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July 2, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Life Advice |

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In some corners of our society you’re actually praised for being a victim. The more arbitrary victim classes you belong to, the higher status you hold. You’re seen as strong, for being weak.

If you don’t watch out for it, you can find yourself being proud of being a victim, and your victimhood may not actually be real, nor should you want it to be. You’re a man. A man cannot be a victim unless he gives his permission. If he does, he also relinquishes power over his current and future life as a victim depends on others to succeed, to be ‘allowed and enabled’ to succeed.

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The Daily Man-Up: Stop Dwelling On Who You Used To Be

July 1, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Life Advice |

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I see people here all the time who feel discouraged because they’re trying to make a change in their life and feel bad because they used to be able to do that thing, and now they aren’t able to push themselves to do it.

“I used to get up early/get good grades/feel motivated/whatever, and now I can’t. I must be terrible.”

First of all, no, you aren’t. And second of all, it doesn’t matter. That has no impact on whether or not you’re doing it now. All you’re doing is discouraging yourself and making it harder to make changes now.

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The Daily Man-Up: The Most Respected Men Know How To Fight

June 26, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Life Advice |

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Every interaction between two humans can lead to a physical escalation. Most people will flee when confronted with this possibility. This can limit our choices, because we don’t act in such way that might spark a fight with another individual, even if that action leads to getting something we want.

Being ready to face the ultimate consequences if any situation goes wrong lets you take more risks, makes you more assertive and unconsciously increases your confidence around other people.

See that girl with the jock that you want to meet? Let’s do it! Who gives a fuck if the jock tries to intervene? In the worst scenario I’ll just punch my way out.

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The Daily Man-Up: Kill The boy And Let The Man Be Born

June 24, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Life Advice |

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When you’re a boy, it’s alright to do kid things. That’s what our childhood and teenage years are for.

But with each passing year, the line between “boy” and “man” is becoming blurred. We’re taking longer to move out, find steady jobs and get married. We delay the responsibilities of manhood to enjoy ourselves for longer.

This is fantastic. It’s great that we’re making the most of our lives, exploring all available options and challenging the status quo. But all these things only have value if you do them as a man – not as a boy.

Below are 5 ways to know you’re not a real man (yet). If any of them apply to you, make some changes to your life and start living with strength, dignity and manliness. It’s the best decision you’ll ever make.

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The Daily Man-Up: Stop Living In Your Damn Phone

June 19, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Life Advice |

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Last summer, I went to a Red Hot Chili Peppers concert. This was a dream come true for me: Kiedis & Co. aren’t getting any younger and I absolutely had to see them live while they’re still touring.

Midway through the concert I realized that, at any given time, 5+ people in my immediate vicinity were using their phones. Everyone was instagramming, facebooking, tweeting, texting…

They didn’t even stop when Under the Bridge – only one of the best songs ever – came on.

My first thought was, are you kidding me. These people paid good money to see a legendary band… but were more interested in telling their friends about the concert than actually watching it.

Then I remembered what year it was and this is normal. People live in their phones now.

But they really shouldn’t – and here’s why.

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The Daily Man-Up: Perfection Isn’t Real

June 18, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Life Advice |

It’s easy to want to aim for perfection. We often think that if we can’t be the best or do something exceedingly well, we might as well not bother. It’s even easier to decide that when we can’t do the thing we had planned to do, we might as well do nothing at all.

Neither of these thoughts will serve you in building discipline.

Keep in mind that perfection isn’t real. Each person has a different idea of “perfect” so what you think is best, the next person might think is 80% of perfection. Aim to be good enough. Don’t let perfect be the enemy of good. Good enough will get you places.

In the same vein, doing something is always better than doing nothing. Maybe your goal was to spend an hour today cleaning your house, but it’s late, and you’re tired, and you don’t want to, and an hour seems way too big and intimidating.

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The Daily Man-Up: Own the First Hour of Your Day

June 17, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Life Advice |

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If you feel like you’re not in control of your day, I wanted to share a cornerstone habit of mine that has improved both my productivity and happiness. I call it Owning the First Hour of Your Day

After waking up, for the first hour of your day, do not:

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June 13, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Life Advice |

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Often we procrastinate or straight up don’t do things that we know we need to do because we’re afraid of discomfort. We’re scared to take a risk or do something that we’ve never done before.

So we don’t do it.

I can tell you from experience that very few things are as unpleasant as you think they will be. Your mind comes up with scenarios that are typically much worse than reality.

The only thing that’s ever been worse than I expected it to be is regret, and I’ve regretted inaction much more often than I’ve regretted action.

If you’re putting something off because you’re afraid of what might happen, know that, in the end, the regret of inaction will be much more painful.

You aren’t making life easier for yourself by avoiding discomfort. You’re just pushing that discomfort onto your future self, and one day you have to be that future self. Don’t live a life you’ll regret.

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The Daily Man-Up: 15 Things You Should Give Up to Turn Your Dreams into Reality

June 5, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Life Advice |

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There are times in life where everyone feels tired and weighed down. Every day we work for our goals and dreams, but it feels like we’re running in quicksand. Of course, we knew the journey would be long and treacherous. But we never expected it to be this long or this treacherous.

You think to yourself, “maybe I need more gusto, a little more oomph.” But what if you need to lighten the load? Sometimes, the key to achieving your dreams is releasing the baggage you carry. You don’t need to pick up more stones. Focus on the essentials and let go of the rest.

Many of these things you can give up today, while others will require work. But remember, “if you can dream it, you can do it.”

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The Daily Man-Up

June 3, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Life Advice |

Some advice from Arnold Schwarzenegger’s autobiography:

On self-belief:

Somehow the thought took shape in my mind that America was where I belonged. Nothing more concrete than that. Just . . . America. I became absolutely convinced that I was special and meant for bigger things. I knew I would be the best at something – although I didn’t know what – and that it would make me famous. America was the most powerful country, so I would go there. The thought of going to America hit me like a revelation, and I really took it seriously. I’d talk about it. The kids got used to hearing me talk about it and thought I was weird, but that didn’t stop me from sharing my plans with everyone: my parents, my teachers, my neighbors.

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