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May 5, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

It’s becoming more and more apparent that each man has the same amount of control over his life; be it his present or his destiny. This control comes in the form of a decision: how we react to the events, good and bad, that occur in our lives. Strong men choose to see hardship not as a curse, but as a worthy challenge. They choose to control what they can, and understand that what they can’t control is simply fortune working as she does in the lives of all men.

The weak man chooses to see the hardships that come into his life as a curse, as things that happen to him out of some form of celestial spite, and rather than working hard and acting with self-reliance, he pouts and cries and curses the world that has cursed him.

It’s important to understand the power you hold over your life, which is the power to react to whatever happens however you like. I urge you to react as the warrior does, not as the coward tends to.

If only” is the phrase of the coward.

“If only I were taller, smarter, better-looking, richer, tougher, happier, more talented.” “If only” is the phrase of the coward.

If only is dependent on things being not as they are, and things being as they are is a matter of perspective. We each have something to offer, and if we lack talent or natural ability, pure hard work can make up for anything.

Never say the words “if only”. Things are the way they are and only the coward “wishes” them to be different.

Man up and do something about your circumstances. YOU hold the power over your life, don’t give up that power by uttering those two useless words.

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May 4, 2017 | 1 Comment » | Topics: Man-Up |

We live in a generation of angry young men. Men who harbor massive resentment towards women and blame them for their romantic shortcomings. But is that even fair?

You claim that women use and lead you on. That your time is disrespected. You always get friend zoned for no reason. You go online and make grand statements such as, “Women only date assholes”. Then you tell yourself, “This is why I don’t even try in the first place.”

I get it. You’re frustrated by a lack of success, and it hurts.

But maybe you should be pointing the finger at yourself. You let it happen. If you continually allow yourself to be disrespected, then you are to blame. It’s your job to prevent that from occurring or stop it when it does.

Let’s get proactive and break down why you feel used by women:

You expect them to sleep with you by just being there

“I was so nice to her. I listened to all her problems. I treated her with respect! And what do I get out of it? Her telling me that I’m an amazing friend while she sleeps with some other guy. What a biatch.”

Are you even listening to yourself? Do you know how manipulative you sound? You’re admitting that you expected her to have sex with you simply because you spent time with her. You were doing all these “friendly” gestures with strings attached.

Think of a girl in your lifetime that you had zero romantic feelings for. Maybe a co-worker or school friend you weren’t attracted to. If she hung around you and then automatically expected you to hook up with her, how would you feel? Would you sleep with her just because she was nice to you? I don’t think so.

Accept that attraction is an emotion which requires more than just standing around. The only time a girl is supposed to sleep with you is when she’s ready. And she’ll never be ready until she sees you in a sexual light.

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May 3, 2017 | 1 Comment » | Topics: Man-Up |

Your boss consistently asks you at the last minute to come into work on the weekend. You say “yes” every time even though you have family plans. You stew with resentment as you pore over TPS reports on a Saturday.

You order an expensive steak at a restaurant, but when the waiter brings it to you it’s way over-cooked. When he asks, “How is everything?” you respond, “Fine,” while you glumly saw your charred hunk of meat. 

You want to take a jiu-jitsu class, but you don’t think your wife will be too happy with you spending an hour or two every week away from your family, so don’t you even mention the idea to her.

Your neighbor lets his dogs bark all night, and it’s keeping you from sleep. Instead of talking to him about it, you bad-mouth him to your friends on Facebook.

If any of these situations hits close to home, then you’re likely one of the legions of men who suffer from “Nice Guy Syndrome” – a set of personality, attitude, and behavioral traits described by Dr. Robert Glover, author of No More Mr. Nice Guy.

Nice Guys take a passive approach to life and relationships. Instead of standing up for themselves, they let others walk all over them. They’re pushovers and perennial People Pleasers. Nice Guys have a hard time saying no to requests — even unreasonable ones. They’re considerate to a fault. When they want or need something, they’re afraid to ask for it because they don’t want to inconvenience others. Nice Guys also avoid conflict like the plague. They’d rather get along than get ahead.

