Life sucks. (37 years old). Most days, I consider killing myself for being such a waste of human existence. Ashamed of being a male human. Feelings of inadequacy.
Like I can’t believe I was the fastest sperm that came out of my father’s balls. Unable to attract a woman (despite no physical defects) in an age where casual sex is not just the norm, it is like breathing air. It feels like I wish I had some sort of disease or crippling physical defect that would at least give me an excuse for not having done it.
It has affected my confidence and self esteem (from work, to relationships with friends and family) and basically shattered me in ways not many would understand. The longer time passed (I am talking about my early 20’s), the more anti-social, afraid to just interact in the society I became. Women could sense the awkwardness, the shyness, they could sniff it out. Like I had a tattoo on my forehead that said “VIRGIN”
In my later 20’s, I became extremely bitter, full of hatred for myself, women, successful normal men.
In my 30’s, it became less about the sex and more about the not having any intimacy of any kind. Not knowing what it feels like to kiss a girl, make out, cuddle, anything.
So far I have refused to pay for it as then I think of it as being unable to naturally get a woman. It would still make me a freak. I have no issue with people paying for it, but usually people who pay for it, have already attracted women normally without it, and just want physical sex without effort of dating and etc…. So it is not the same.
Writer and reporter, Richard Deitsch asked his Twitter followers to share photos that capture important moments in people’s lives. Here are some of the most memorable shares.
We have all read about people who are successful briefly. They win a gold medal, make a fortune, or star in one great movie and then disappear.…These examples do not inspire me!
My focus and fascination is with people who seem to do well in many areas of life, and do it over and over through a lifetime. In entertainment, I think of Paul Newman and Bill Cosby. In business, I think of Ben and Jerry (the ice cream moguls)…As a Naval Officer, husband, businessman, politician and now as a mediator and philanthropist on the world stage, Jimmy Carter has had a remarkable life. We all know examples of people who go from one success to another.
These are the people who inspire me! I’ve studied them, and I’ve noticed they have the following traits in common:
They work hard! Yes, they play hard, too! They get up early, they rarely complain, they expect performance from others, but they expect extraordinary performance from themselves. Repeated, high-level success starts with a recognition that hard work pays off.
They are incredibly curious and eager to learn. They study, ask questions and read—constantly! An interesting point, however: While most of them did well in school, the difference is that they apply or take advantage of what they learn. Repeated success is not about memorizing facts, it’s about being able to take information and create, build, or apply it in new and important ways. Successful people want to learn everything about everything!
They network. They know lots of people, and they know lots of different kinds of people. They listen to friends, neighbors, co- workers and bartenders. They don’t have to be "the life of the party," in fact many are quiet, even shy, but they value people and they value relationships. Successful people have a Rolodex full of people who value their friendship and return their calls.
They work on themselves and never quit! While the "over-night wonders" become arrogant and quickly disappear, really successful people work on their personality, their leadership skills, management skills, and every other detail of life. When a relationship or business deal goes sour, they assume they can learn from it and they expect to do better next time. Successful people don’t tolerate flaws; they fix them!
We are the first intelligent animals to know that death is inevitable and that will happen to us some day. It’s a scary thought. However, death may actually be the most beautiful thing we have. Right now we believe that we have one consciousness, but we don’t. Our consciousness is incredibly complicated. The brain has multiple neuronal groups, each responsible for a small part of our whole conscious. And each of those neuronal groups are made up of billions of individual neurons. When our consciousness is being expressed, it’s actually expressed through the firing of electric current through groups of neurons, so it’s always different every fraction of the second. We are actually continuously re birthing and dying in our minds, but our brain makes it seem as though it’s one continuous entity. It’s beautiful. We are merely constructs of the mind, and the mind is constructs of biology. Biology is a construct of incredibly complex chemistry down to the molecular level, and each molecule is a construct of the most fundamental physics that govern our universe, all gaining mass through the Higgs field that runs through the entire universe.
If you really think about it, our consciousness is based on physics, therefore it is physics. And since the universe is based on physics, then basically we are the universe. Each of us is just the universe expressing itself in different forms. And we are living during a very brief moment in time where humanity is discovering this truth, and has the scientific evidence to back this fact up (the Buddhists were right all along.)
You, yourself, are the product of billions of years of evolution. You budded off your mother, who budded off hers, who budded off hers… going all the way up to the first life form that existed on this planet. All the people that exist today are part of that line of organisms that never died, all those organisms that evolved through natural selection. Each of us can be traced back to that very first life form. I honestly feel amazed every time I think about this. And honestly, we all should. Evolution is a beautiful thing. And the most amazing thing about it is that it’s our work of art… Because we are the universe. We created ourselves. When we are studying atoms, we’re only atoms studying itself. We should stand in awe at our creation and look ahead at what we can continue to create in this brief moment of time that we have in this form. It’s amazing how we are wired to appreciate ourself, an infinitesimal beauty. It’s a gift that we are giving to ourself to admire.
