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The Daily Man-Up: Discipline Is One Of The Most Necessary Traits For Success.

March 8, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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“Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishment” as the great Jim Rohn would say. One of the greatest life lessons that my grandpa taught me from an early age was that there is a right time and place for everything. You need to be disciplined enough in life in order to stay sharp and understand the right balance of everything coming your way and everything you are taking on.

What was once considered to be a respected and admirable quality has taken the backseat in this generation that doesn’t really know how to say no to anything. What we have ultimately become are a people that have forgot how to sacrifice and work hard. We opt for the easy way out, the sexy, the here and now and that is because the discipline is gone and we’re only after what appeases and appeals to us in the moment.

If you look at the majority of the population, they are average — and that’s because they lack the discipline needed to become the small percentage of people who have lives that are actually worth something in this world. Discipline is one of the most necessary traits for success.

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The Daily Man-Up: How to Build Lasting Male Friendships in a Chronically Lonely World

March 7, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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There is an epidemic facing the men of the 21st century.

Although it’s staring us right in the face, few of us are even aware of its existence.

It increases our risk of cardiovascular disease, stroke, Alzheimer’s, and can damage your health just as much as smoking.

What is it that I am referring to?

Loneliness.

A seemingly innocuous consequence of our hyper-developed society that has some very real and tangible implications for the modern man.

More than 35% of middle age men report experiencing chronic loneliness and the number of millennials who self-report feeling alone and isolated continues to rise on a daily basis.

As a result, more men than ever before in history are suffering from depression, crippling anxiety, suicidal tendencies, and other mental illnesses that our “Fix it with Chemistry” society seems to ignore.

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The Daily Man-Up: How To Pass Test From Women

March 6, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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Men love a good challenge. When we have to work for something, we see it as more valuable. We tend not to appreciate what’s handed to us as much.

Think about every good story ever written. It focuses on the hero’s journey. The main character must face some struggle which makes his victory that much sweeter. If there was no tension, no battle, nothing to work for — it would be…boring.

The same goes for dating. A lot of men complain that they don’t want women to play any games. They just want them to be upfront. But what we say can be different than what we respond to.

When a woman is too available or shows too much interest early on, many men become hesitant. They question why things are so easy. And they are less attracted because of it.

So on many occasions, women are forced to challenge men in order to win their affection. And you need to be ready for when that happens. School is in session.

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The Daily Man-Up: Will I Become A Billionaire If I Am Determined To Be One And Put In The Necessary Work Required?

March 5, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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No.

One of the many qualities that separate self-made billionaires from the rest of us is their ability to ask the right questions. 

This is not the right question.

(Which is not to say it’s a bad question. It just won’t get that deep part of your mind working to help you — mulling things over when you think you’re thinking about something else — sending up flares of insight.)

You’re determined. So what? You haven’t been racing naked through shark-infested waters yet. Will you be just as determined when you wash up on some deserted island, disoriented and bloody and ragged and beaten and staring into the horizon with no sign of rescue?

We live in a culture that celebrates determination and hard work, but understand: these are the qualities that keep you in the game after most everybody else has left, or until somebody bigger and stronger picks you up and hurls you back out to sea. Determination and hard work are necessary, yes, but they are the minimum requirements. As in: the bare minimum.

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The Daily Man-Up: Your Time Is The Furthest Thing From Free

March 4, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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For the majority of my life I made one really big mistake: I under-valued the precious nature of the time I’ve been given to live here on earth, and over-valued the short term gratification that comes from digital pleasure.

My entire middle school life was spent playing World Of Warcraft. I easily put in over 100 logged days of play time.

High school was Call of Duty and the start of social media sites. College was heavy social media use. Easily another 100 days.

You might be surprised at the numbers, but the frightening thing is that it’s far easier to hit these numbers than you might think. Chances are you’re hitting them right now without even realizing it.

Looking at your phone for just one hour a day adds up to 22 waking days a year. 22 straight days of just… nothing.

At the end you have nothing to show for it, in the same way that I have nothing to show for all of the hours I invested into gaming and social media.

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The Daily Man-Up: Advice from a Dying 24 Year-Old

March 1, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up, TRUTH |

Soon I will be gone forever, but that’s okay as long as someone reads this. I am only 24 years old, yet I have actually already chosen my last tie. It’s the one that I will wear on my funeral a few months from now. It may not match my suit, but I think it’s perfect for the occasion.

