Dating

A Definitive List Of Signs That A Girl Is Interested In You

December 10, 2014 | 7 Comments » | Topics: Dating |



These are helpful things to look for when trying to gauge attraction.

If you’re talking to a cashier and she tells you for any reason when she gets off work, she wants you to come back.

If a girl gives you her number, on some level she is interested. Meaning she gives it to you without you prompting her first, though often if she gives it to you after you ask her it still means she’s interested* If a girl repeatedly mentions how she wishes she had a nice guy to date, she is interested.

If a girl asks about your relationship status out of the blue, she is interested.

If a girl you don’t know approaches you and asks for the time, but then lingers in your vicinity, she wants you to come back up and approach her because she is interested.

If a girl who is not a best friend type suggests watching a movie when you two are hanging out alone, she wants something to happen. She is interested.

If a girl says she “needs to talk to you”, but then it ends up being something really stupid like “I don’t know what colour to dye my hair”, then she probably chickened out of telling you she likes you.

Physical touching while a girl is having a conversation with you usually means she is interested.

Any time a girl seems to giggle WAY more than she should during a conversation, it means she is interested.

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5 Reasons to Stop Putting Women On Pedestals

December 5, 2014 | 2 Comments » | Topics: Dating |

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by George P.H.

If you’re a man, you have to agree there’s something magical about women. Like a beautiful sunset, a snow-capped mountain or a gorgeous painting, the right girl will make you lose your breath.

It’s all too easy to get overwhelmed by this feminine beauty, whether internal or external. When this happens, men put women on pedestals and treat them like objects of admiration instead of real people.

In my case, it took some rough wake-up calls to realize that girls are, more or less, just like us. When I finally “got it,” girls started hitting on me a lot more often; my relationships with girls improved tremendously.

I’d like the same change to happen for you. To make that happen, here are 5 reasons to stop putting women on pedestals.

1. This Just In: Women Are Human!

Imagine you’re on a date with a girl who ignores everything you say and just keeps complimenting your looks. No matter how amazing or into you she is, you’ll be creeped out since she likes you superficially and doesn’t care about the real you.

This is how girls feel about guys who place them on pedestals.

Yes, women are amazing. They look beautiful and being around them feels beautiful. But when you admire them instead of communicating person-to-person, they can tell you’re being shallow and fake from a mile away.

Admiring the opposite sex is one of my favorite pastimes, but remember that women are people – not objects to be admired!

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Being an Introvert Is No Excuse

September 10, 2014 | 3 Comments » | Topics: Dating |

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By Nick Notas

I see a lot of guys who are afraid to challenge themselves socially using the excuse: “I’m an introvert.” They claim that because of this, they don’t have what it takes to become good at connecting with women. They believe their brains aren’t wired that way and there’s nothing they can do about it.

Here’s something that might shock you…

I’m an introvert! Yes, me, the guy who’s always preaching about pushing yourself to meet new people.

How is that possible? It’s because the real difference between introversion and extraversion is often misunderstood.

Most think that being an introvert automatically means you’re shy and lack confidence. Therefore, an extravert is confident and social. It’s not true at all. While there are correlations, the distinction between the two comes down to:

How you recharge or expend your energy.

Introverts tend to lose energy in large social settings like parties, bars, clubs, and larger groups. They feel drained and to regain that energy they require alone time or intimate interactions. They tend to feel best when with small groups, close friends, or relaxing on their own.

Extraverts tend to lose energy when they’re alone and it can actually frustrate them. Instead, they feel refreshed when they are surrounded by many people and in vibrant environments. All that energy empowers them and gives them the boost they need.

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A Dose Of TRUTH For All The ‘Nice Guys’ Out There

September 8, 2014 | No Comments » | Topics: Dating |

Guys are taught to be nice to women and that women like nice guys. We’re told that girls like nice guys, bombarded with romance stories of guys going above and beyond for women they care about. That the guy who stands outside a girls window at midnight playing music will get the girl etc.

When really, 99.9% of the time, doing these things for a girl you like just comes off as a creepy or makes her not respect you. The reality is girls like a lot of different things, but overall, women want a guy who’s independent and they have work to get their attention. Guys are similar in this aspect. A lot of us, when it comes to dating, we don’t want a girl who’s too clingy. This doesn’t mean hard to get. I’ll use an example. Texting. If you’re always free, and always available to a girl, you become less attractive. If she texts you, and you respond immediately every time, she’ll think you’re always free and don’t have a life. If you’re out doing things, and respond "Hey, was out fishing with buddies, what’s up? Grab a drink tonight?" You have a life outside her, she’ll want to be a part of it if she likes you.

