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July 31, 2017 | 1 Comment » | Topics: Man-Up |

While I’m in the dressing room five minutes before I come out, I’m breaking my gloves down, I’m pushing the leather to the back of my gloves, so my knuckle could pierce through. When I come out I have supreme confidence. I’m scared to death. I’m afraid. I’m afraid of everything. I’m afraid of losing. I’m afraid of being humiliated. But I’m confident. The closer I get to the ring the more confident I get. The closer, the more confident. The closer the more confident I get. All during training I’ve been afraid of this man. I think this man might be capable of beating me. I’ve dreamed of him beating me. For that I’ve always stayed afraid of him. The closer I get to the ring the more confident I get. Once I’m in the ring I’m a god. No one could beat me. I walk around the ring but I never take my eyes off my opponent. Even if he’s ready and pumping, and cant wait to get his hands on me. I keep my eyes on him. I keep my eyes on him. Then once I see a chink in his armor, boom, one of his eyes may move, and then I know I have him. Then once he comes to the center of the ring he looks at me with his piercing look as if he’s not afraid. But he already made that mistake when he looked down for that one tenth of a second. I know I have him. He’ll fight hard for the first two or three rounds, but I know I broke his spirit. During the fight I’m supremely confident. I’m making him miss and I’m countering. I’m hitting him to the body; I’m punching him real hard. And I’m punching him, and I’m punching him in bunches, and I know he’s gonna take my punches. He goes down, he’s out. I m victorious. Mike Tyson, greatest fighter that ever lived.

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July 28, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

You live in a box you’ve carefully constructed to protect yourself.

So have I.

We all have.

Literally, you have designed every detail of your life to protect yourself from the fears and internal conflicts you aren’t willing to face.

In his book, The Untethered SoulMichael Singer gives the analogy of a person with a thorn in their arm. This thorn happens to be pierced right on a nerve. Consequently, with the slightest brush of the thorn, an electrifying pain shoots throughout his entire body.

In order for this person to live without pain, he has to make sure nothing touches the thorn in his arm. He can’t sleep on his bed — if he rolls over he’ll touch the thorn. So he creates a device to sleep in to protect the thorn.

Problem solved.

He can’t play sports or have much physical contact with other people. So he designs a pad that protects his arm from contact. It’s not very comfortable to wear, but it protects the thorn.

Problem solved.

He’s learned how to manage every area of his life so nothing touches that thorn. From his work to his recreation to his relationships. He’s controlled his external environment so much so that he’s freed from the troubles of his thorn.

Or is he?

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July 27, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

No matter what you’re doing right now, someone is out there working hard, doing exactly what you’re doing, but even better.

They’re putting more time into research. They’re working longer hours. They’re working smarter hours. They’re investing more time and energy and power into doing exactly what you’re doing.

So as you reach for that remote realize that someone else is reaching for the pot of coffee. They’re extending their work day. They’re putting in over time. They’re inching toward mastery while you’re, well, resting.

I mean, what’s an hour of TV? What’s a nap? What’s a couple more minutes sleeping in the comfort of your bed?

It’s EVERYTHING.

It’s the small decisions that become habits, and its your habits that make who you are, be it a millionaire or someone struggling along to make a buck. Be it a pussy, a coward who never dares greatly, or the man conquering everything he sets his sights on.

As you read this, understand that someone is doing what you’re doing, only they’re working harder than you are.

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July 26, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

Pain and discomfort are the gatekeepers of success.

They are the guardians of becoming extraordinary. No one enters without meeting — and trading punches — with them first.

Most people see these burly warriors and promptly turn the other way, hoping they were unseen. Most people avoid pain, and try to get through life without ever being unfortunate enough to meet it.

Sadly, this lifestyle actually costs far more energy, time, and effort than just getting on with it. Like avoiding the needle at the doctor, we get sicker and sicker as we avoid the very thing we most need.

“When uncomfortable, my instinct is not to avoid the discomfort but to become at peace with it. My instinct is always to seek out challenges and opposed to avoiding them.” -Josh Waitzkin, world champion chess player

No one becomes extraordinary or achieves true success without overcoming some serious pain.

Pain creates us. It reveals us. It is the fire that hardens us, the crushing pressure that chews up us lumpy pieces of coal and spits out brilliant diamonds.

In the words of Ryan Holiday, “Bad things are fuel. You don’t just want fuel — you need it. You can’t go anywhere without it.”

If you think you’re going to cheat your way into success, and somehow win the pain-free lottery and fall into your wildest dreams without ever breaking a sweat or feeling the sting of rejection or defeat…

You’re wrong.

