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March 12, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

Most guys make the mistake of making friends with a girl first in the hopes of working it into a meaningful relationship later.

This couldn’t be more wrong. Not only are they wasting their time and money on the girl, but they are also digging their own graves.

These men wait around with their heads down in the hopes that she will change her mind and become romantically interested in them. However, these men fail to recognize the most basic facts: If she wasn’t interested in you romantically in the beginning, what makes you think she will change her mind later?

What makes you think she’s not using you as a surrogate boyfriend until she finds somebody she really wants?

What makes you think that she isn’t just around for the ride while you spend your money and time on her?

The "Friendship Zone" is a trap… a trap so elaborate and strong that freeing yourself out of it is about as easy as climbing Mount Everest.

To her, being friends with you means she doesn’t have any sexual attraction towards you or have any romantic interest in you. You’re simply around to kill boredom or until she finds something else better to do.

She may at one point in time have found you attractive, but since she’s spent enough time with you, she now believes you are as challenging as a game of checkers with her grandma. You simply do not stir the electricity in her body and that’s why you are who you are: A Friend!


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March 9, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

Embrace the struggle; the harder it is, the more you gain from it. The more you test yourself and are required to push yourself, the tougher you become, the greater your capacity for effort becomes. It’s in the struggle that we grow and evolve, yet so many of us distract ourselves from the struggle instead of embracing it and rejoicing in it.

Harsh times aren’t curses, they’re blessings, gifts that are bestowed upon us and they’ll lead us to greatness if we see them as such. So many, though, see them not as challenges, but as curses. They compare their hardships to the cushy lives that others aim to portray. They see the hours they have to spend working to yield little results while others are traveling and partying and lying on beaches, sun-hat on head, Corona in hand.

You need to embrace the struggle, to flee from it is to fail, it’s to weaken your resolve and relegate yourself to what can only be a shell of the life you have it within you to lead. We aren’t born with this understanding, it’s something we have to learn and we usually discover its necessity through failure.

I’ve failed more than I’ve won and every time I’ve failed its the work and the persistence after that failure that created something good from it. It’s the struggle that came after the fall, the climb back from the abyss, that not only made me tougher, but generated some kind of victory that could not have been without a sadistic love for the struggle, for a prolonged focus on a single thing and an avoidance of avoidance.

If you are to be anywhere near what you can be, you must seek to forge your potential within the fire of the struggle, within the flames of hard work and persistence because there is no other way.

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March 8, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

(art: David Choe)

“Generally speaking, you’re free until you’re about 4 years old. Then you go to grammar school and then you start becoming…oriented and shoved into areas. You lose what individualism you have. If you have enough of course, you retain some of it… Then you work the 8 hour job with almost a feeling of goodness, like you’re doing something. Then you get married like marriage is a victory, and you have children like children is a victory… Marriage, birth, children. It’s something they have to do because there’s nothing else to do. There’s no glory in it, there’s no steam, there’s no fire. It’s very, very flat… You get caught into the stricture of what you’re supposed to be and you have no other choice. You’re finally molded and melded into what you’re supposed to be. I didn’t like this.”

― Charles Bukowski 

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March 7, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |


Money has been a symbol of status and power for thousands of years. And for thousands of years, women have desired wealthy men.

It makes sense…money makes the world go ‘round.

A man with money provides stability and a better standard of living. He can support children. He can offer new experiences.

We, as men, know this. It’s why so many of us work hard, dress to impress, and buy possessions that display our financial status. We want to position ourselves as high-value mates over other men.

However, some guys take this too far. They shower women they just met with absurd amounts of money. They pay for fancy dinners, lavish gifts, and high-end vacations.

The thing is, overspending doesn’t always get you the outcome you desire. It can be a viable option when you’re looking for a short-term hookup or a one-night stand…but when you’re looking for a more substantial connection, using money to attract women only sabotages your chances.


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March 6, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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You are not entitled to feeling confident.

Sorry, that’s just not how this world works.

True self-confidence and skill-specific confidence are built and earned through months and years of practice and developing high levels of competence.

It’s the result of deliberate practice, the conscious expansion of your comfort zone, and more fuck-ups and failures than you probably want to accept.

Fighter pilots aren’t just born confident in their ability to maneuver fighter jets at high speeds. They become confident by practicing their craft for years.

Successful entrepreneurs aren’t just naturally confident in their business acumen. They become confident by starting, failing, and scaling businesses until they have a system that works.

Competence breeds confidence. And if you want true self-confidence, the only way to earn it is through years of developing your competence in important areas of life.

No one can “Give” you confidence.

Nothing will “Make” you a confident person except for action.


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March 5, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

Power of choice.

Think about this one for a second…. Nick Santonastass was born with one arm and no legs. In his mind, there’s nothing he can’t do… and he’s right. He’s right because he does everything he sets his mind to. Competed as an amateur wrestler, motivational speaker, trains like a beast and today (Sat 9/23) he competes in his first bodybuilding contest. 
We chatted after my workout about the power of choice. He said, I could’ve been pissed at the world for being born like this, but instead I choose to live life to the fullest, be happy and crush everything I put my mind to and hopefully, I can inspire people to do the same.

Yes sir.

Life deals us cards on a daily basis, but we always get to decide how we’re gonna play ’em.

Keep crushing life my man and inspiring all those around you. And thank you for helping frame my perspective on life just a little bit more.

― The Rock

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March 2, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

It was the summer of 2012 and a professional trainer named Rob was hired to train the USA basketball team that would be playing in the Olympics in London.

He had the opportunity to work with so

me of the best names in basketball:

Lebron James…

Carmelo Anthony…

Kevin Durant…

But the player who stood out amongst the stars was Kobe Bryant. 

Rob had worked with some of the other members of the USA basketball team before, but this would be his first interaction with Kobe.

In his first meeting with Kobe, Rob talked about what he specialized in, where Kobe would like to be by the end of summer, and about the hustle of his teammates. Rob then gave Kobe his number and told him to call him any time he wanted to do some extra conditioning work.

Two days later, Kobe woke up Rob with a call at 4:15am in the morning.


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March 1, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

“One glance at a book and you hear the voice of another person…perhaps someone dead for thousands of years. Across the millenia, the author is speaking, clearly and silently, inside your head, directly to you. Writing is perhaps the greatest of human inventions, binding together people, citizens of distant epochs, who never knew one another.”

― Carl Sagan

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