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Some Monday Morning Motivation For All The Aspiring Casanovas Out There

November 14, 2011 | No Comments » | Topics: Dating |

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The following is from a speech by Artabanus in book 7 of Herodotus, which I’ve been assigned to read in school. Artabanus is advising Xerxes on taking action against the Greeks. A few things struck me:

“For if in each matter that comes before us thou wilt look to all possible chances, never wilt thou achieve anything. Far better is it to have a stout heart always and suffer one’s share of evils, than to be ever fearing what may happen and never incur a mischance.”

Quit sitting around scheming on how to make every approach perfect, and instead just do it. Mistakes are part of the learning process

“Moreover, if thou wilt oppose whatever is said by others, without thyself showing us the sure course which we ought to take, thou art as likely to lead us into failure as they who advise differently; for thou art but on a par with them. And as for that sure course, how canst thou show it us when thou art but a man? I do not believe thou canst. Success for the most part attends those who act boldly, not those who weigh everything and are slack to venture.”

Don’t take everything you hear in this community for granted. Try it yourself. Knowledge is one thing, but experience is another; you may be surprised at some of the conclusions you arrive at. The last sentence particularly rang true with me. Be bold, try shiet.

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Some More Awesome Pickup Artist Wizardry

November 9, 2011 | No Comments » | Topics: Dating |

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“We”: The Single Greatest IOI(Indicator Of Interest) I Know

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I wish I could find an article to back up what I’m saying but this just comes from experience. Let me tell a few stories. If you want the TL;DR it will be in bold at the bottom.

Story 1: A while back I was driving out from my college to a friend’s party out at their parents’ farm. The drive was already lengthy and was made even more so by the fact that the driver I was with got incredibly lost. There was the driver, myself, and a girl I had a crush on for a while (we’ll call her “Janice”), pretty much chilling and trying to not disappear off into the woods forever. To pass the time we started talking about the driver’s new boyfriend, and Janice and I start giving the driver shiet, turning everything she said into a dirty joke. Janice was laughing at all my stupid jokes, copying my mannerisms when she delivered her own jokes, all solid IOIs by themselves. But then somewhere inside that conversation, in the quiet following a pretty huge laugh-session, Janice says with warm sincerity “We make a good team, Coover”. Later that evening the whole party was abuzz with the rumor that Janice was feeling something for me. Were it not for complicated romantic conditions at the time I would’ve acted.

Story 2: While I was traveling down South I wound up about 3 hours away from a long-distance, super hot friend of mine (We’ll call her “Jane”). Even though I was still 3 hours away she drove every damn mile to come visit me (a solid IOI), and later when we went to a bar Jane insisted to buy all my drinks (another solid IOI). Despite all this I was still uncertain because, well, I had it in my head that she was way out of my league. But when we finished drinking and started walking back to where I was crashing, Jane laughed at a joke I make in reference to a book and jokingly said (as she grabbed my shoulder) “Oh, Coover. It’s so nice to have someone smart to talk to. We are so much better than everyone else in this town!”. An hour later we were making out.

Story 3: Out at a bar with friends, including a girl, we’ll call her “Melanie”, that I’d been friends with for a long time. Recently, however, I noticed feelings were changing. I started noticing her in a more sexual way, and she’d been making several comments recently about how much my appearance had changed and how good I looked (again, solid IOI). But it was the “We” statements in front of other friends that made me think there was more going on: “Coover and I have been friends for a long time. We have done so much together and we have always been there for each other”. That night we made out.

Theory: When a Woman Stops Talking About “I” or “You” and Starts Talking About “We”, She Wants You. Women, or at least the women I tend to attract, look for compatibility in potential sexual partners. A way they subconsciously express this desire for compatibility, and how they try to plant this idea of compatibility in yourhead and in friends’ heads is through the use of “We” Statements.

There are lots of IOIs that I’ve gotten good at noticing through experience but this is the one common one out of all my recent hook-ups, and, as the stories show, seems to indicate that they are ready to go there and then, as soon as you get a private moment with them.

Of course you don’t need to wait for the lady to start using “We” statements. Start using them yourself to plant the idea in her head. A few strategically placed “We” statements in a conversation will take all the tension to the next level.

We is powerful. Or is it ARE powerful?

TL;DR: You will know she is attracted to you when she stops saying “I” or “You” and starts saying “We”. Your primary goal in psychological seduction is to escalate things to “We”-talk.

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A Few Game Changing Lessons For All The Aspiring Pickup Artist Out There

November 8, 2011 | No Comments » | Topics: Dating |

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I just returned from a 7 day conference. I don’t want to go into detail about my experience because I personally don’t like reading field reports and I don’t want to give away too much info that might lead to who I am.

