Life Advice

The Daily Man-Up: The 3 Classical Symptoms Of Killing Our Dreams

April 29, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Life Advice |

The first symptom of the process of our killing our dreams is the lack of time. The busiest people I have known in my life always have time enough to do everything. Those who do nothing are always tired and pay no attention to the little amount of work they are required to do. They complain constantly that the day is too short. The truth is, they are afraid to fight the Good Fight.

The second symptom of the death of our dreams lies in our certainties. Because we don’t want to see life as a grand adventure, we begin to think of ourselves as wise and fair and correct in asking so little of life. We look beyond the walls of our day-to-day existence, and we hear the sound of lances breaking, we smell the dust and the sweat, and we see the great defeats and the fire in the eyes of the warriors. But we never see the delight, the immense delight in the hearts of those who are engaged in the battle. For them, neither victory nor defeat is important; what’s important is only that they are fighting the Good Fight.

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The Daily Man-Up: The 7 Habits That Change Boys Into Men

April 25, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Life Advice, Man-Up |

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I’ve interviewed more than 400 highly successful men from dozens of fields over the past half decade.

Over the course of these interviews, I noticed that nearly every “Great Man” has a core set of mindsets and habits that lead to massive productivity, impact, and fulfillment.

Here are the seven most frequently cited habits that I came across in my research.

1. Boys Act on Feelings Men Act on Vision

Boys allow their feelings to determine what they do and when they do it.

If they don’t feel like doing something then they don’t.

Men are different.

Men create a crystal clear vision for their future and then base every action on that vision.

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The Daily Man-Up

April 24, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Jiu-Jitsu, Life Advice, Man-Up |

I’m standing on the platform in the evening rush hour minding my own business when I notice a large man on the other side of the platform is talking into his earbuds, wearing sunglasses.

I wonder if he’s looking at me – I can’t tell, because of the sunglasses, so I am just chilling. I look at my phone, I check out the office girl on my platform, then I look back. He’s staring at me. Still talking. He mouths “I’m going to fuck you up”. Can he really mean me?? I take my headphones off and look at this guy more directly.

“Do you mean me? You’re going to fuck ME up?” I inquire. “Yea, I’m gonna kill you, staring at me. Do you think you’re bad or something?” This guy is shouting at me from ACROSS the train tracks. There are at least about 20 people watching this exchange.

It seems that while I hadn’t even looked in his eyes (because of the sunglasses), he had got the impression I was staring at him.

I immediately adopt a submissive / apologetic posture and go into defuse mode. “Sorry, man. I don’t know you. I have no problem with you. Let’s leave it.” etc etc

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The Daily Man-Up: Do Something You Hate Everyday

April 23, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Life Advice |

Do Something You Hate EVERYDAY! This phrase is more of a lifestyle than a simple saying. Even though people don’t believe me, I have always said I hate all physical activity other than weightlifting. I believe there is no better way to grow as a person than to do something you hate everyday. For me, the worst feeling in the world is waking up knowing that I have to push myself. I know every morning when I wake up that I am going to be pushing myself through worse pain than I did the day before. That is not a very comfortable feeling.

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The Daily Man-Up

April 22, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Life Advice, Man-Up |

jim thorpe olympic shoe

This is Jim Thorpe. Look closely at the photo, you can see that he’s wearing different socks and shoes. This wasn’t a fashion statement. It was the 1912 Olympics, and Jim, an American Indian from Oklahoma represented the U.S. in track and field. On the morning of his competitions, his shoes were stolen. Luckily, Jim ended up finding two shoes in a garbage can. That’s the pair that he’s wearing in the photo. But one of the shoes was too big, so he had to wear an extra sock. Wearing these shoes, Jim won two gold medals that day.

This is a perfect reminder that you don’t have to resign to the excuses that have held you back. So what if life hasn’t been fair? What are you going to do about it today? Whatever you woke up with this morning; stolen shoes, ill health, failed relationships, don’t let it stop you from running your race. You can experience more in life if you’ll get over the excuses and get on with living. You can have reasons or you can have results and you can’t have both. #lovethis #gotta #share #mindset

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The Daily Man-Up

April 19, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Life Advice |

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Hi, I my name’s John. I need to get my life off my chest. About me. I’m a 46 year old banker and I have been living my whole life the opposite of how I wanted. All my dreams, my passion, gone. In a steady 9-7 job. 6 days a week. For 26 years. I repeatedly chose the safe path for everything, which eventually changed who I was.

Today I found out my wife has been cheating on me for the last 10 years. My son feels nothing for me. I realised I missed my father’s funeral FOR NOTHING. I didn’t complete my novel, travelling the world, helping the homeless. All these things I thought I knew to be a certainty about myself when i was in my late teens and early twenties. If my younger self had met me today, I would have punched myself in the face. I’ll get to how those dreams were crushed soon.

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The Daily Man-Up: The Best Way to Change Someone’s Mind

April 18, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Life Advice, Man-Up |

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A lot of people feel like they’re watching the world burn and want to make a difference. 

So I get why they’re so passionate about upholding their values. I get that they start arguments with good intentions. But then everyone picks a side and loathes whoever disagrees with them.

Don’t fall into the trap of thinking there are only two sides to every issue: the right side and the wrong side.

Life is not so black and white. This way of thinking makes you:

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The Daily Man-Up

April 17, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Life Advice |

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One day, it will be 2024. You will still be you, except you won’t be. Think back to the 2014 version of you. I bet you can barely recognize that person. Whether you’re doing it intentionally or not, people change. You changed, and you will continue to change.

We overestimate what we can do in one year and underestimate what we can do in five. It’s so easy to think “This is my year!” or “In 2019, I’m going to do X”, but a year really isn’t all that much time. It’s already April. Time flies. But you probably realized from thinking about your 2014 self that a lot changes in five years.

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The Daily Man-Up

April 15, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Life Advice |

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One tendency I’ve noticed about a lot of us who are into self-development is that we are incredibly hungry for information.

Some of us may have had neglectful parents or an upbringing that was very scarce, we may have not gotten the encouragement for self-betterment, we have no one around us who are striving for the best — so we want to consume and process all the information, methods, tips, and tricks we can.

I think that’s great because being deeply desirous to change yourself is better than being apathetic and lethargic.

Unfortunately, this over-consumption of information can become gluttony. Gluttony then leads to lethargy, which then leads to sloth and not doing anything with this information.

More books! More articles! More podcasts! More lectures! More, more, more! I need to know the secrets of the universe before I end up starting my business, before I apply for that job, before I take that trip, before I ask out that girl.

We need to be perfect and then, then we’ll act. One day. One day.

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“I’m about to turn 60, and I still feel like I did at 25”

April 12, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Life Advice, Man-Up |

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I keep hearing about “adulting” and how hard it is. Well, it is hard and doesn’t get easier.

At almost 60, I still get scared, overwhelmed and don’t know what to do sometimes. I still have sleepless nights and wonder what the hell I’m going to do about some situations. The difference is I can use my experience in prior situations to assess the current one. Or, even better, I have a circle of family/friends/professionals that I can go to for advice. Ones that I trust, not the one on the next barstool or such.

But inside, I still feel like I’m 25! I like splashing in puddles, I sit in awe of a star-filled sky, I blow bubbles even when I’m not with the grandkids. I love shopping for new and different clothes in out of the way places, I still travel alone to places that interest me. I love to cook and try new things. I stay out late and sleep in sometimes, just not every weekend lol. I take up new hobbies and endeavors because they seem interesting. I still reach out to strangers and make new friends, so that I don’t get bored. And I LOVE a good whisky and the occasional drunk!

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