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The Daily Man-Up: The Metaphor Of The Tree

September 13, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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How then can you wonder at good men being shaken, in order that they may be strengthened? No tree which the wind does not often blow against is firm and strong; for it is stiffened by the very act of being shaken, and plants its roots more securely: those which grow in a sheltered valley are brittle: and so it is to the advantage of good men, and causes them to be undismayed, that they should live much amidst alarms, and learn to bear with patience what is not evil save to him who endures it ill.

Of Providence – Seneca

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The Daily Man-Up: Why You Get Used By Women

September 12, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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We live in a generation of angry young men. Men who harbor massive resentment towards women and blame them for their romantic shortcomings. But is that even fair?

You claim that women use and lead you on. That your time is disrespected. You always get friend zoned for no reason. You go online and make grand statements such as, “Women only date assholes”. Then you tell yourself, “This is why I don’t even try in the first place.”

I get it. You’re frustrated by a lack of success, and it hurts.

But maybe you should be pointing the finger at yourself. You let it happen. If you continually allow yourself to be disrespected, then you are to blame. It’s your job to prevent that from occurring or stop it when it does.

Let’s get proactive and break down why you feel used by women:

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The Daily Man-Up: “I’m a 46 year old banker and I have been living my whole life the opposite of how I wanted”

September 11, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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Hi, I my name’s John. I need to get my life off my chest. About me. I’m a 46 year old banker and I have been living my whole life the opposite of how I wanted. All my dreams, my passion, gone. In a steady 9-7 job. 6 days a week. For 26 years. I repeatedly chose the safe path for everything, which eventually changed who I was.

Today I found out my wife has been cheating on me for the last 10 years. My son feels nothing for me. I realised I missed my father’s funeral FOR NOTHING. I didn’t complete my novel, travelling the world, helping the homeless. All these things I thought I knew to be a certainty about myself when i was in my late teens and early twenties. If my younger self had met me today, I would have punched myself in the face. I’ll get to how those dreams were crushed soon.

Let’s start with a description of me when I was 20. It seemed only yesterday when I was sure I was going to change the world. People loved me, and I loved people. I was innovative, creative, spontaneous, risk-taking and great with people. I had two dreams. The first, was writing a utopic/dystopic book. The second, was travelling the world and helping the poor and homeless. I had been dating my wife for four years by then. Young love. She loved my spontaneity, my energy, my ability to make people laugh and feel loved. I knew my book was going to change the world. I would show the perspective of the ‘bad’ and the ‘twisted’, showing my viewers that everybody thinks differently, that people never think what the do is wrong. I was 70 pages through when i was 20. I am still 70 pages in, at 46. By 20, I had backpacking around New Zealand and the Phillipines. I planned to do all of Asia, then Europe, then America (I live in Australia by the way). To date, I have only been to New Zealand and the Phillipines.

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The Daily Man-Up: Seek Rejection

September 10, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

Four days before his son was born, 30-year-old Jia Jiang walked away from a six-figure job at a Fortune 100 company to pursue his startup.

Although entrepreneurs have a higher chance of succeeding if they keep their day job, Jiang had a huge investment opportunity waiting for him.

But something unexpected happened.

The investor changed his mind and told Jiang they were going to pass on his business. This crushed him.

Jiang thought he made a mistake by leaving his job without this investment. But he realized something deeper: his unconquered fear of rejection.

He knew that if he wanted to build a successful business, he’d have to overcome this fear to find success.

In November of 2012, Jiang found a game called Rejection Therapy that challenged people to seek out rejection in their everyday lives. Jiang loved the idea so much that he decided he would try 100 Days of Rejection Therapy. He would purposely try to get rejected by asking for outrageous requests and film it all to keep him accountable.

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The Daily Man-Up: 9 Signs of Male Insecurity That Turn Women Off

September 7, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Dating, Man-Up |

If a beautiful woman is insecure or shy, it doesn’t really matter to the majority of men.

Most men will still find her attractive and want to be with her even though she is a bit insecure or shy.

In fact, some guys will find it a bit of a turn on that the beautiful woman is shy and he can be more confident around her.

However, the same doesn’t apply for a woman’s attraction to a man.

Women are attracted to the emotional strengths of men such as confidence, high self-esteem and self-assuredness and turned off by emotional weaknesses such as insecurity, self-doubt and shyness.

What you may have noticed is that confident guys can easily attract women to get laid or get a girlfriend, whereas shy guys have a difficult time getting anywhere past the friend zone.