At first blush, Nice Guys seem like saints. They appear generous, flexible, and extremely polite. But if you scratch beneath the surface, you’ll often find a helpless, anxious, and resentful core. Nice Guys are often filled with anxiety because their self-worth depends on the approval of others and getting everyone to like them. They waste a lot of time trying to figure out how to say no to people and even then, often end up still saying yes, because they can’t go through with it. They don’t feel they can go after their true desires, because they’re locked into doing what others say they should do. Because “go with the flow” is their default approach to life, Nice Guys have little control over their lives and consequently feel helpless, shiftless, and stuck. They’re also typically resentful and vindictive because their unspoken needs aren’t being met and they feel like others are always taking advantage of them – even though they’re the ones who allow it to happen.

In worst-case scenarios, the Nice Guy’s pent-up resentment from being pushed around will result in unexpected outbursts of anger and violence. He’s a volcano waiting to erupt….

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May 2, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

I was talking with a friend the other day who told me about a struggle he was having in his relationship with his girlfriend. He’s been dating her about a year and really likes her a lot. He would like to see things work out between them, but he was feeling some anxiety about bringing up a subject that seemed to be hanging over the relationship.

As we spoke, I mentioned that nothing would change in his relationship, and perhaps in his life in general, until he stepped up and dealt with the issue that was stressing him. He knew what I was saying was true, but it caused him a lot of anxiety to broach the subject and have a conversation. He feared that bringing up the issue might really hurt his girlfriend and even possibly end their relationship.

I just received an email from my friend thanking me for my advice and stating that he and his girlfriend just had the deepest conversation they had ever had. He faced his sticking point and gave his relationship a chance to move forward. At the same time, by facing his fears in this way, he also removed a glass ceiling that would have prevented him from moving ahead in life in general.

This is how life works. We continuously bump into various sticking points that cause us frustration, anxiety, fear, guilt, etc. Until we step up and consciously deal with them, nothing ever changes.

No matter what our sticking points are, we can’t rise any higher in life until we clear those hurdles. Period.

It doesn’t matter if your sticking point is an addiction, an unresolved relationship issue, deprivation thinking, financial irresponsibility, a family issue, or fear in general, you can only rise as high as that particular glass ceiling will permit.

Here’s the clincher: avoiding one particular issue – getting stuck, or spinning your wheels doing the same ineffective thing over and over – will have a generalized effect on every other area of your life. For example, failing to deal with an addiction to online pron will limit your relationships, your career, and your financial well-being. You can only rise as high in life and your current glass ceiling will allow.

Here’s the other clincher: life is filled with these sticking points. You will keep bumping into them until the day you die. The freedom that comes from successfully challenging a sticking point in your life will eventually lead to a new glass ceiling caused by a new sticking point.
It never ends.

This may sound kind of gloomy, but it really isn’t. Every time you successfully challenge one sticking point, you add new tools to your toolbox that will come in handy in dealing with the next. Just as importantly, you also gain the self-confidence that comes from knowing that you’ve handled difficult issues in the past and that you can handle whatever life brings you in the future. This is what they call “The School of Hard Knocks.”….

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April 20, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

“When I come out I have supreme confidence. But I’m scared to death. I’m afraid. I’m afraid of everything. I’m afraid of losing. I’m afraid of being humiliated. But I’m confident. The closer I get to the ring the more confident I get. The closer, the more confident. All during training I’ve been afraid of this man. I think this man might be capable of beating me. I’ve dreamed of him beating me. For that I’ve always stayed afraid of him. The closer I get to the ring the more confident I get. Once I’m in the ring I’m a god. No one could beat me. I walk around the ring but I never take my eyes off my opponent….During the fight I’m supremely confident. I’m making him miss and I’m countering. I’m hitting him to the body; I’m punching him real hard. And I’m punching him, and I’m punching him, and I know he’s gonna take my punches. He goes down, he’s out. I’m victorious. Mike Tyson, greatest fighter that ever lived.”

        — Mike Tyson

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April 12, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

 

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April 11, 2017 | 1 Comment » | Topics: Man-Up |

An easy day isn’t what you should wish for, but something to work ruthlessly towards; a purpose.

Listen, there are days when I wish I could sit on me arse and do nothing, just be lazy, but life doesn’t reward laziness and it’s those who have something to work towards that create the life they want to create and live with a purpose.

Don’t seek ease, seek meaningful work.

– Chad Howse

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April 5, 2017 | 4 Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

"The notion that human beings are always victims to their circumstances is an affront to those bold spirits who throughout history have spent their lives prevailing over adversity."