Basically this conference is in California, you stay at a hotel with about 1000 other people who all have similiar interests as you. Ages range from 19 to 70. I was in pick up mode the entire time. Getting as many numbers as I could and utilizing my time there as best as I could. I learned some game changing lessons and I would like to share them with you.

1) Everybody wants to like you, they just need an excuse to. This applies to males and females. Most people aren’t going to discriminate against you for your physical appearance. They want to talk to interesting people and receive value from socialization. Be that person to them. Initiate the conversation, tell an interesting stroy, tell a joke, compiment etc. Realizing this shattered my concept of social hiearchies, even preppy sorority girls with their noses in the air will give you the time of day if you can make them smile.

2) Be nice through your actions, not your words. I was a chronic sufferer of nice guy syndrome. The king pin of AFCs. I couldn’t understand why women didn’t like me. I was such a nice guy willing to do anything for them. After approaching and talking to so many people at the conference I realized that people DO like nice guys. The key is that you have to be nice through your actions. Holding the door open, picking up something dropped, buying drinks etc. Just be kind with your actions and don’t articulate it at all. As soon as you try to demonstrate your kindness through words you come across like you want something. Prove yourself through actions, not words.

3) Everybody is an asshole. Bootyhole is a relative term and everybody on earth has been one in some way at least a handful of times, including you. Never victimize yourself as a nice guy trapped in a world of assholes. Think about it and you should remember a time when you were a dick to somebody because you were having a bad day and didn’t give a fcuk.

4) Build yourself a strong sense of reality. I watched some of Tyler Durden’s real social dynamics. He gave some good advice that finally clicked with me at the conference. He said that women find a strong sense of reality highly attractive. Just think about it. An attractive woman gets approached all the time by douche bags who just want to have sex with her and AFCs who want to be walked all over. Then you come into the equation. A man who isn’t afraid to ride solo. You approach her and instead of trying to throw lines at her you are having a legitmately interesting conversation. You are confident and come off as a guy who knows what he wants in life. You seem completely free and the opposite of clingy which is exactly what women want.

But honestly, the best advice is this: Make your life awesome. All of these lessons will click with you naturally if you just try to make your life interesting and exciting. Don’t take no for an answer, if you have something you want to do, DO IT. No matter the cost, you only have one life to live, minds well enjoy it.

Conclusion: Be kind through your actions, not your words other wise you will come off as fake and needy. Everybody wants to be friends you just have to make them feel comfortable giving you that value. Everybody is a dick so don’t dwell on negative interactions and realize that even you can be a dick sometimes. Have a strong sense of reality and confidence, women will gravitate towards you when you don’t need them to make your life awesome and exciting.

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Kino Escalation 101: The Art Of Touching A Woman

November 7, 2011 | 3 Comments » | Topics: Dating |

Here’s a pretty awesome crash course in Kino Escalation, the art of touching and ramping up attraction through touch. If there’s one factor in your game that will help you get into her pants fast, it is definitely knowing how, when and where to touch a women and at what time. The instructors for your class is Love Drop and the one and only Mystery. Enjoy

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For All The Aspiring Pickup Artist Out There, This Story Will Put A Smile On Your Aspirations

October 28, 2011 | 9 Comments » | Topics: Dating, Story |

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I’m in a town I’ve never been to. I had to go to FedEx and found myself standing at the stop light waiting to cross. This girl asked if I knew how to get a taxi and I said, “Oh, I’m not from here.” I was going to just keep walking, but there was something there. I don’t know, it must have been me eyeing her up and down. She’s part Lebanese and Italian. She has Olive skin and green eyes. WAY OUT OF MY LEAGUE. But instead of being a little biatch and just awkwardly walking away I introduced myself and then said, “You know what? Follow me, I’ll find us a Taxi. I need to get somewhere too.”

I flagged down a taxi and we both got in. I made some jokes about both of us being foreigners to the city and then the guy who was driving us got upset because we got stuck in traffic, I said, “Oh, don’t worry about it man. I’m totally cool with being stuck in a car with a hot girl.” She shot me a smile and I said, “Hey do you think I could convince you to go to dinner with me tonight?” She was hesitant but then I said, “What do you have to lose, really? I mean it’s not like you have anything to actually do tonight, right?” She said yes and we were on our way. I let her change in my hotel room and I got showered and she dressed UP and we went to dinner. I treated her, we talked, we moved from superficial things to talking about our families and our lives. I asked her to tell me a secret and she ended up doing so. I made fun of her for being so nervous around me. We had a really good back and forth energy. I would make fun of her and then talk about something. I asked her about herself, and then she asked about me. I joked that she was actually a con artist and that she was seducing me at dinner so her con artist friends could break into my room and steal all of my clothes. And when we went back to get her stuff, she was going to stab me in the back with a syringe and as I was falling asleep, she would kiss me and the last thing I would see is her saying goodbye.

