These lessons are taken from Reddit’s seduction area, which has valuabale tips, question and answers in helping you pick up women.
You have to get out of your comfort zone if you want to succeed in game. If you allow fear to run your life you will never get good.
Your physical appearance matters… but not even CLOSE to as much as you think. You need to look the best you can with the body you have, if you don’t like you she won’t either.
Don’t take anything personally. If you take rejection personally you will stop trying. Believe me these girls are just as fcuked up as you a lot of times. Stop taking shiet personally
Don’t assume anything negative. If you assume she hates you, you will freeze up, stop doing this.
Grow BALLS…. Stop crying about a blow out, stop reading seddit for hours hoping to find the perfect line and go try shiet. Advice is useless unless you do something with it. You don’t need to read more you need to try more.
Women like nice guys… They DON”T like WEAK GUYS. This doesn’t mean break out the Ed hardy shiet and pump iron it means set boundaries for acceptable behavior and don’t let her walk all over you, but don’t treat her like a slave… unless she wants that…
Creepy is the worst word in a girls vocabulary, learn NOT to be it.. If you are called it, game is over.
Don’t be afraid of girl friends… Friends who are girls?!?! Yup, they can teach you a lot about how women react.. Stop trying to fcuk everything that moves and learn from people
To win the game you have to be willing to lose the game… Most people play safe and bet small so when they lose it doesn’t hurt. Stop that BS and start putting yourself out there and taking risks. If you don’t go for the things that make you uncomfortable you will always be a pussy.
Self Confidence matters more then you know…If you don’t believe in you she won’t either and it will cause you to suck at everything you do. Fix this.. It’s more important than pussy.
Most of us realize that there is nothing we can do to ‘win’ or, ‘get back’ the man or woman of our dreams and for those of you who still believe you can win that special person back – are idiots.
Why would you want to WIN them back? Why would you want to do things that are over and above you just to impress them? As soon as your circus routine becomes tiring, s/he’ll get bored of you and leave your sorry ass all over again.
If it’s gonna happen, it’ll happen naturally. You can’t force anything. You should know this by now. Sure it’s tough to let go of your control, but you have to. Just let things unfold the way they are supposed to.
Anyway, for those of us who still have a tough time grasping this, the best way to ‘WIN’ him or her back is to carry on with your life.
It’s natural to get all goofy when someone leaves you. It sucks. Our first instinct is to want them back. We get lonely and we want to run to what feels familiar and comfortable. BUT keep in mind that you broke up for a reason. Maybe s/he got bored of you.. if that’s the case, why would you want them back? If they cheated on you why pine over them?
Get on with your life. 2 things will happen – s/he will come back to you, or s/he won’t. Either way the only thing you can do for yourself is keep living your life. The last thing they need to hear is your whiney, desperate voice.. asking ‘why, why are you leaving me…?’
Live a good life and show others that you are having a good time – regardless of having just been dumped.
The last thing you should do is walk around blubbering like a school girl. You have no choice but to stay strong and take care of yourself.
If anything your new care free attitude may even catch their attention and they’ll start to wonder why they left you.
You also may discover that you only want what you can’t have. That pain or desperation you are feeling is only because you just lost something. Once you start moving forward you may realize that they really never had much to offer you in the first place. Or maybe they did – but again, your only choice is to be strong and walk on.
A couple weeks ago I wrote an article about getting the girl of you dreams, and although it served to get you in the mindset that getting the girl of your dreams wasn’t a fantasy reserved for characters in books and movies, it really didn’t detail out the necessary steps to get your dream girl. So lets begin. The first step is attitude. Everything begins with attitude. Whether you’re trying become an awesome surfer, a heralded writer or in this case a mack daddy, if you don’t have the proper attitude to begin with, you might as well give up, because you’re already dead in water. If you believe that you won’t and can’t meet an awesome girl that you can share your life with, you won’t. It’s that plain and simple. So the first step is to have the proper attitude and that requries you to ditch all the negativity and nurture a mindset that will aid you throughout your journey. There will be plenty of external obstacles in your way and you don’t need to create more, especially one’s that are self imposed. So get rid of the word ‘can’t’ from you vocabulary and go out this weekend with the mindset that you will and you can meet an awesome girl and that folks is all she wrote… for now. I’ll be back next week with step two. Have a good weekend everybody!
In my previous post, I had mentioned that the art of seduction is a craft and a skill that is developed through constant learning and practice. Similarly, playing a guitar like fcuking Slash doesn’t happen over night and takes hard work, dedication and the ambition to devote countless hours to hone that craft to acheieve such a level. I want to show you guys a few videos of pickup artist in the field, who have put in the time and effort to be the best of the best at seduction, in order to show you that attracting women is a skill that can be learned by anyone who is willing to put in the work.
This one goes out to all my socially inept bretheren who have been unlucky in the area of picking up women. The weekend is upon us and it is prime time for all hot girls to ditch their business casual attire and to slap on some skank, some slut and some hoe-wear in an attemp to bait and lure men that they consider of value. And while you’re sitting in the corner of the bar, emptying your resouces into looking like a wallflower and waiting for her to approach, some douchebag from down the way is all up on the girl of your dreams and your twidling your thumbs wondering why she is not on your dick. The night ends with countless excuses and rationalization as to why you’re walking home alone and not boning that girl that gave you a smile and a glance earlier in the night.
Where am I going with this post you ask? This bullshiet of not having what you want ends here. I firmly believe with all my heart that we can have anything we want in life as long as we are willing to put out the work, the sweat and the tears to achieve it. If you want to be climb Mt Everest, you can do so. If you want to be a millionaire, you can be so and if you want to hook up with the super hot girl that was sitting at the bar, you can do so. But first we need to recognize that there is a process and that there is work involved in acquiring women of a high caliber. Some guys are blessed to have natural game but for guys like you and me we need to study, practice and apply the art of seduction.We must learn the rules of engagment. We must get rid of our old set of beliefs that have debilitated us for so long. We must develop our inner game and change our frame of reference. We are the prize, not they. We must be men and not boys.
Is it worth it? All the work, all the studying, all the time spent in the bars and the clubs, all the rejections, all the fake phone numbers, all the times you will be placed in the friend zone, all the uncomfortable silences and all the awkward dates. Is it really worth it? To share a life with the women of your dreams, who fits all your criteria and not settling on the girl that you weren’t really interested in, but who actually gave you the time of the day….I think so.
This one goes out to all the guys who are yearning for a life with beautiful women in it, but are hesitant to take the first step due to overwhelming fear of rejection. If you’re going to put yourself out there, the first thing you definitely need to prepare for is rejection. Unless you’re Brad Pitt, you will get rejected, it’s a fact. Now the trick is to not let those rejections interfere with your confidence with women and to use those rejections as a calibration tool to adjust your technique when it comes to approaching the next girl. Check out this video from Daygame.com which has an awesome little pep talk when dealing with rejection.
I can’t say for sure that I know women well but I know for a fact that they love all that astrological and metaphsycial crap that men could give a rats ass about. If you need a technique to get in close with a girl, definitely be able to read palms. Not only will you impress her with your seemingly uncanny feat of being able to read her, but you will also be able to get touchy feely with her.