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August 22, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

Most will never even take that first step; fewer even will ever take the last.

You have to have the guts to do what – possibly – no one you know or have ever known has ever done.

While everyone you know accepts their life as they feel it’s laid out for them, you have to break through what you’ve been conditioned to do and ask for more from life but also be willing to TAKE IT.

Fuck mediocrity.

Kill it.

Loathe it.

It isn’t what you’re here for and the choice is your as to whether it’s what you get or what you leave behind.

Aim beyond what you know you can accomplish and wade into the uncertainty of what you think you cannot accomplish. (Read This: The Relentless Pursuit)

It’s in the unknown that you will be pushed, even beaten, hurt, maimed and broken. But it’s also where you will rise, if you so choose, to the existence that has always been possible.

Pain was once something we experience daily. Our lives were once but 40 years. We’ve grown weak, soft, and complacent because we feel we have all the time in the world but we ignore the clock that never ceases to tick. We’re blind to the coming and going of the days, months, and years, until one day we wake up and we live our last day with a gut filled with regret and rather than a death welcomed with open arms and an open heart we enter the afterlife never having truly lived a day in our decades on this earth.


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August 18, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

You know you should be doing something — whether that’s working on your project, being present with your loved ones, eating healthy, or a number of other things — and you knowingly act in contradictory ways.

Like me, you may justify your behaviors and convince yourself you’re on the path toward your dreams. But an honest look in the mirror would reveal that you’re deceiving yourself. After all, Gandhi also said, “To believe in something, and not to live it, is dishonest.”

Your behaviors directly translate into your results. And when you consciously sabotage yourself, you cannot have confidence. Instead, you’ll have identity confusion.

The small stuff is the big stuff. First things must come first. Motivation and momentum are very fickle. It doesn’t matter how much you currently have. You will lose it if you don’t maintain the garden of your life. Which, is a daily process.

How close to your values and goals are your living?

How internally-conflicted are you?

I’m not above this. My behaviors often contradict my values and goals. Perfection shouldn’t be the objective. However, consistency and implementation of our values and goals creates substantial momentum and results.

There’s no way around it. As Aristotle has said, “You are what you repeatedly do.” Or perhaps Albus Dumbledore put it best, “It is not our abilities that show what we truly are. It is our choices.”


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August 17, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

The SEALs have always had an unspoken creed of valor and honor. In 2005, a formal creed was adopted in order to clearly delineate the values of this special team.

United States Navy SEAL

In times of war or uncertainty there is a special breed of warrior ready to answer our Nation’s call. A common man with uncommon desire to succeed.

Forged by adversity, he stands alongside America’s finest special operations forces to serve his country, the American people, and protect their way of life.

I am that man.

My Trident is a symbol of honor and heritage. Bestowed upon me by the heroes that have gone before, it embodies the trust of those I have sworn to protect. By wearing the Trident I accept the responsibility of my chosen profession and way of life. It is a privilege that I must earn every day.

My loyalty to Country and Team is beyond reproach. I humbly serve as a guardian to my fellow Americans always ready to defend those who are unable to defend themselves. I do not advertise the nature of my work, nor seek recognition for my actions. I voluntarily accept the inherent hazards of my profession, placing the welfare and security of others before my own.


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August 16, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

Let those young persons whose stomachs are not strong, or who think a good set-to with the weapons which God has given to us all an uncivilized, unchristian, or ungentlemanly affair, just skip this chapter at once, for it won’t be to their taste.

It was not at all usual in those days for two schoolhouse boys to have a fight. Of course, there were exceptions, when some cross-grained, hard-headed fellow came up who would never be happy unless he was quarreling with his nearest neighbors, or when there was some class dispute between the fifth form and the fags, for instance, which required bloodletting; and a champion was picked out on each side tacitly, who settled the matter by a good, hearty mill. But for the most part the constant use of those surest keepers of the peace, the boxing-gloves, kept the schoolhouse boys from fighting one another. Two or three nights in every week the gloves were brought out, either in the hall or fifth-form room; and every boy who was ever likely to fight at all knew all his neighbors’ prowess perfectly well, and could tell to a nicety what chance he would have in a stand-up fight with any other boy in the house. But of course no such experience could be gotten as regarded boys in other houses; and as most of the other houses were more or less jealous of the schoolhouse, collisions were frequent.

After all, what would life be without fighting, I should like to know? From the cradle to the grave, fighting, rightly understood, is the business, the real, highest, honestest business of every son of man. Every one who is worth his salt has his enemies, who must be beaten, be they evil thoughts and habits in himself or spiritual wickedness in high places, or Russians, or Border-ruffians, or Bill, Tom, or Harry, who will not let him live his life in quiet till he has thrashed them.

It is no good for Quakers, or any other body of men, to uplift their voices against fighting. Human nature is too strong for them, and they don’t follow their own precepts. Every soul of them is doing his own piece of fighting, somehow and somewhere. The world might be a better world without fighting, for anything I know, but it wouldn’t be our world; and therefore I am dead against crying peace when there is no peace, and isn’t meant to be. I’m as sorry as any man to see folk fighting the wrong people and the wrong things, but I’d a deal sooner see them doing that, than that they should have no fight in them.

Thomas Hughes Tom Brown’s School Days, 1857

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August 15, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

Just as a strong river current will push objects downstream unless they actively swim against it, societal currents will do the same. As a result, part of cultivating manhood in our day is understanding where society pushes against and undermines masculine virtues, and then actively swimming against those currents. Some of the push against masculinity is intentional. Certain types of feminists consider the masculine virtues “toxic”, so they condemn men who exhibit those virtues and they make a concerted effort to promote an alternate masculinity that encourages men to think and act like women.

