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The Daily Man-Up: Seek Rejection

September 10, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

Four days before his son was born, 30-year-old Jia Jiang walked away from a six-figure job at a Fortune 100 company to pursue his startup.

Although entrepreneurs have a higher chance of succeeding if they keep their day job, Jiang had a huge investment opportunity waiting for him.

But something unexpected happened.

The investor changed his mind and told Jiang they were going to pass on his business. This crushed him.

Jiang thought he made a mistake by leaving his job without this investment. But he realized something deeper: his unconquered fear of rejection.

He knew that if he wanted to build a successful business, he’d have to overcome this fear to find success.

In November of 2012, Jiang found a game called Rejection Therapy that challenged people to seek out rejection in their everyday lives. Jiang loved the idea so much that he decided he would try 100 Days of Rejection Therapy. He would purposely try to get rejected by asking for outrageous requests and film it all to keep him accountable.

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The Daily Man-Up: 9 Signs of Male Insecurity That Turn Women Off

September 7, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Dating, Man-Up |

If a beautiful woman is insecure or shy, it doesn’t really matter to the majority of men.

Most men will still find her attractive and want to be with her even though she is a bit insecure or shy.

In fact, some guys will find it a bit of a turn on that the beautiful woman is shy and he can be more confident around her.

However, the same doesn’t apply for a woman’s attraction to a man.

Women are attracted to the emotional strengths of men such as confidence, high self-esteem and self-assuredness and turned off by emotional weaknesses such as insecurity, self-doubt and shyness.

What you may have noticed is that confident guys can easily attract women to get laid or get a girlfriend, whereas shy guys have a difficult time getting anywhere past the friend zone.

Some shy guys can get laid or get a girlfriend, but they don’t really have their choice of women because their emotional weakness turns most women off.

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The Daily Man-Up: Inspiration Is For Amateurs

September 6, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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“The advice I like to give…is to not wait around for inspiration. Inspiration is for amateurs; the rest of us just show up and get to work. If you wait around for the clouds to part and a bolt of lightning to strike you in the brain, you are not going to make an awful lot of work. All the best ideas come out of the process; they come out of the work itself…if you just get to work, something will occur to you.”

– Chuck Close

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How I Escaped My Mental Prison: 5 Habits That Changed My Life

September 5, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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You will never change your life until you change something you do daily” ~ Mike Murdock

Think about this. You are the product of what you repeatedly do. Each small action is telling of who you are.

Consistent small action over time develops into a habit. Habits can MAKE or BREAK you. This means you need to be aware of everything you do. If you put thought and intent into your actions, you can develop good habits that will put you on the path to success.

I know this is true because I experienced both the good and bad sides of habits.

I used to be weak and pathetic. I was unable to handle stress – with my mind and body working against me. I thought it would magically change one day. That I would wake up and everything would be better. After years of thinking like this, I learned the hard truth. It was not going to change unless I made it change. It took time and effort, but I learned how habits could make or break success. After trial and error, I have developed habits that work best for where I want to go in life.

My misfortune was the result of falling into bad habits. Without consciously being aware, my mind programmed itself to crave poor performance and ill health. My biggest problem was the tunnel vision that came with it. For the longest time, I was not aware of the mental prison I subconsciously built by adopting bad habits.

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The Daily Man-Up: Screw Motivation, What You Need Is Discipline

September 4, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

If you want to get anything done, there are two basic ways to get yourself to do it.

The first, more popular and devastatingly wrong option is to try to motivate yourself.

The second, somewhat unpopular and entirely correct choice is to cultivate discipline.

This is one of these situations where adopting a different perspective immediately results in superior outcomes. Few uses of the term “paradigm shift” are actually legitimate, but this one is. It’s a lightbulb moment.

What’s the difference?

Motivation, broadly speaking, operates on the erroneous assumption that a particular mental or emotional state is necessary to complete a task.

That’s completely the wrong way around.

Discipline, by contrast, separates outwards functioning from moods and feelings and thereby ironically circumvents the problem by consistently improving them.

The implications are huge.

Successful completion of tasks brings about the inner states that chronic procrastinators think they need to initiate tasks in the first place.

Put in simpler form, you don’t wait until you’re in olympic form to start training. You train to get into olympic form.