It’s a weird thing being a guy. If we’re attractive to the girl, we can do a LOT of things that would ruin it for any other guys and she’ll stick around. I’ve done my fair share of stupid things when it comes to dating, things I look back on and cringe. A lot of these things worked though.. Sad part is, a lot of those messages work if the guy is attractive. Attractive guy walks up and says some stupid pick up line? A lot of girls will laugh at it, no matter how dumb or sexual. Thing is, we can all be attractive if we carry ourselves well, and dress appropriately. It doesn’t mean following fashion and being obsessed, just know what you look good in, and wear your clothes well. For example, I’m a southern guy at heart, I love the outdoors, and I love being comfortable. If I’m going out to a bar, I’ll wear jeans, a comfortable tshirt, and a hat (I’m bald), but I wear these things well, and I get a lot of compliments.

Being nice doesn’t work. Be yourself, have your own life outside of women. Don’t bend over backwards because you somehow think she’ll sleep with you if you help her move. Do things because it’s the right thing to do. If you like a girl, and she asks you to do something, imagine it’s one of your guy friends or a girl you’re not attracted to. If you’d still do it, then go ahead. If you’re at the point where she’s treating you like a friend, then that’s likely all she wants. If you’re looking to date a woman and she’s not interested move on or be a friend. Ask her for advice, see if she has any friends that she thinks would be interested. Ask if she’ll come out and help find a date with you. Don’t become ‘friends’ with women just for sex. If that’s what you want, you have to find it outside of that area.

– MoreWhiskeyPls

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Are You Being Selfish Enough?

August 6, 2014 | No Comments » | Topics: Dating, Life |

by Nick Notas

“What do I want?”

When’s the last time you asked yourself that question?

I bet it’s been a while. Especially when it comes to women, you’ve likely asked yourself what she wants. What will look good in her eyes, get a laugh, or make a good impression? What will make her (and only her) happy?

For a long time, I focused on ensuring everyone around me was satisfied. I became a passenger in my own life. My actions were based on what I thought would make people like me. I even felt guilty for just thinking about getting what I really wanted.

People would ask favors and I would say yes when I didn’t want to. I’d analyze my words to make sure they were phrased to my audience. I hid my opinions out of fear of being rejected even when I felt I was right.

I was miserable, frustrated, and always got the short end of the stick. I didn’t have the life I hoped for and I blamed everyone else. You know what changed it all?

I started putting myself and my needs first. I became “selfish” — and it’s one of the best decisions I’ve ever made.

I’m not advocating disregarding other people’s feelings or becoming a total douchebag. I’m talking about fulfilling your needs before fulfilling the needs of others, also known as “You can’t truly love someone else until you love yourself.”

If you’re not honest with yourself, you’ll always struggle. You’ll struggle to build genuine connections and become self-confident. You’ll struggle with independence and not being needy. And you’ll build resentment and lash out against others as a result of this frustration. It’s a vicious cycle of unhappiness.

My goal is to show you why supporting your own needs plays a critical role in your happiness. Here are some of the lessons I’ve learned by making myself priority #1:

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How To Avoid The Friendzone

July 31, 2014 | No Comments » | Topics: Dating |

by Adonis

Most guys make the mistake of making friends with a girl first in the hopes of working it into a meaningful relationship later.

This couldn’t be more wrong. Not only are they wasting their time and money on the girl, but they are also digging their own graves.

These men wait around with their heads down in the hopes that she will change her mind and become romantically interested in them. However, these men fail to recognize the most basic facts: If she wasn’t interested in you romantically in the beginning, what makes you think she will change her mind later?

What makes you think she’s not using you as a surrogate boyfriend until she finds somebody she really wants?

What makes you think that she isn’t just around for the ride while you spend your money and time on her?

The "Friendship Zone" is a trap… a trap so elaborate and strong that freeing yourself out of it is about as easy as climbing Mount Everest.

To her, being friends with you means she doesn’t have any sexual attraction towards you or have any romantic interest in you. You’re simply around to kill boredom or until she finds something else better to do.

