by Muhammad Rizwan Aseem
When I was 22 years old, I spent time going out with my friends, talking to my girlfriend all the time, spending time smoking-up, and generally being an a$$.
10 years later I discovered a secret that helped me achieve and learn more in 1 year than I had in all the previous 10 years.
Here’s the secret for you to apply in your life and get results and success that you’ve never even dreamed possible.
Invest your time in the following activities and you will gain more power, money, friends, love and affection.
Your friends will look up to you for your courage to do the things that they’ve only just dreamed about, your family will look up to you and be proud of your many achievements.
Your colleagues will become jealous of your stratospheric success. They will look towards you for advice on how to become successful like you.
If you don’t do these things, 10 years down the line you will wonder where all your time went, what you did wrong to become such a failure.
Your friends will forget you as a has-been, and your family will treat you like that ‘bum-sibling’ they have.
Here are 5 things you should invest your time in everyday to become a success.
by Nick Notas
Think of an important goal you wish you could achieve.
Something that really intimidates you. Something that you haven’t begun working towards because it challenges your comfort zone.
That could be…
Getting a job (or a better job). Making more friends. Getting in shape. Writing a book. Or meeting more women – both in-person and online.
So why haven’t you taken any steps to reach that goal?
Whenever you undertake a new endeavor that makes you feel vulnerable, your mind runs wild trying to talk you out of it. Your self-doubt becomes deafening and all you can think about are the worst possible scenarios.
This Is What Happened When A Photographer Came Face-To-Face With One Of Antarctica’s Most Vicious Predator
Robin Williams was so much more then a great comedian, he was one of the best actors of my generation. This clip encompasses everything I came to love when I watched him. One of the few people I would pay to see his movies based solely on the actor..
Take a minute and watch this clip. We can never truly know the demons others carry, may you find piece Mr. Williams…..
by Nick Notas
“What do I want?”
When’s the last time you asked yourself that question?
I bet it’s been a while. Especially when it comes to women, you’ve likely asked yourself what she wants. What will look good in her eyes, get a laugh, or make a good impression? What will make her (and only her) happy?
For a long time, I focused on ensuring everyone around me was satisfied. I became a passenger in my own life. My actions were based on what I thought would make people like me. I even felt guilty for just thinking about getting what I really wanted.
People would ask favors and I would say yes when I didn’t want to. I’d analyze my words to make sure they were phrased to my audience. I hid my opinions out of fear of being rejected even when I felt I was right.
I was miserable, frustrated, and always got the short end of the stick. I didn’t have the life I hoped for and I blamed everyone else. You know what changed it all?
I started putting myself and my needs first. I became “selfish” — and it’s one of the best decisions I’ve ever made.
I’m not advocating disregarding other people’s feelings or becoming a total douchebag. I’m talking about fulfilling your needs before fulfilling the needs of others, also known as “You can’t truly love someone else until you love yourself.”
If you’re not honest with yourself, you’ll always struggle. You’ll struggle to build genuine connections and become self-confident. You’ll struggle with independence and not being needy. And you’ll build resentment and lash out against others as a result of this frustration. It’s a vicious cycle of unhappiness.
My goal is to show you why supporting your own needs plays a critical role in your happiness. Here are some of the lessons I’ve learned by making myself priority #1:
Setting goals is a fundamental component to long-term success. The basic reason for this is that you can’t get where you are trying to go until you clearly define where that is. Research studies show a direct link between goals and enhanced performance in business. Goals help you focus and allocate your time and resources efficiently, and they can keep you motivated when you feel like giving up.
1. Think about the “big picture.”
Ask yourself some important questions about what you want for your life. The answers to this question can be as general as “I want to be happy,” or “I want to help people,” or “I want to be fit.”
- These general statements can help hone in on the things that really matter to you. Recognizing the things you value will guide your decision-making and keep you focused on your end goals.
- Think of the answers to your “big picture” questions as things you hope to attain 10, 15, or 20 years from now.
2. Break the “big picture” down into smaller and more specific goals
Consider areas of your life that you either want to change or that you feel you would like to develop with time. Begin to ask yourself questions about what you’d like to achieve in each area and how you would like to approach it within a five year timeframe.
- In terms of your career, you may ask yourself what your ideal job is. What steps do you need to take to get that job? What are the roadblocks? Do you need a specific degree or certificate?
- With financial goals, you may want to consider where the money will come from. How much money you will need to live comfortably? What are the best ways to spend or invest money? Do you want a house, new car, or to begin a retirement plan?
- When it comes to family, do you want to have children, and if so, when? Do you want to have biological children, or are you open to adoption or having stepchildren?
- In thinking about romantic goals, you may consider the type of relationship you want (long-term partner, marriage, open-relationship, etc.), and how you will prioritize the time spent with a partner. What are the characteristics of a mate that make them a good fit for you?
- In terms of education, think about what course of study you’d like to pursue. Are you going to school to further you career? What types of courses do you need to complete for advancement at work? Are there alternate ways to enter the career you want, like apprenticeships or internships?
- In thinking about physical goals, consider whether changes need to be made to make you healthy. What can you do to maintain good health into old age? Think about whether there are specific physical challenges you want to meet such as a major mountain climbing expo or a marathon.
The German photographer Ralf Brunner made a deeply moving photo-documentary depicting the last 4 years of a heroin addict life with AIDS. He shows us the depression and feeling of a situation none of us would want to be in. Extremely disturbing at some points, but it really shows depth of emotion in every photograph. You can look at one and feel depressed, sad, lonely and feel the unbearable pain suffered by this man.