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August 28, 2017 | 1 Comment » | Topics: Man-Up |

Hi, I my name’s John. I need to get my life off my chest. About me. I’m a 46 year old banker and I have been living my whole life the opposite of how I wanted. All my dreams, my passion, gone. In a steady 9-7 job. 6 days a week. For 26 years. I repeatedly chose the safe path for everything, which eventually changed who I was.

Today I found out my wife has been cheating on me for the last 10 years. My son feels nothing for me. I realised I missed my father’s funeral FOR NOTHING. I didn’t complete my novel, travelling the world, helping the homeless. All these things I thought I knew to be a certainty about myself when i was in my late teens and early twenties. If my younger self had met me today, I would have punched myself in the face. I’ll get to how those dreams were crushed soon.

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August 25, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

We’ve been conditioned by ourselves and by society to cling to things that don’t really matter. When you realize that everything is nothing but perspective, you become free for the first time in your life.

It gives you peace, and it removes the burden of having to act according to who you “are.” And what is left?

Sheer happiness vibrating throughout your entire body.

You can’t control everything that happens in life, but you can choose how you respond. You can learn to see opportunity where others see misfortune. It’s all down to your perception of the event.

Virtually everything that makes us unhappy is the result of the way we think, the things we cling to, and the ways we mislead ourselves. You have unlimited talent and potential, but it can’t break through until you’ve freed your mind.

When you are no longer a prisoner of your own mind, you set yourself free to do the things that really matter and start creating some truly amazing shit with your life.

Be content with what you have; rejoice in the way things are. When you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you.. – Lao Tzu

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August 24, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

TV streaming apps make money from stealing your attention. Their goal is to monetize your wasted time and distract you from your dream. They’ve been successfully doing this for years.

I heard a lady the other day in the office explain in exquisite detail about a show she was binge watching. She watched two whole seasons during one Saturday, last week. A few weeks later I heard the same lady complain about how she felt that she was unhappy with her job and deserved to be paid more.

 Alarm bells went off in my head.

All of the hours you are spending watching TV shows is the time you need to do that thing that you’ve always wanted to do. Maybe you wanted to go back to university, or do yoga, or learn how to invest or spend time with your family.

Stop yearning for these things and go and do them! House of Cards can wait. You don’t need to know who dies, or cheats, or has a baby or get’s shot or hit in the face by a piece of salami. It’s not that important guys and girls!

In your life right now, your addiction to TV shows is the single biggest thing you could do to change your life. It’s that precious time that can help you take back your freedom. The feeling you get when you have time back in your day and make progress towards a goal you care about makes you feel ridiculously good.

You won’t understand this feeling though until you try. You need to see how much better your life is without TV shows. They don’t tell you that when they advertise next weeks episode because they want your attention.

“When you give away your attention like a side of salad with a Big Mac, your life passes you by. It allows you to numb the pain of all the goals that you never started and may never achieve”

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August 23, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

We may not say it, but deep down we often act and behave like we’re invincible. Like we’re impervious to the trials and tribulations of mortality. That stuff happens to other people, not to ME. I have plenty of time left.

We forget how light our grip on life really is. How out of our hands it can be.

Otherwise, we wouldn’t spend so much time obsessing over trivialities, or trying to become famous, make more money than we could ever spend in our lifetime, or make plans far off in the future. All of these are negated by death. All these assumptions presume that death won’t affect us, or at least, not when we don’t want it to.

It doesn’t matter who you are or how many things you have left to be done, somewhere there is someone who would kill you for a thousand dollars or for a vial of crack or for getting in their way. A car can hit you in an intersection and drive your teeth back into your skull. That’s it. It will all be over. Today, tomorrow, someday soon. And there’s nothing you can do about it.

What is in our control? What we do with this moment right here, the one that is slip, slip, slipping away even as you read this.

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August 22, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

Most will never even take that first step; fewer even will ever take the last.

You have to have the guts to do what – possibly – no one you know or have ever known has ever done.

While everyone you know accepts their life as they feel it’s laid out for them, you have to break through what you’ve been conditioned to do and ask for more from life but also be willing to TAKE IT.

Fuck mediocrity.

Kill it.

Loathe it.

It isn’t what you’re here for and the choice is your as to whether it’s what you get or what you leave behind.

Aim beyond what you know you can accomplish and wade into the uncertainty of what you think you cannot accomplish. (Read This: The Relentless Pursuit)

It’s in the unknown that you will be pushed, even beaten, hurt, maimed and broken. But it’s also where you will rise, if you so choose, to the existence that has always been possible.