She may at one point in time have found you attractive, but since she’s spent enough time with you, she now believes you are as challenging as a game of checkers with her grandma. You simply do not stir the electricity in her body and that’s why you are who you are: A Friend!

More often than not, once a girl has made you a friend, getting her to think of you romantically is damn near impossible. And this is what you’ll hear:"Can’t we just be friends?"

Just because you get along with her and are compatible with her in a lot of areas doesn’t mean you are compatible intimately. Besides all this, she knows you too much already, all the sense of being mysterious and being a challenge is already gone. You are basically in arms reach for the girl and about as exciting as a G-rated movie on a Saturday night.

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The Relationship Manifesto: What To Do After You Get the Girl

July 22, 2014 | 7 Comments » | Topics: Dating |

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By Soupertramp

Relationships are like the Big Bang of pick-up. All the rules break down. There are no routines to fall back on, and you are forced to reveal your truest self. What follows is a short list of principles I’ve found to be true in most relationships and for most (healthy) women. They are not rules. Think of them more as guidelines that can help you stay healthy, positive, and open while keeping things in perspective. Bombs away.

1. WOMEN WANT TO HAVE FUN

The old song is true. Girls just want to have fun. If you and your girl don’t have fun, don’t expect her to stick around. This is why, in surveys, women consistently list a sense of humor as the most desirable trait in a partner. It is really difficult to overstate how much this is true.

1a. Here’s what this means for you:

Learn to have fun at any time, no matter what you are doing. And don’t do it for her. Do it for yourself. If you can develop a sense of self-enjoyment, you will never be bored. For example, if you and your lady are walking, and you see a jungle gym, and she squeals and makes a break for it, don’t sulk and quietly wait for her to finish playing. Instead, run as fast as you can, push her out of the way, climb to the top, rip your shirt off, and scream, “I am the king and this is my kingdom! You will never defeat me, infidel!” And when she tries, pounce on her and tickle her until she pees in public. It doesn’t have to be that extreme, of course. Throw popcorn at her during a movie. If she drags you into a women’s clothing store, pull some shiet off the rack, try it on, and ask the clerk’s opinion. Tackle her into bed. Smile. Laugh. Make some memories, for fuk’s sake. Be playful, and never, ever say no to fun.

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8 Misconceptions of the “Alpha Male”

June 25, 2014 | No Comments » | Topics: Dating |

by Nick Notas

Especially in self-improvement and pickup circles, men love to preach about what “class” of male you should be. If you’re an alpha male, you are the leader of the pack and get all the women. If you’re a beta male, you are a loser push-over that no one will ever love.

It’s all nonsense and the classification is extremely harmful. Men become so obsessed with this idea that they base every action on whether or not they are being “alpha”. They enjoy laughing at weak beta males and feel superior because of it.

What’s funny is that I’ve noticed the men who are most vocal about this are usually the most insecure. They have no idea what it means to be genuinely confident. They use arrogance as a way to protect themselves from having real connections with people. They need to prove themselves as true men by overcompensating. You can almost hear them screaming “Look everybody, I am an alpha male! Hear me roar!”

I’m here to disprove what many people believe makes an “alpha male” and show you what it means to be a real, confident human being.

1. You’re not supposed to feel any “sissy” emotions.

Alpha males claim that you shouldn’t feel fear, anxiety, sadness, loneliness, shame, or self-doubt. If you do, you’re supposed to ignore, avoid, and shove those emotions away.ALPHA ALL THE TIME.

Sorry, but these are normal human emotions that everyone experiences. Without them, you will struggle with empathy and relating to others. The key is to not bury these emotions but to learn how to manage and accept them. Trying to escape them only intensifies their control over you.

Yes, your day-to-day life and outlook should not be ruled by these emotions. But you will feel them at some point and that’s perfectly okay. Remind yourself that it is normal, temporary, and does not dictate your overall character. Have the courage to work through them and challenge your comfort zone. Action will lead to further confidence.

2. Attraction is everything when meeting women.

When men get into dating advice they think that you have to “game” women constantly. If you let up with your flirting, teasing, sexual innuendo, sarcasm, cockiness, or physical contact for even a second she’s going to walk away. They believe that you always need to demonstrate your value and spike attraction to be a ladies man.

Then they have conversations like:

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