Some shy guys can get laid or get a girlfriend, but they don’t really have their choice of women because their emotional weakness turns most women off.

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The Daily Man-Up: Inspiration Is For Amateurs

September 6, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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“The advice I like to give…is to not wait around for inspiration. Inspiration is for amateurs; the rest of us just show up and get to work. If you wait around for the clouds to part and a bolt of lightning to strike you in the brain, you are not going to make an awful lot of work. All the best ideas come out of the process; they come out of the work itself…if you just get to work, something will occur to you.”

– Chuck Close

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How I Escaped My Mental Prison: 5 Habits That Changed My Life

September 5, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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You will never change your life until you change something you do daily” ~ Mike Murdock

Think about this. You are the product of what you repeatedly do. Each small action is telling of who you are.

Consistent small action over time develops into a habit. Habits can MAKE or BREAK you. This means you need to be aware of everything you do. If you put thought and intent into your actions, you can develop good habits that will put you on the path to success.

I know this is true because I experienced both the good and bad sides of habits.

I used to be weak and pathetic. I was unable to handle stress – with my mind and body working against me. I thought it would magically change one day. That I would wake up and everything would be better. After years of thinking like this, I learned the hard truth. It was not going to change unless I made it change. It took time and effort, but I learned how habits could make or break success. After trial and error, I have developed habits that work best for where I want to go in life.

My misfortune was the result of falling into bad habits. Without consciously being aware, my mind programmed itself to crave poor performance and ill health. My biggest problem was the tunnel vision that came with it. For the longest time, I was not aware of the mental prison I subconsciously built by adopting bad habits.

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The Daily Man-Up: Screw Motivation, What You Need Is Discipline

September 4, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

If you want to get anything done, there are two basic ways to get yourself to do it.

The first, more popular and devastatingly wrong option is to try to motivate yourself.

The second, somewhat unpopular and entirely correct choice is to cultivate discipline.

This is one of these situations where adopting a different perspective immediately results in superior outcomes. Few uses of the term “paradigm shift” are actually legitimate, but this one is. It’s a lightbulb moment.

What’s the difference?

Motivation, broadly speaking, operates on the erroneous assumption that a particular mental or emotional state is necessary to complete a task.

That’s completely the wrong way around.

Discipline, by contrast, separates outwards functioning from moods and feelings and thereby ironically circumvents the problem by consistently improving them.

The implications are huge.

Successful completion of tasks brings about the inner states that chronic procrastinators think they need to initiate tasks in the first place.

Put in simpler form, you don’t wait until you’re in olympic form to start training. You train to get into olympic form.

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The Daily Man-Up: All We Have Is NOW

August 31, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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All we have is right NOW. We can’t guarantee our future self will make the right decisions, and we can’t undo the past mistakes. Stop making plans to be successful in the future and start taking massive action right this very second. 

I’ve been super guilty of procrastination by planning, researching, etc. I make to do lists, spreadsheets and routines ad nauseum. I set alarms and reminders. I look at inspirational posts and daydream about the future only to never follow through. The act of making plans and lists satisfies me enough to wait till the next day to take action, which I never do.

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The Daily Man-Up: The Strenuous Life

August 29, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

In speaking to you, men of the greatest city of the West, men of the State which gave to the country Lincoln and Grant, men who pre-eminently and distinctly embody all that is most American in the American character, I wish to preach, not the doctrine of ignoble ease, but the doctrine of the strenuous life, the life of toil and effort, of labor and strife; to preach that highest form of success which comes, not to the man who desires mere easy peace, but to the man who does not shrink from danger, from hardship, or from bitter toil, and who out of these wins the splendid ultimate triumph.

A life of ignoble ease, a life of that peace which springs merely from lack either of desire or of power to strive after great things, is as little worthy of a nation as of an individual. I ask only that what every self-respecting American demands from himself and from his sons shall be demanded of the American nation as a whole. Who among you would teach your boys that ease, that peace, is to be the first consideration in their eyes-to be the ultimate goal after which they strive? You men of Chicago have made this city great, you men of Illinois have done your share, and more than your share, in making America great, because you neither preach nor practice such a doctrine. You work yourselves, and you bring up your sons to work. If you are rich and are worth your salt, you will teach your sons that though they may have leisure, it is not to be spent in idleness; for wisely used leisure merely means that those who possess it, being free from the necessity of working for their livelihood, are all the more bound to carry on some kind of non-remunerative work in science, in letters, in art, in exploration, in historical research-work of the type we most need in this country, the successful carrying out of which reflects most honor upon the nation.

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