Pain was once something we experience daily. Our lives were once but 40 years. We’ve grown weak, soft, and complacent because we feel we have all the time in the world but we ignore the clock that never ceases to tick. We’re blind to the coming and going of the days, months, and years, until one day we wake up and we live our last day with a gut filled with regret and rather than a death welcomed with open arms and an open heart we enter the afterlife never having truly lived a day in our decades on this earth.

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August 18, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

You know you should be doing something — whether that’s working on your project, being present with your loved ones, eating healthy, or a number of other things — and you knowingly act in contradictory ways.

Like me, you may justify your behaviors and convince yourself you’re on the path toward your dreams. But an honest look in the mirror would reveal that you’re deceiving yourself. After all, Gandhi also said, “To believe in something, and not to live it, is dishonest.”

Your behaviors directly translate into your results. And when you consciously sabotage yourself, you cannot have confidence. Instead, you’ll have identity confusion.

The small stuff is the big stuff. First things must come first. Motivation and momentum are very fickle. It doesn’t matter how much you currently have. You will lose it if you don’t maintain the garden of your life. Which, is a daily process.

How close to your values and goals are your living?

How internally-conflicted are you?

I’m not above this. My behaviors often contradict my values and goals. Perfection shouldn’t be the objective. However, consistency and implementation of our values and goals creates substantial momentum and results.

There’s no way around it. As Aristotle has said, “You are what you repeatedly do.” Or perhaps Albus Dumbledore put it best, “It is not our abilities that show what we truly are. It is our choices.”

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August 17, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

The SEALs have always had an unspoken creed of valor and honor. In 2005, a formal creed was adopted in order to clearly delineate the values of this special team.

United States Navy SEAL

In times of war or uncertainty there is a special breed of warrior ready to answer our Nation’s call. A common man with uncommon desire to succeed.

Forged by adversity, he stands alongside America’s finest special operations forces to serve his country, the American people, and protect their way of life.

I am that man.

My Trident is a symbol of honor and heritage. Bestowed upon me by the heroes that have gone before, it embodies the trust of those I have sworn to protect. By wearing the Trident I accept the responsibility of my chosen profession and way of life. It is a privilege that I must earn every day.

My loyalty to Country and Team is beyond reproach. I humbly serve as a guardian to my fellow Americans always ready to defend those who are unable to defend themselves. I do not advertise the nature of my work, nor seek recognition for my actions. I voluntarily accept the inherent hazards of my profession, placing the welfare and security of others before my own.

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August 16, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

Let those young persons whose stomachs are not strong, or who think a good set-to with the weapons which God has given to us all an uncivilized, unchristian, or ungentlemanly affair, just skip this chapter at once, for it won’t be to their taste.

It was not at all usual in those days for two schoolhouse boys to have a fight. Of course, there were exceptions, when some cross-grained, hard-headed fellow came up who would never be happy unless he was quarreling with his nearest neighbors, or when there was some class dispute between the fifth form and the fags, for instance, which required bloodletting; and a champion was picked out on each side tacitly, who settled the matter by a good, hearty mill. But for the most part the constant use of those surest keepers of the peace, the boxing-gloves, kept the schoolhouse boys from fighting one another. Two or three nights in every week the gloves were brought out, either in the hall or fifth-form room; and every boy who was ever likely to fight at all knew all his neighbors’ prowess perfectly well, and could tell to a nicety what chance he would have in a stand-up fight with any other boy in the house. But of course no such experience could be gotten as regarded boys in other houses; and as most of the other houses were more or less jealous of the schoolhouse, collisions were frequent.

After all, what would life be without fighting, I should like to know? From the cradle to the grave, fighting, rightly understood, is the business, the real, highest, honestest business of every son of man. Every one who is worth his salt has his enemies, who must be beaten, be they evil thoughts and habits in himself or spiritual wickedness in high places, or Russians, or Border-ruffians, or Bill, Tom, or Harry, who will not let him live his life in quiet till he has thrashed them.

It is no good for Quakers, or any other body of men, to uplift their voices against fighting. Human nature is too strong for them, and they don’t follow their own precepts. Every soul of them is doing his own piece of fighting, somehow and somewhere. The world might be a better world without fighting, for anything I know, but it wouldn’t be our world; and therefore I am dead against crying peace when there is no peace, and isn’t meant to be. I’m as sorry as any man to see folk fighting the wrong people and the wrong things, but I’d a deal sooner see them doing that, than that they should have no fight in them.

Thomas Hughes Tom Brown’s School Days, 1857

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