~ Jim Stockdale

Where many fail to act like men is in the belief that their actions aren’t a result of their choices. Many feel that they act only in response to what is around them, and what is around them is usually a reason (read: excuse) to give up, quit, or to put it more eloquently, to be a little bitch.

When you’re a victim to circumstance you have – in your mind – a valid reason to be less than what you can be. After-all, what you can be isn’t a choice you make but a choice made for you by the environment you were born into. You didn’t choose the town in which you were born or the parents who conceived you. You didn’t choose where you begin, so how can you be held responsible for where you end?

If you in any way agree with this notion that your circumstances choose where you end your life and what you do in your life, you need to wake the fuck up.

This is tantamount to a heroine addiction. They have similar effects. You’re at the beacon of the drug, which in your case is the love of victimhood. When you see the odds stacked against you not as a challenge – as men see them – but as immovable barriers that can’t be climbed nor destroyed, you are at the whim of your circumstance.

If times are hard you’ll shut down rather than rising to the occasion. Your views of what can be accomplished will be incredibly safe and easy. You won’t seek challenges in your life because you believe that your life is a challenge. You’ll end up living an easier life than the man to sees obstacles as a part of life, but also as things that sharpen character and feed the life force.

Just like heroine addicts often need an intervention or a moment where they hit rock bottom, if you don’t wake the fuck up as fast as humanly possible you’ll end your life regretting nearly every day you “lived”. You’ll go through your years without tasting life’s beautiful highs nor it’s crushing lows. You’ll confine yourself to the middle, to safety, to purgatory.

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April 4, 2017 | 1 Comment » | Topics: Man-Up |

“If you’re going to try, go all the way. Otherwise, don’t even start. This could mean losing girlfriends, wives, relatives and maybe even your mind. It could mean not eating for three or four days. It could mean freezing on a park bench. It could mean jail. It could mean derision. It could mean mockery–isolation. Isolation is the gift. All the others are a test of your endurance, of how much you really want to do it. And, you’ll do it, despite rejection and the worst odds. And it will be better than anything else you can imagine. If you’re going to try, go all the way. There is no other feeling like that. You will be alone with the gods, and the nights will flame with fire. You will ride life straight to perfect laughter. It’s the only good fight there is.”

― Charles Bukowski,

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April 3, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

How to overcome procrastination

They say “procrastination is the thief of time”, and we know that our time might just be the most precious resource we have in our life (you can’t get that shit back!). So when you procrastinate you are literally wasting your life. Procrastination is a habit however and all habits can be removed given the right tools. So here are 5 tips that you can use to remove procrastination from your life.

  1. Motivate yourself to start for 5 minutes Often when we procrastinate it is just because of the initial inertia of starting. Our brain having created negative associations with the task will do anything to stop us from starting. The brain loves to take the path of least resistance, so you need to trick it by convincing yourself to start for 5 minutes. Once started it is much easier to keep going, this tip will fix 50% of peoples issues with procrastination.

  2. Chunk it down We often make the task huge and daunting in our minds. Chunk that shit down, make it small and manageable. The smaller the task is the more manageable it is for the brain. Small tasks are easy for us to comply with. For example: •If you need to write a report, start by working on just the introduction •If you need to do your math homework, just focus on doing the first question •If you are editing a youtube video, just focus on recording the audio first Small is manageable, and what’s manageable gets done.

  3. Check your thoughts Change your thoughts from thinking about the negatives of the task to the positives of the consequences of its completion. We often procrastinate because of the mental dialogue in our heads “I don’t wanna”, “this shits so boring”. Change your thoughts to focusing on the potential results of your success. Focus on the upside which might be •Getting one step closer to your goals •Possible job promotion if you do it right •Youtube video could go viral •High Distinction for doing all your work Your thoughts are often what impede action, change them to propel your action.

  4. Change your environment Make everything you need for you to do the work available for you. If you need to do some work get you laptop on the desk and clear the room from distractions. If you need to read a book get it within eye shot. If you need to go for a run, have the running shoes next to your bed. Make it stupidly easy for you to do the work by changing your environment.

  5. Reward yourself Have a reward for yourself that you will give to yourself only after completing the task. Human beings are influenced by incentives. What are yours? This will keep you motivated whilst doing the work to complete it. Anyway guys if you use these five tips I doubt that you will have procrastination as a habit. Make sure to check out the animated video here: WATCH THIS

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