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The Daily Man-Up: All We Have Is NOW

August 31, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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All we have is right NOW. We can’t guarantee our future self will make the right decisions, and we can’t undo the past mistakes. Stop making plans to be successful in the future and start taking massive action right this very second. 

I’ve been super guilty of procrastination by planning, researching, etc. I make to do lists, spreadsheets and routines ad nauseum. I set alarms and reminders. I look at inspirational posts and daydream about the future only to never follow through. The act of making plans and lists satisfies me enough to wait till the next day to take action, which I never do.

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The Daily Man-Up: The Strenuous Life

August 29, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

In speaking to you, men of the greatest city of the West, men of the State which gave to the country Lincoln and Grant, men who pre-eminently and distinctly embody all that is most American in the American character, I wish to preach, not the doctrine of ignoble ease, but the doctrine of the strenuous life, the life of toil and effort, of labor and strife; to preach that highest form of success which comes, not to the man who desires mere easy peace, but to the man who does not shrink from danger, from hardship, or from bitter toil, and who out of these wins the splendid ultimate triumph.

A life of ignoble ease, a life of that peace which springs merely from lack either of desire or of power to strive after great things, is as little worthy of a nation as of an individual. I ask only that what every self-respecting American demands from himself and from his sons shall be demanded of the American nation as a whole. Who among you would teach your boys that ease, that peace, is to be the first consideration in their eyes-to be the ultimate goal after which they strive? You men of Chicago have made this city great, you men of Illinois have done your share, and more than your share, in making America great, because you neither preach nor practice such a doctrine. You work yourselves, and you bring up your sons to work. If you are rich and are worth your salt, you will teach your sons that though they may have leisure, it is not to be spent in idleness; for wisely used leisure merely means that those who possess it, being free from the necessity of working for their livelihood, are all the more bound to carry on some kind of non-remunerative work in science, in letters, in art, in exploration, in historical research-work of the type we most need in this country, the successful carrying out of which reflects most honor upon the nation.

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The Daily Man-Up: Own Your Shit!

August 28, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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We love talking about the things we are good at. Very few talk about the real shit that fucks with us- the stuff we hide from everyone. We try to mask it by lifting weights, making more money, buying more possessions, etc. It’s there in the insecurities, fear, lies and self-doubt that we find our real self. There and only there do you grow. 

Don’t be afraid of people judging you- fuck them! A lot of people can’t handle the truth about themselves, trust me, I know. I struggled with that for many years. Own your shit! Those people you are trying to impress have just as many issues as you do, they just hide it better than you do. 

Stop trying to impress others! Worry only about impressing yourself!

– David Goggins

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The Daily Man-Up: Wish Less. Work More.

August 27, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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People pray to win money or to be blessed with things in the future when they already have the blessing to create what they want; life. (Read This: Don’t Set Another Goal Until You Read This)

You’re born with enough to create what you want. It will take longer than you think, much longer, and it will be far more difficult than you think, but you are born with the capacities to create a great life.

Don’t dream about a gift, don’t pray for a gift, don’t wish you were given a gift.

The journey to success – however that’s defined in your heart – is where strength is acquired, toughness is developed, and grit is created.

Most people will blame God or society for them not having what they want, and they’ll never have what they want. Then there are those who realize that blessings they already have, like the ability to breathe, think, solve problems, and most importantly work harder than anyone else if they so choose, and they’ll take the steps necessary for success.

Wishing for a gift and praying for change is ignorant. It’s ignorant of the strength you can potentially create, the change you have the capacity to bring about.

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The Daily Man-Up: How To Know If You’ll Be Successful

August 24, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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Life is complex and messy. It can be extremely difficult to get traction, let alone find motivation.

But motivation is something you can learn to create at will. Becoming deeply passionate is also within your creative control. As a result, you can completely predict your own success. You can choose to become as successful as you want. You can blow past all competition.

Here’s how:

Know That You Can Succeed

“Ignition (n): The motivational process that occurs when your identity becomes linked to a long-term vision of your future. Triggers significant amounts of unconscious energy; usually marked by the realization: That is who I want to be.” — Daniel Coyle

There’s a moment when you see what you want and a voice organically speaks within you — “I could be that.”

This experience is pivotal!

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