And the most amazing thing is that we gave ourself the gift of what we perceive as consciousness, so that we can spend time appreciating our own existence.
“Every morning we are born again. What we do today is what matters most.” — Siddhārtha Gautama
I think we’ve all hit a point in our lives when we realize that our life isn’t the way we want it to be.
Have you? Have you ever wondered, “what am I doing with my life?”
Usually this happens because we coast through some parts of our life, and without realizing it, end up in situations that leave us feeling unsatisfied.
I’m not talking about depression (though this can turn into depression). The feeling is more like a lack of excitement about what you’re doing with your life that manifests itself as a strong dissatisfaction. Life becomes stale. You just feel like your wasting your time, like there are better things out there for you that you just haven’t found. You don’t really know what these things are or how to get them, but you know they exist.
The problem is that you’re afraid to shake things up because you don’t want to ruin what you already have for something that’s unknown.
The Roller Coaster of Life
Life happens…fast (especially in a haze of drinking and partying that is college). And when times are good, you can’t imagine living any other way. You feel like you’ve figured it out, but eventually good times turn to bad times for no particular reason. It’s because we live in a world of constant change. Life is a roller coaster.
The key to living life is embracing this concept of constant change. It’s knowing that good times are fleeting and so are bad. It’s learning how to appreciate the good times without becoming attached to them and being able to learn from the bad times without getting discouraged. It’s about being comfortable with change and being okay with reinventing yourself if you need to.
by George P.H.
Hard to get, easy to lose and impossible to recover: respect is one of the most important things in a man’s life.
When you have it, girls compete for the right to spend time with you – on your terms. There’s never any nagging, lying or mind-games because women treat the few men worthy of respect like kings.
Respect is also a form of social currency. Have it, and people will help you get what you want out of life; everyone will treat you well. Don’t have it and people will take every opportunity to make your life more difficult.
So let’s go: here are 6 ways to get respect as a man!
1. Keep Your Word
“All I have in this world is my balls and my word” – Tony Montana (Scarface)
There is something incredibly repulsive about a man who breaks promises and fails commitments. It’s cowardly; it’s weak; it’s just unmanly.
If you want to be respected – especially by other guys – be a man of your word. Following through on your promises, no matter how hard that can be, is the foundation of being respected as a man.
2. Be Yourself
“When you are content to be simply yourself and don’t compare or compete, everybody will respect you.” -Lao Tzu
Some men think they need to hide their real thoughts to be pleasant. They agree with whatever’s being said and say what other people want to hear. Nice and polite, right?
People-pleasers may as well come out and say: “Your approval is more important than my opinion. I have no respect for myself, and neither should you.” They may be pleasant – like lukewarm water – but they are neither liked nor respected.
A real man is strong and self-sufficient; he doesn’t care what others think. He likes himself for who he is – and why wouldn’t he? Be yourself: most people will love you, a few will hate you, but everyone will respect you.
Ok, I have a confession to make.
I have spent almost my whole life– 31 years– caring far too much about offending people, worrying if I’m cool enough for them, or asking myself if they are judging me.
I can’t take it anymore. It’s stupid, and it’s not good for my well being. It has made me a punching bag– a flighty, nervous wuss. But worse than that, it has made me someone who doesn’t take a stand for anything. It has made me someone who stood in the middle, far too often, and not where I cared to stand, for fear of alienating others. No more. Not today.
Today, ladies and gentlemen, is different.
We’re going to talk about the cure. We’re going to talk about what’s necessary. We’re going to talk about the truth.
Do you wonder if someone is talking shit about you? Whether your friends will approve? Have you become conflict-avoidant? Spineless?
Well, it’s time you started not giving a fuck.
FACT NUMBER 1. People are judging you right now.
Yes, it’s really happening right at this moment. Some people don’t like you, and guess what? There’s nothing you can do about it. No amount of coercion, toadying, or pandering to their interests will help. In fact, the opposite is often true; the more you stand for something, the more they respect you, whether it’s grudgingly or not.
What people truly respect is when you draw the line and say “you will go no further.” They may not like this behaviour, but so what? These are people don’t like you anyway, why should you attempt to please people who don’t care for you in the first place?
Right. Then, there’s Internet trolls. That’s a whole other thing.
Regular people are fine– you don’t actually hear it when they’re talking behind your back. But on the web, you do see it, which changes the dynamic drastically. They have an impact because they know you have your vanity searches, etc. But the real problem with Internet haters is that they confirm your paranoid delusion that everyone out there secretly hates you.
Thankfully, that’s not actually true. So the first noble truth is that most people don’t even care that you’re alive. Embrace this, my friends, for it is true freedom. The world is vast and you are small, and therefore you may do as you wish and cast your thoughts of those who dislike it to the side.
Lets Balance Out The Horribly Depressing Nature Of The Last Post With Some Pictures That Will Put A Smile On Your Face