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December 5, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

attracting women

Why is it that women flock to some men and ignore others?  Is it because of looks, confidence, humor, enthusiasm, personality, status, etc?

Depending on the circumstances and the girl, any one of these ‘reasons’ could be the deciding factor, but that’s not what’s important.  What’s important is that these are all symptoms of something deeper, something more fundamental.  They are the outward expression of a single ‘rule’ for attracting women.

The problem with most dating advice is that it focuses on developing or exhibiting these traits and ignores the actual cause of these traits.  It focuses on ways to ‘fake it’ and get around your inability to attract women. 

Some advice involves lying or making up stories to make you seem more attractive.  Other advice involves various flavors of changing who you are to make a girl like you. 

These methods can work in the short term, but that doesn’t make them right, and in the long term, they usually leave you unhappy because you are rejecting who you really are just so you can get a girl to like you.

The key to becoming attractive is to avoid studying tricks and tactics and work on the inner cause of what makes you an attractive person.

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December 4, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

For many of us, the word “sorry” has become something we reactively utter, regardless of whether we’ve done anything wrong. This seemingly harmless habit can actually lower your self-esteem, justify other people’s poor actions, and turn you into a complete pushover.

There’s nothing wrong with apologizing for the bad things you’ve done. But when saying sorry becomes your automatic response to anything that makes you feel a little uncomfortable, it can be problematic. For example, I tend to apologize when someone else bumps into me at a bar or club. I’ll immediately put my hand up in peace and quickly say “sorry” with a smile, even though they just spilled half of my $14 drink on the floor. Is it courteous for me to do that? Perhaps, but I wasn’t the one who needed to apologize. In fact, I wasn’t actually sorry at all, I was annoyed, and you’ve probably felt the same way at one point or another. That “sorry” that escapes your own mouth isn’t to apologize, it’s to avoid rocking the boat and making things awkward (the woman who read this over my shoulder in the coffee shop while I wrote this agreed).

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December 1, 2017 | 1 Comment » | Topics: Man-Up |

"Never play to the gallery…. Never work for other people in what you do. 

Always remember that the reason that you initially started working was that there was something inside yourself that you felt that if you could manifest in some way, you would understand more about yourself and how you co-exist with the rest of society

It’s terribly dangerous for an artist to fulfill other peoples’ expectations.

They produce their worst work when they do that

If you feel safe in the area that you’re working in, you’re not working in the right area.

Always go a little further into the water than you feel capable of being in.

Go a little bit out of your depth, and when you don’t feel that your feet are quite touching the bottom, you’re just about in the right place to do something exciting.”

– David Bowie

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November 30, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

“For all of the most important things, the timing always sucks. Waiting for a good time to quit your job? The stars will never align and the traffic lights of life will never all be green at the same time. The universe doesn’t conspire against you, but it doesn’t go out of its way to line up the pins either. Conditions are never perfect. “Someday” is a disease that will take your dreams to the grave with you. Pro and con lists are just as bad. If it’s important to you and you want to do it “eventually,” just do it and correct course along the way.”

― Timothy Ferriss

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November 29, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

“If you accomplish something good with hard work, the labor passes quickly, but the good endures; if you do something shameful in pursuit of pleasure, the pleasure passes quickly, but the shame endures.”

— Gaius Musonius Rufus, Fragment 51

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November 28, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

“Done is better than perfect.” — Scott Allen

The root of procrastination is the fear of not doing a good job. Perfection kills creativity. Don’t fuss over details as you move forward. What matters is that you get something done.

The real world doesn’t reward perfectionists. It rewards people who get things done. Give yourself time in your life to wonder what’s possible and to make even the slightest moves in that direction.

You will screw up in the process but it’s okay. Don’t beat yourself up for making a mistake or making a wrong choice. It will only lead to self destructive behavior.

It’s okay to screw up as long as you are willing to try again. Non- comformists and originals screw up a lot. But they move on, knowing that at some point, the breakthrough will happne. No matter how many mistakes you make, or how slow you progress, you are still way ahead of everyone who isn’t trying.

Creativity flourishes when you don’t seek perfection but focus on getting stuff done. What you do matters, not what you think or say or plan. And doesn’t have to be perfect. The real world rewards those who create stuff and get things done. Give yourself space to think and wonder. And don’t be afraid of what might happen.

Creating is the result of thinking like walking. Left foot, problem. Right foot, solution. Repeat until you arrive. Give yourself time in your life to wonder what is possible and to make even the slightest moves in that direction.

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November 27, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

I must not fear.

Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.

I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.

And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path.
Where the fear has gone there will be nothing.

Only I will remain.

 

Frank Herbert

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November 22, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

"The pain that you hold is yours. There is not a single pain quite like it. Nobody else on God’s green earth can feel this pain, or have the indescribable feeling of pride you will have when you overcome it. This pain is not your curse; this pain is your privilege."

― Arnold Schwarzenegger

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