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April 19, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Life Advice |

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Hi, I my name’s John. I need to get my life off my chest. About me. I’m a 46 year old banker and I have been living my whole life the opposite of how I wanted. All my dreams, my passion, gone. In a steady 9-7 job. 6 days a week. For 26 years. I repeatedly chose the safe path for everything, which eventually changed who I was.

Today I found out my wife has been cheating on me for the last 10 years. My son feels nothing for me. I realised I missed my father’s funeral FOR NOTHING. I didn’t complete my novel, travelling the world, helping the homeless. All these things I thought I knew to be a certainty about myself when i was in my late teens and early twenties. If my younger self had met me today, I would have punched myself in the face. I’ll get to how those dreams were crushed soon.

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The Daily Man-Up: The Best Way to Change Someone’s Mind

April 18, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up, Life Advice |

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A lot of people feel like they’re watching the world burn and want to make a difference. 

So I get why they’re so passionate about upholding their values. I get that they start arguments with good intentions. But then everyone picks a side and loathes whoever disagrees with them.

Don’t fall into the trap of thinking there are only two sides to every issue: the right side and the wrong side.

Life is not so black and white. This way of thinking makes you:

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The Daily Man-Up

April 17, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Life Advice |

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One day, it will be 2024. You will still be you, except you won’t be. Think back to the 2014 version of you. I bet you can barely recognize that person. Whether you’re doing it intentionally or not, people change. You changed, and you will continue to change.

We overestimate what we can do in one year and underestimate what we can do in five. It’s so easy to think “This is my year!” or “In 2019, I’m going to do X”, but a year really isn’t all that much time. It’s already April. Time flies. But you probably realized from thinking about your 2014 self that a lot changes in five years.

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The Daily Man-Up

April 15, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Life Advice |

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One tendency I’ve noticed about a lot of us who are into self-development is that we are incredibly hungry for information.

Some of us may have had neglectful parents or an upbringing that was very scarce, we may have not gotten the encouragement for self-betterment, we have no one around us who are striving for the best — so we want to consume and process all the information, methods, tips, and tricks we can.

I think that’s great because being deeply desirous to change yourself is better than being apathetic and lethargic.

Unfortunately, this over-consumption of information can become gluttony. Gluttony then leads to lethargy, which then leads to sloth and not doing anything with this information.

More books! More articles! More podcasts! More lectures! More, more, more! I need to know the secrets of the universe before I end up starting my business, before I apply for that job, before I take that trip, before I ask out that girl.

We need to be perfect and then, then we’ll act. One day. One day.

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“I’m about to turn 60, and I still feel like I did at 25”

April 12, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up, Life Advice |

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I keep hearing about “adulting” and how hard it is. Well, it is hard and doesn’t get easier.

At almost 60, I still get scared, overwhelmed and don’t know what to do sometimes. I still have sleepless nights and wonder what the hell I’m going to do about some situations. The difference is I can use my experience in prior situations to assess the current one. Or, even better, I have a circle of family/friends/professionals that I can go to for advice. Ones that I trust, not the one on the next barstool or such.

But inside, I still feel like I’m 25! I like splashing in puddles, I sit in awe of a star-filled sky, I blow bubbles even when I’m not with the grandkids. I love shopping for new and different clothes in out of the way places, I still travel alone to places that interest me. I love to cook and try new things. I stay out late and sleep in sometimes, just not every weekend lol. I take up new hobbies and endeavors because they seem interesting. I still reach out to strangers and make new friends, so that I don’t get bored. And I LOVE a good whisky and the occasional drunk!

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The Daily Man-Up

April 9, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Life Advice |

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You are responsible for your problems. You are not at fault for (some of) your problems, but you are responsible for all of them.

When you decide to claim responsibility for everything that you don’t like in your life—the annoying coworker, your inability to focus, how busy you are—you give yourself the power to do something about it. I don’t care that you didn’t create these issues. Stop playing the victim card, and do something about it.

These problems will remain problems no matter whose fault they are. The blame game is a giant waste of your time and energy. The only way that you can make the problems go away is by accepting responsibility and doing something about it.

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The Daily Man-Up: Life Is Full Of Hills

April 8, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Life Advice |

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“Loving the hills” is an attitude I adopted toward training as a young athlete. Most people train on flat land because it’s easier. But I would intentionally seek out hills.

Life is full of all kinds of “hills.” Once you accept this, the obstacles and challenges you face don’t matter as much because you understand they’re supposed to be there.

When things get tough, remind yourself it’s just a hill. And once you get over a hill, there’s a valley on the other side.

– Janine Shepherd

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The Daily Man-Up: Are You A Man With True Masculinity Or Are You A “Nice Guy?”

April 4, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Dating Advice, Life Advice |

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Are you a man with true masculinity or are you a “nice guy?”

For most of my life, I have been the “nice guy.”

Growing up, I was taught to believe I have to be “nice” so others will be “nice” to me and I will get what I want in return.

Secretly I was doing “nice” things for people because I wanted something in return. Driven by the covert contract, I did everything to please others hoping to get what I want.

Not having any boundaries and self-respect for myself, I allowed others to take advantage of me.

They behaved that way because I was training them to act that way.

Most times I wouldn’t get what I want. As a result, I would feel resentful and bitter.

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The Daily Man-Up

April 2, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Life Advice, Man-Up, Money |

Reading this might save you $17,118.33 or more and hopefully a painful & expensive lesson.

Point blank, this amount was stolen from me.

I trusted in someone & in good faith and I just paid the price. I am not here to point fingers, cry woe is me or seek sympathy – I am here with the sole purpose of sharing this loss and lesson with the hope of preventing anyone further being f*cked over by any opportunistic & desperate lowlives.

The truth is, you never know what people are capable of so you need to be educated & protect yourself at all times – and by every means necessary. Don’t trust, hope or wait. You need to protect your money, idea’s, possessions, IP etc because someone could just take it – and probably will or waiting too if they get the opportunity.

It’s sad to say ..but sadly it seems that most people are out for themselves, greedy, untrustworthy and/or have alterior motives these days – especially the ones with no purpose, skills, or integrity.

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The Daily Man-Up: 9 Rules I Learned About Life From Getting Old

March 29, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Life Advice |

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1) People matter the most. I cannot emphasize this enough. Life is short. Relationships are valuable, especially those healthy ones that make you a better person. The older I get the more I prioritize my time to spend it with the people who I love. This means trips back home to my parent’s house, doing activities my friends want to do even if I am not super excited about it (an example would be shopping. I am a girl who hates to shop but loves my friends so I end up at malls a bit.), or even just staying in and having people over. I rarely say no when someone wants to hang out. Their happiness is my own, and I want to encourage them in their happiness.

Over the years I’ve shed negative friendships, drama filled friendships, or people who are bad for me and encourage bad choices. I have a small quality group of friends, my family is amazing, and I’m married to an incredible person who is loving and supportive. These people are my whole world.

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