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June 13, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Life Advice |

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Often we procrastinate or straight up don’t do things that we know we need to do because we’re afraid of discomfort. We’re scared to take a risk or do something that we’ve never done before.

So we don’t do it.

I can tell you from experience that very few things are as unpleasant as you think they will be. Your mind comes up with scenarios that are typically much worse than reality.

The only thing that’s ever been worse than I expected it to be is regret, and I’ve regretted inaction much more often than I’ve regretted action.

If you’re putting something off because you’re afraid of what might happen, know that, in the end, the regret of inaction will be much more painful.

You aren’t making life easier for yourself by avoiding discomfort. You’re just pushing that discomfort onto your future self, and one day you have to be that future self. Don’t live a life you’ll regret.

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The Daily Man-Up: 15 Things You Should Give Up to Turn Your Dreams into Reality

June 5, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Life Advice |

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There are times in life where everyone feels tired and weighed down. Every day we work for our goals and dreams, but it feels like we’re running in quicksand. Of course, we knew the journey would be long and treacherous. But we never expected it to be this long or this treacherous.

You think to yourself, “maybe I need more gusto, a little more oomph.” But what if you need to lighten the load? Sometimes, the key to achieving your dreams is releasing the baggage you carry. You don’t need to pick up more stones. Focus on the essentials and let go of the rest.

Many of these things you can give up today, while others will require work. But remember, “if you can dream it, you can do it.”

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June 3, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Life Advice |

Some advice from Arnold Schwarzenegger’s autobiography:

On self-belief:

Somehow the thought took shape in my mind that America was where I belonged. Nothing more concrete than that. Just . . . America. I became absolutely convinced that I was special and meant for bigger things. I knew I would be the best at something – although I didn’t know what – and that it would make me famous. America was the most powerful country, so I would go there. The thought of going to America hit me like a revelation, and I really took it seriously. I’d talk about it. The kids got used to hearing me talk about it and thought I was weird, but that didn’t stop me from sharing my plans with everyone: my parents, my teachers, my neighbors.

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The Daily Man-Up: Either You Challenge Yourself Or Life Will Do It For You

May 30, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Life Advice |

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Life is hard. I don’t think anyone’s going to argue against that. There will always be challenges.

You have two options:

  1. You choose you challenges. You push yourself. You go after what you want. You make it happen. It will be hard work, but you get to chose where you go and become the active driver of your life.

  2. You do nothing and wait until life throws something at you. Then you’re on defense. You’re unprepared and just doing your best to stay afloat. You’re unprepared and unpracticed because you’ve spent all of your time dicking around.

The choice is yours.

Would you rather create your own challenges and go after the things you want, or wait until you have to fight your way through whatever life throws your way?

One of these choices is much more likely to lead to happiness and success than the other.

Go make it happen!

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The Daily Man-Up: Stop Looking For Answers, You Already Know Them.

May 24, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Life Advice |

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Stop looking. Stop looking for answers when you already have them.

You’ll never find a magic key to happiness as long as you’re looking for it, there’s no shortcut.

You know exactly how you want to live your life, and you know the steps to get there, there’s no shortcut.

Stop looking for ‘how’ to meditate. Meditate, learn through the experience. The same goes with many things, such as quitting a habit – you know exactly what you need to do to quit, but naturally you might instead gravitate towards constantly looking for that one perfect solution, that final magical key, but you’ll never be satisfied, the only true satisfaction you can find is acting through your own intuition, and putting what you already know to work.

all the time spent looking could be time spent doing.

– mutemoo

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The Daily Man-Up: What Other Choice Do You Have?

May 20, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Life Advice |

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Think of an important goal you wish you could achieve. 

Something that really intimidates you. Something that you haven’t begun working towards because it challenges your comfort zone.

That could be…

Getting a job (or a better job). Making more friends. Getting in shape. Writing a book. Or meeting more women – both in-person and online.

So why haven’t you taken any steps to reach that goal?

Whenever you undertake a new endeavor that makes you feel vulnerable, your mind runs wild trying to talk you out of it. Your self-doubt becomes deafening and all you can think about are the worst possible scenarios.

This usually plays out in a series of hypothetical “Am I doomed?” questions. Sometimes you ask them to yourself and sometimes you reach out to me.

“Why should I even apply to this job…won’t I just be rejected?”

“What if girls don’t like me because I’m too short/overweight/ugly?”

“What if I ask her out and she says no?” 

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The Daily Man-Up: How Fear Will Shape Your Legacy

May 17, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Life Advice |

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How a man views fear will shape his life, his love, and his legacy. From a young age we’re taught to use fear as a gage. If something scares us, we are to stay away from it. If something is safe, we gravitate towards it. We’re taught that fear as a mechanism to keep us safe, to fear strangers, crossing the highway, big animals, new situations, and risk.

We’re taught to use fear to stay safe, unhurt, and alive, by our parents, who were taught to do so by their parents, who were taught to use fear by their parents, and so on, all the way back to the days when you always had to be on the lookout for predators, and your only defense was your mind, your spear, and your fear.

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The Daily Man-Up: Get Enough Sleep

May 15, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Life Advice, Man-Up |

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Not getting enough sleep impacts your ability to focus. It makes it harder to stay on task and come up with new ideas. It also affects your ability to make decisions. Like, you know when there’s something that you need to do, but you keep deciding to watch Netflix instead? Getting enough sleep can help with that.

If you get enough sleep, your work will be better, your focus will be better, and you’ll have more willpower. All of this stuff leads to better self-discipline.

I’ve seen this in myself as well. Whenever I don’t get enough sleep, my entire day goes to shit. I get lazy. I can’t stay focused on anything I’m doing. Instead of doing all the things that I had planned to do, it becomes much easier to sit around on reddit all day. If I manage to do something productive, it’s usually half-assed, and I hate doing it.

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The Daily Man-Up: The Primary Barrier Stopping You From Everything You Want In Life

May 8, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Life Advice, Self-Improvement |

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Pain, discomfort, shock, boredom, impostor syndrome, awkwardness, fear, being wrong, failing, ignorance, looking stupid: your avoidance of these feelings is stopping you from a life beyond your wildest imagination.

These are the feelings that accompany a life of success. And yet, these are the very feelings you relentlessly avoid!

Interesting how that works, right?

Wealth, optimal health, incredible relationships, deep spiritual maturity are all available to you. But you have to pay the price to have these things. The primary obstacle in your way is how you feel about what you need to do to have these things.

Most people aren’t willing to feel difficult emotions on a regular basis. However, if you’re willing to disregard how you feel in the moment, you’ll have access to a world of opportunity unavailable to 99% of the population.

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The Daily Man-Up

May 6, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Life Advice |

I started college in 1988 and just finished yesterday. I had many re-starts, went to many different colleges, took many breaks, but the deed is done. The last couple of weeks I would have little moments of awareness that I was finally going to finish and I would get butterflies in my stomach. It’s become almost surreal. I feel very conflicted about it. I’m really proud for not only graduating, but graduating from Washington University in Saint Louis. It’s a kind of tough school and I struggled many times and almost quit many times. I also feel a little foolish celebrating because it took me 31 years to do it. I was going to pass on the whole walking in my robes but my wife convinced me I should. I agreed because I didn’t want to regret it later in life and I couldn’t go back and redo it. But I’m definitely going to feel awkward. (TBH I feel awkward most of the time) I keep hearing a lot of praise from people and thought I should share it here if it helps someone else like me or just someone who is thinking of quitting. Just remember Dory and “just keep swimming” you’ll get there.

– fujiesque

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