The cancer diagnosis came too late to give me at least a tenuous hope for a long life, but I realized that the most important thing about death is to ensure that you leave this world a little better than it was before you existed with your contributions . The way I’ve lived my life so far, my existence or more precisely the loss of it, will not matter because I have lived without doing anything impactful.

Before, there were so many things that occupied my mind. When I learned how much time I had left, however, it became clear which things are really important. So, I am writing to you for a selfish reason. I want to give meaning to my life by sharing with you what I have realized:

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The Daily Man-Up: Do Things That Scare The Shit Outta You

February 27, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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A pussy can live life in avoidance of ideas he doesn’t agree with, things he finds too difficult to attempt, places that scare him, ventures that frighten him.

You clearly can’t.

You want to live.

A life of avoidance isn’t living. It’s awaiting death while avoiding life.

Life truly is both brutal and exciting. You have to work brutally hard, but you also have to attempt to do things that scare you.

Fear is a wonderful thing. It’s more than thrill. Thrill is jumping from a cliff. Fear is going after a goal that you know you can very likely fail at. Fear is going to a new land you’re not certain is safe or even logical to visit. Fear hits your soul, it also helps it grow stronger.

The more fear you can face the more life you’ll live, and that should be what most of us attempt while we’re here, to live ambitiously, daringly, and dangerously.

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The Daily Man-Up: Setting Boundaries

February 26, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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Are you often dissatisfied with how you are treated?

People will only treat you as you allow them to treat you. This is great news because you have a say in it.

I was the professional “nice guy”. I took the brunt of other’s misdirected anger, rarely turned down requests, and tried to just be pleasant even when I was disrespected or wasn’t listened to for years. I avoided conflict like the plague, which just led me to act passive-aggressively.

This immaturely and maladaptively communicated to myself and others that I was weak and I was a victim. It led to me being run all over. “They are just bad people” I would think. And I became angrier about how people treated me until I realized that it was mostly because of me.

I did not have healthy boundaries. And I had to take charge if I wanted to have healthy relationships for the rest of my life, whether it was romantically, with friends, family, schoolmates, or co-workers.

Setting boundaries communicates to others about what you value, what you will and will not accept in your life, and who you are. It is one of the most empowering things you can do for yourself — it will change your life, your relationships, and garner the respect you deserve.

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The Daily Man-Up: 9 Incredible (and WORKING) Principles To Break Your Internet/Social Media Addiction

February 25, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

Maybe you’ve had the experience recently of sitting down and trying to read a book, and finding your mind start to… wander. Maybe you’re having trouble focusing at work or school, sitting through movies, or even TV shows. There’s a little itch there. “This is cool, I guess… but what’s happening on the internet?”

Or maybe you’re just more anxious these days. Depressed. Cynical. In a “The World Is Shit” rut. You’re thinking about all those IDIOTS out there who are ruining the planet for the rest of us. The Nazi/Fascist/Islamist/Patriarchy/Feminist/WhitePrivilege complex.

Here’s what’s going on: years of heavy internet use have (literally) reprogrammed your brain.

Your smartphone, your laptop your social media accounts, your streaming sites, your inbox and your favorite blogs are all working together to hijack your brain’s natural reward system. On a daily basis, you hit the brain with a barrage of chronic overstimulation that it simply isn’t adapted for. This is why it’s harder than ever to focus, to chill out, to make it through a meeting or dinner or bathroom break without stealing a glance at your phone. Your brain craves moremoreMORE.

The reprogramming of your reward system is hampering your motivation and creativity. It’s stressing you out and hurting your social life. It’s decreasing your academic or career performance. It’s turning you into a smartphone-addicted zombie. And it’s convincing you that the online virtual reality world is necessary to feel human.

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The Daily Man-Up

February 22, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

If you want to do something of value and be someone of value you have to come to the understanding that life isn’t easy. It hasn’t been easy for anyone, at least anyone wanting to leave a fingerprint on the planet before they leave.

Your days shouldn’t be easy, otherwise you’re not doing the things you need to do.

Even the simple things like keeping a clean house and a tidy yard. Working. Working harder today than you did yesterday. Learning. Training your body. Acquiring and developing toughness and grit.

All good things require work and they ask us to do things that we don’t necessarily want to do.

Life is tougher for some than others, we can all agree with that. And that’s just the way it is and the way it will always be.

The key is, within your own life, accepting that life is hard and it can be brutal at times. It can bring you to your knees. It seems to throw a shit storm your way at the worst possible moment.

Bad things happen and to think that they won’t even when you’re on top of the world is to be unprepared.

Accept that life isn’t easy. It’s the first step to making it GOOD.

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