Other societal currents that push against masculine virtues are unintentional, but rather are a byproduct of technological developments and the advancement of civilization. These developments allow men to survive without developing their masculinity and without having any connection to other men whatsoever. Professional police and military allow men to survive without being strong and courageous. Technology allows them to live isolated lives where their lack of strength, courage, or productivity will not result in being shamed, instructed, criticized, or kicked out of the tribe.

When you combine a culture that tells men that the traditional masculinity is toxic with technology that allows them to easily choose the easy and comfortable life, the result is that, on a large scale, men often simply stop trying to be men. Manhood is hard. It involves embracing a strenuous life. It involves taking responsibility for yourself and those around you. It requires strength. It requires courage. It requires improvement throughout life. It requires struggle. It requires fortitude. It requires tenacity. It requires sacrifice. It requires that status be earned, not given.

Many males recoil at this hard road. Their weaker selves yearn for an easier path. A path of comfort. A path of self-indulgence. A path without status. A path without testing. A path without responsibility. That path exists, and many voices in our society implore men to choose it. Those voices give aid and comfort to those who are unwilling to walk the hard path of manhood.  Men are told that they don’t need to take the hard road.

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August 14, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

Time is the raw material of getting anything worthwhile done.

Time is precious and valuable. More valuable than money. Time is the only element in the world that is irretrievable when it’s lost. Lose money and you can make more. Lose a job and you can find another. But lose time and it’s gone forever.

There are 168 hours every week. And you have an average of 2,400 minutes to yourself each week.

That is a monumental amount of time. Where could it possibly go? Or better still, where are you spending all those hours?

A lot can be achieved day if you know what you are doing at any point in time.

When you stop trying to manage your time and instead take ownership of it, it’s a whole lot easier to be productive and let go of everything you don’t want to do.

There are four real ways to spend your time: thought, conversation, actions and distractions. Choose wisely!

You alone can take ownership of your time and decide how much time to spend on your thoughts, conversations, actions and even purposeful distractions that will lead to your success.

“You can’t let other people set your agenda in life” says Warren Buffett.

If 80% of your results will come from 20% of your time, imagine if you got it so right, that you only needed to work that 20%.

Protect your time like a valuable investment.

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August 11, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

Most guys make the mistake of making friends with a girl first in the hopes of working it into a meaningful relationship later.

This couldn’t be more wrong. Not only are they wasting their time and money on the girl, but they are also digging their own graves.

These men wait around with their heads down in the hopes that she will change her mind and become romantically interested in them. However, these men fail to recognize the most basic facts: If she wasn’t interested in you romantically in the beginning, what makes you think she will change her mind later?

What makes you think she’s not using you as a surrogate boyfriend until she finds somebody she really wants?

What makes you think that she isn’t just around for the ride while you spend your money and time on her?

The “Friendship Zone” is a trap… a trap so elaborate and strong that freeing yourself out of it is about as easy as climbing Mount Everest.


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August 10, 2017 | 1 Comment » | Topics: Man-Up |

Leadership is a responsibility other people give to you. You can’t claim it on your own. You might act like a leader, but you can’t force people to follow you, no matter how hard you try. If they don’t want to follow you it is like pushing rope.

You get from others exactly what you put into them. If you are honest, loyal, and respectful in your dealings with others, then (the people who matter) they will do the same to you. Those who don’t, don’t matter.

You must always have the most integrity out of everyone, and must always be the first to act. You can’t wait for someone else to take responsibility. If there is something that must be addressed then it is your role to address it first and as soon as it arises. If you slack off in this regard, then others will slack off in their responsibilities also.

Being a leader is not a part time role. You don’t get to be a leader some days and not a leader on other days.


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August 9, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

The human condition is one that gravitates towards ease. The technology industry has taken this fundamental human desire and made billions in feeding it. The TV, the cell phone, the car, the airplane, the computer, the search engine, and social media all provide a shortcut to an end.

The airplane, obviously, a shortcut to a destination, and social media, a shortcut to human interaction, an ability to portray whatever “you” that you’d like to portray without having to interact on a one-on-one basis. This desire for ease that’s constantly quenched by the latest innovation isn’t all positive. With everything at our fingertips, the things that once developed strong, manly characteristics and just values in our population have all but disappeared. When hardship inevitably enters our lives at the most inopportune time, those things that have brought us ease have also weakened our resolve. They’ve left us open to the disease that is self-entitlement and envy. They’ve opened us up to the infection that is laziness, an evil that not only makes our lives worthless, but negatively effects the rest of our society as well.

As ease becomes the way of life, hardship can no longer happen by chance, it must happen on purpose, and daily. We have to look for ways to make our lives tougher, not easier. It’s in this self-inflicted hardship that we become tougher, more resilient, and better equipped for the tribulation that will one day come anyway. This self-inflicted hardship builds the characteristics that were once commonplace in society, like honor and character, even confidence.

Success, in previous generations, was the result of the development of something called, character. It was a necessary ally on the road to becoming the man you wanted to be. Then came the 60’s and 70’s, 80’s and 90’s, and success became contingent on skills like salesmanship and interpersonal skills. Character has since lost it’s value in the eyes of society and the men and women who inhabit it, but it hasn’t lost it’s value in our lives, our development, and our quest for happiness and purpose.

Character, however, isn’t developed in ease. Anyone can be nice and good when everything is nice and good. It’s when the shit hits the fan that our true character is revealed.

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August 8, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

For many years I worked in palliative care. My patients were those who had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared. I was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives.

People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality. I learnt never to underestimate someone’s capacity for growth. Some changes were phenomenal. Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance. Every single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one of them.

When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five:

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.

It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.


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