something in the back of their mind is throwing up red flags.

One of the most important lessons I learned in dating was to be 100% authentic. I dropped the shenanigans, pre-planned lines, and started being me. It was the best decision I’ve ever made and instantly I began building better and stronger connections.

I advise you to start doing the same and feel how liberating it is. It’s time to throw away the masks and start being real.

Be genuine with your intentions

If you like a girl as more than a friend, then you should act as such. Pretending you have no feelings for her and only see her as a friend won’t get you anywhere. It will most likely leave you frustrated and in the friend zone.  You’re being untrue to yourself and to her.

Embrace your sexual side as a man – it’s natural. Learn how to create chemistry and tension by teasing, being playful, and through your touch. A woman has to feel that raw attraction before she can be romantic with you. You’ve got to make the moves if you want things to progress. Remember, if at any time she expresses that she’s uncomfortable, be a gentleman and respect her boundaries.

Be genuine with your questions

Common problems I hear from guys are “What do I ask her?” “What do we talk about?” There’s no stock answer that will make her jump into your arms, it all depends on you.

What do you want to know about her? What’s important to you in a woman? Ask her about the things you truly care about. Why ask her about the game last night if you really don’t care? Try topics that intrigue you: find out if she likes rock music, if she’s into psychology, if she goes hiking, or what her passions are.

Your conversations will improve and you will peak girls’ interests. Not many guys have the guts to be their normal, curious self and it often surprises girls. You’ll look confident while showing you actually want to get to know them. And that’s the secret, if you’re authentic in your questions and conversations, she’ll notice and respond positively.

Be genuine with your interests and passions

If you’re a film geek at heart or an aspiring writer, express it without shame. Hiding what you’re into will only come back to bite you — If you end up getting together, she’ll find out eventually anyways. Be honest from the start and she’ll respect you more for it.

You’d be surprised at how many girls will be interested in what you have to say. I’m a tech nerd at heart and I talk about it proudly. I explain it with enthusiasm and in an understandable way that gets her excited as well. I even turned my girlfriend into a Redditor. Plus, why would you want to be with someone who doesn’t appreciate you for you? There’s always someone who will.

Be genuine with your values

If a girl says something you truly disagree with, don’t be afraid to speak your mind. Of course, be reasonable and don’t start an argument, but express how you feel. Too many guys become “yes” men around women and will agree with anything they say. You’ll stand out and make a great impact on her by being bold and discussing your thoughts.

Hold your values and what you believe in closely — they make you who you are and give you character. You can’t try to fit into a certain mold just to impress someone or win them over. It’s a game you can’t win and you’ll end up resenting it in the long run. Be your own man.

Click here to learn how to become an irresistible gentleman.