Pain is the gatekeeper. No one goes around — you must go through.

And that’s when you realize a funny thing.

You actually kind of like the pain.

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July 25, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

“If you want to live an exceptional and extraordinary life, you have to give up many of the things that are part of a normal one.” –Srinivas Rao

Most people have a hard time saying “no.”

Most people don’t have fulfilling, intimate relationships with their loved ones.

Most people are unhealthy and overweight.

Most people are compulsive buyers and foolish spenders, perpetually in debt.

Most people have no long-term plans or goals.

Most people can’t commit to anything.

Most people don’t sleep well.

Most people consume too much alcohol, caffeine, and sugar.

In short:

Most people live ordinary, average lives.

And to quote Seth Godin:

Is there a difference between ‘average’ and ‘mediocre?’ Not so much.

The Truth is Bad For Business

The world is only too happy when people remain average and ordinary.

That’s because the larger mob of society — unfulfilled, average individuals who settle for less than they could have — play right into the world’s desire for money, power, and influence.

To put it bluntly — the world doesn’t care if you succeed. The world would rather you play your part as a cog in the bigger wheel.

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July 24, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

Soldiers, Sailors and Airmen of the Allied Expeditionary Force!

You are about to embark upon the Great Crusade, toward which we have striven these many months. The eyes of the world are upon you. The hopes and prayers of liberty-loving people everywhere march with you. In company with our brave Allies and brothers-in-arms on other Fronts, you will bring about the destruction of the German war machine, the elimination of Nazi tyranny over the oppressed peoples of Europe, and security for ourselves in a free world.

Your task will not be an easy one. Your enemy is well trained, well equipped and battle hardened. He will fight savagely. But this is the year 1944! Much has happened since the Nazi triumphs of 1940-41. The United Nations have inflicted upon the Germans great defeats, in open battle, man-to-man. Our air offensive has seriously reduced their strength in the air and their capacity to wage war on the ground. Our Home Fronts have given us an overwhelming superiority in weapons and munitions of war, and placed at our disposal great reserves of trained fighting men. The tide has turned! The free men of the world are marching together to Victory!

I have full confidence in your courage and devotion to duty and skill in battle. We will accept nothing less than full Victory!

Good luck! And let us beseech the blessing of Almighty God upon this great and noble undertaking.

SIGNED: Dwight D. Eisenhower

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July 21, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

Every single person on the planet has at least one damn good excuse for not pursuing the life they want. But guess what, the prize for arguing on behalf of your restrictions is getting to keep them.

Don’t spend your entire life loudly declaring to others that you don’t have the time, money, energy or resources to accomplish the things you actually want.

Everything worthwhile in life takes time. Any attempt to escape the process can backfire. Epictetus says “No greater thing is created suddenly, any more than a bunch of grapes or a fig. If you tell me that you desire a fig, I answer you that there must be time. Let it first blossom, then bear fruit, then ripen.”

People who get ahead in life find a way around their limitations, instead of just keeping them. You can go only go as far as your mindset allows you.

Your brain is equipped with defense mechanisms designed to shoot down anything that might keep things from staying exactly where they are.

Left unchecked, we always default toward a more comfortable path. Your comfortable zone provides a state of mental security. You can understand why it’s so hard to kick your brain out of your comfort zone.

At this very moment, you are where you’re supposed to be. No matter your age, your past, or your present, this can be a new starting point if you choose it to be so. You always have a choice.

You are not a victim of circumstance. No one can force you to make decisions and take actions that run contrary to your values and aspirations. Your future is entirely up to you.

When the pain of where you are is greater than the fear of where you are going, you will change and make progress.

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July 20, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |


(photo by Alan Turkus)

 

Stop making excuses.

Stop finding reasons for your unhappiness, your failure in life.

Stop looking at the lives others lead and enviously wanting to be in their shoes, with their upbringing, and their social status.

Whining, complaining, giving reasons for why you’re failing, they’re all excuses and they all remove YOUR ability to BE HAPPY.

For fuck’s sakes it’s getting to be too much!

Everywhere you go you hear people complaining. Conversations start about what’s wrong with their job or with the world or how they wish they could take a vacation.

You can’t! We need to work. We need to save. We need to shut up and do what we’ve gotta do because we want to not only survive, but thrive!

Since when are vacations a “right”?

Since when do we deserve what we cannot afford and should not spend our money on?

Since when is buckling down and saving and working harder not the only option?

If you don’t like where you are in life YOU HAVE TO CHANGE IT.

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