Life is like a game of chess. Every move/decision you make can either bring you an advantage or a disadvantage. Even acting upon your wisest/planned decision can bring a negative outcome. Pieces must keep moving though. life keeps on moving. Wins and Losses are a part of life. Sacrifices must be made at some point. Expect the unexpected. When making a decision that wasn’t well thought out and have lost something BECAUSE of it, well it teaches to think twice next time, to be more vigilant. you musn’t ever regret your decisions because every mistake is a lesson. mistakes are part of our fate. In this fate of ours, our life, our game doesn’t end til’ the king is trapped/we die. keep playing. as you lose you ironically get better, once you begin winning and continue to do so, you will keep yourself better. but even when losses come regardless your best position in the game or life, you accept them as the human you are. THAT increases your rating in life in many delightful ways!
New content is being added constantly to the game. While many people, like any MMORPG, tend to take the game to the extreme and just play it to acquire gold as fast as possible by grinding work quests constantly, there is nothing in the manual that says that levels and gold is the best thing to have.
Rather, I find the in-game environments and interacting with other players to be the best part. That is just me though. I really have never found a game as open-world as this one… Skyrim doesn’t even come close.
And you know what? There are a lot of other players who also sometimes get fed up with the game. Griefers are around a lot… and they don’t always get banned like they should. Sometimes people exploit the various quests and the admins don’t seem to notice or care. We all deal with these things. Sometimes some of the feature implementation for immersion also seems to be too difficult such as the "pay to play" services in order to move out of your randomly assigned default starting location (and lets be honest, some default starting locations need to be waaaaaaay nerfed. Even "good" starting locations many times have too many random events that are way above most players’ levels (even the high level ones)).
But even with these random events I have yet to see one that a player can’t get past with some ingenuity and help from guildmates and by using the forum (I will talk more about the forum in a moment). Unplugging is an option, yes, but due to the DRM nature of the game once you unplug once all saved data is erased. For that reason alone I would suggest waiting out unplugging from the game.
Now for using the Forum. A lot of people I think don’t use the Forum enough. Did you know that there are people employed IN-GAME to help you troubleshoot, fix, and make your playing experience more enjoyable? You can access these Forum help threads and be assigned to a GM with the tag "therapist." Try looking for Forum topics with the search function of "Therapists in _______" with whatever location you are. These GMs are specialized in helping you enjoy the game again, as well as helping you explore and find a specific play style you can be happy with. I can tell you, this function is greatly underutilized.
Please tell me more about what sort of in-game features you are struggling with, I am happy to talk more about it!
[Really though, I just want to say that you are not alone in feeling like you just want things to end… even if you know you won’t act on it there is help available for you, and by no means does it make you weak for it. As a resource, /r/suicidewatch does exist and while it isn’t a substitute for a suicide hotline or professional help, it can be someplace to talk. If you do feel like you might try ending your life please call 911 or The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255.]
by Nick Notas
Emotions are habits formed through repetition. To change the way we feel, we must change our behaviors.
For many of us, our default emotional responses are negative. We are easily annoyed. We always expect the worst. And we have become bitter towards the world and ourselves. Those negative responses create an endless loop which further ingrains our negativity. We get to a point where we forget how to act happy and therefore be happy.
This is why I’m passionate about the positive psychology movement. It’s rooted in science (not fluff), and actually works. By practicing mindfulness and choosing positive habits we can break our negative cycles to lead healthy, happy, and productive lives.
- Be grateful every day. Praise others often and praise yourself even more. What are you proud of? What are you thankful for? Journal something positive about yourself or your day. We are our harshest critic and our constant self-teardown reinforces allow sense of worth. Instead of always asking “What’s wrong with me?”, start asking “What’s right with me?”
- Stop victimizing yourself. Bad stuff happens to everybody — you’re not the only one. I’m not downplaying your problems but it’s a reality you have to accept. Absolving yourself of all responsibility and blaming the world won’t fix anything. You are not entitled to happiness. So…
You can be whatever you want to be. If you dont make it, your effort probably stopped with just wanting.
Stay away from PEOPLE THE COMPLICATE YOUR LIFE!
If it looks like a duck & smells like a duck, it probably is a duck!!!
Your rent or house payment should never be more than 25% of your take home pay…
When you don’t have a choice on something, you can still choose you attitude.
If you lay down with the dogs, youll get thier fleas
Listen to your mother.
My father, when he was teaching me to drive, emphasized to me to not trust a driver stopped at an intersection, until you can see the whites of his eyes. It has kept me accident free, (except for once when I failed to do this), for 45 years of driving.
Don’t spend more than you earn, And try to earn at least your age in thousands
To listen twice as much as you speak.
If you don’t stand for something, you’ll fall for anything!
To “Pay Yourself 1st!” out of your paycheck…which means tuck some away in Savings! It’s worked out great for me!
Don’t focus on the destination, enjoy the journey.
Everything about life if a choice. Make good choices.
Don’t stay in a bad marriage “for the children”. All it does is teaches the children how to have a bad marriage.
Just because you make mistakes, doesn’t mean you are one.
Always remember the goal of an argument is to find a solution, not to win. So, when you (inevitably) argue with your spouse, hold their hand to remind you that they are, in fact, still the person you love & not someone you’re trying to destroy in a war.
You have to take a risk. You have to face rejection. You will literally gain NOTHING by keeping your mouth shut and living in a world full of ‘what-ifs’. Imagine the possibilites, the adventures to be had, and the memories to be made….