When we finished up at dinner she grabbed my hand and we walked up to my room. Everything was PERFECTLY set up. When we got inside she stood next to my bed and I said, “Can we skip the part where you stab me in the neck with a syringe?” she smiled and kissed me. I held her wrists in case she was a crazy murderess. But it turns out she wasn’t.

All of this JUST happened so excuse my rush. It was amazing and she is a really freaking awesome person. Thank you seddit. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

Cliffnotes: Met a girl way out of my league, took her out, got past all the stupid awkward obstacles and ended up making out with her. She really really likes me.

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She texted me last night when she got home. I forgot to mention that she was about to rape me, but had a 2 hour drive home and work early in the morning. She was in town because she spent the weekend with her friends and had left her car in another town over. Her message to me last night when she got home was filled with, “<3 <3 <3 <3” and “Thank you so much. You are so fcuking wonderful.” and other girly shiet like that. She wants to fly out to my state to see things. I’m freaking floored. I have no idea how this girl who is easily a 9 on my scale would want me. I’m seriously just this dorky, nerdy Asian engineer who sits around playing videogames and shiet all day long. She is half lebanese, half italian and has gigantic doe eyes that are green and a body that r/xsmall would murder me for. She’s basically some idealistic version of what I pretend I deserve. Whatever the case, I’m not going to question this shiet.

 

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Nice Guy Syndrome: What it is and why you should kill it with fire

October 24, 2011 | 33 Comments » | Topics: Dating |

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1. WHAT IS A “NICE GUY”?

A woman has a close male friend. This means that he is probably interested in her, which is why he hangs around so much. She sees him strictly as a friend. This always starts out with, you’re a great guy, but I don’t like you in that way. This is roughly the equivalent for the guy of going to a job interview and the company saying, You have a great resume, you have all the qualifications we are looking for, but we’re not going to hire you. We will, however, use your resume as the basis for comparison for all other applicants. But, we’re going to hire somebody who is far less qualified and is probably an alcoholic. And if he doesn’t work out, we’ll hire somebody else, but still not you. In fact, we will never hire you. But we will call you from time to time to complain about the person that we hired.

This reasoning right here is the epitome of “Nice Guy” thinking.

Basically a “Nice Guy” is someone who wonders why if they are so nice and good to women, why they won’t reciprocate (sleep with them)? The reason is: because they don’t have to, and no force in the world can change that. Let’s now get into the nitty-gritty of what’s wrong with being a “Nice Guy” (hereafter referred to as an NG).

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How To Improve Your Game With Women Dramatically: The Abundance Mentality

September 23, 2011 | No Comments » | Topics: Dating |

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I just wanted to put out a short note on the Abundance Mentality vs. Oneism as I sit on my break at work reflecting on the past few nights in the field and even at work dealing with customers.

For all those that suffer from a oneistic mentality… You have to do whatever you can to drop it. I’m still pretty AFC and pretty beta in many ways. But, one thing that has definitely boosted my game and helped out with socially calibrating is switching over to the abundance mentality. I used to get a girl’s number and direct all my focus in her direction. I’d blow off girls I was lightly dating or talking to. I had even blown off girls who showed heavy interest because I would smother one single girl. It has boosted my confidence, it has lowered my stress, and in general, I’m a happier person because I’m not worrying so much about one girl. My friends have noticed a difference. I don’t get pouty when a girl pulls back. I don’t worry or freak when a # close doesn’t respond to a text. I don’t freak and respond right away when they respond, and I don’t blow up their phones when they don’t. I realize… There are more girls on the planet than I can meet in more than one lifetime… And I’m gonna be perfectly fine.

I hope you guys don’t see this as a pointless post. But it changed and is changing my life. I hope it can help do the same for you.

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Really Helpful Evaluation Of Your Game With Women

August 24, 2011 | No Comments » | Topics: Dating |

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I have broken down the elements of pickup to evaluate what I need to improve on, I thought I’d share it with you guys.

Evaluate your game from 1-10 with each element of pickup.

Inner game

Sub-communication

Communication

Behaviour and Logistics

This list will help you determine what areas you need to work on. Hope it helps you. Cheers.

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