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The Daily Man-Up: The Importance of Eye Contact

November 14, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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How often have you talked with another guy who never looked you in the eye during the entire length of the conversation? Or perhaps he did meet your gaze a few times, but then his eyes shifted back to his shoes or to some point off in the distance.

I’d like to say that the ability to make good eye contact is one of the social skills a lot of young men seem to be struggling with these days, which would be true, but I’ve encountered enough gaze-averting middle-aged men to know that it’s a multi-generational problem. And actually, it’s probably something men have always struggled with—females are on average better at making and holding eye contact than males, and in fact, it’s been found that the higher the levels of testosterone a fetus is exposed to in utero, the less eye contact they make as infants—across genders. Interestingly, the exception to this rule are male babies who have the very highest levels of T; they end up being as adept at eye contact as their female counterparts—alpha babies aren’t afraid to look you in the eye!

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The Daily Man-Up: The Impatient Mind

November 13, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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Shit’s not going to happen overnight! In a world that moves so fast, you must be able to slow your mind down. Most of us are willing to try to push ourselves harder to achieve our goal but the second we hit a setback, we get down on ourselves and allow our minds to spin out of control. Don’t let your setback define you!!! Don’t get all poopy-pants, kicking rocks with your head down! Always have your head up and shoulders back during setbacks. That body language sends a direct message to your brain that you are still in the game until you hear the whistle! 
If you goal is to lose weight, your setback might be that you have plateaued. I remember when I was trying to lose the weight to go to BUD/S and for the first three weeks, I lost 15lbs a week and then in the 4th week…I lost 4lbs. I pushed extra hard the 5th week and again, lost a staggering 3lbs. The clock was against me as I had just a few weeks left in order to make the cut-off date so I had to realize that while I wasn’t dropping the weight as quickly as I was initially, my new norm was 52lbs lighter than where I started and from there I had only 54lbs to go! I was no longer looking at 106lbs, I had just 54lbs left and it happened in the weeks to follow. 

What works for me during a long setback is to look at your setback as your new normal for a while until you get past your plateau. 

The key is to quiet your mind while in mental hell and embrace whatever obstacle is in front of you with open arms. We must learn to conserve energy and to control the emotional and mental stresses of our setbacks.

David Goggins

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The Daily Man-Up: How to Stop Comparing and Start Winning

November 12, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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“Comparison is the thief of joy.” Theodore Roosevelt

Nothing good comes from comparison. Not good can come from comparison, and even those things that are good turn sour by that nasty little habit that’s become far too common today.

It’s easy to compare. We know far more people than we used to (without truly knowing them at all). We have visual access to snapshots of their lives that they want us to see, without the visuals that they do not want to show.

There are so many paths in life that yield so many different results, give varying benefits, and provide results at different times in life that comparing is even more futile than it once was.

The young fella who has a great business idea early in his life and makes a buttload of money has a far different path than the fella who works for a company, learns the ins-and-outs of the industry, finally creates his own business, and makes a buttload of money later in life, regardless of if they both earn the same amount in their lifetime.

The only certainty is that comparison would rob the guy who finds success later in life of the energy, motivation, happiness, and perspective that would warrant that eventual success.

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The Daily Man-Up: 5 Ways Social Media Can Cripple Your Self-Esteem

November 9, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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#1: Thirst for Validation

Imagine this: you open your phone and post a photo to Instagram. 

Think about what happens next…

Do you continue your day as normal? Or do you sit around waiting to hear your phone vibrate with a new notification? Be honest with yourself.

The harsh truth is that most of us are just looking for validation. We just want a bunch of people to “like” our post. It makes us feel important. It makes us feel popular.

You love hearing that notification come in. You love getting other people’s attention. You love the feeling of approval that comes with each and every “like” your new post receives.

This is natural. It’s simple human nature. The problem is that social media allows you to “indulge” this instinct with incredible ease. And then you get addicted. You “need” to feel this validation every so often to feel good about yourself…

You begin to rely on “likes” in order to be confident.

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The Daily Man-Up: Why You Should Try No-Fap November

November 8, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up, No Fap |

This process changes – and usually improves – the life of every man who even attempts it. Here’s the best part: You can channel that change and focus it on your sex life, if you choose to, and it will get you laid. IF you do it correctly, that is…. and don’t cheat.

Here’s how: you have a primal, almost irresistible urge to procreate. That biological urge, when mixed with your testosterone, is intended to motivate you to jump out of bed in the morning ready to fight and fcuk your way through the herd, leaving vanquished foes and satiated hoes in your wake. Unfortunately, our advanced brains and opposable thumbs over time have discovered an almost perfect and flawless cheat: Masturbation. After all, it’s so much easier, so much less of a hassle, to simply cut all the corners, skip through the level, and polish that platinum trophy really fast until the end credits roll.

Here’s where this wonderful thing we’re discovering called NoFap comes in: You, being the horny, over-sexed, perverted woman crazy fiend that you are, have a choice in how you get off.: Your hand or a vagina. You may feel like only one of those choices is viable, but that’s merely because it’s the EASY choice, so it appears to be the preferred one. Guess what: If you actually stop jerking off, and I mean STOP – eliminate it as a possibilty from your life (as I and many others have) – your sex starved brain and testicles will literally lead you out into the world and between the legs of a female. It just HAPPENS. Try it, you numbskull. You’ll see that I speak the truth.

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The Daily Man-Up: Ease is the Enemy

November 7, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

“Nothing in the world is worth having or worth doing unless it means effort, pain, difficulty… I have never in my life envied a human being who led an easy life. I have envied a great many people who led difficult lives and led them well.” ― Theodore Roosevelt

Ease isn’t your friend. It’s your enemy.

It stands as a false ideal, something to aspire to have in the present, without having earned it.

And do we ever really earn ease?

Ease, laziness, they’re regression. They’re waste.

They rip from us our potential, and the life we can potentially create, and yet we constantly heed their siren-like call and settle into their grasp, ignorant of the fact that they oppose the act of living, they poison potential, they crush creation.

Ease isn’t an ally, it’s a devious, son-of-a-bitch of an enemy that clouds the true path.

It’s a path where we find what we’re made of, where we create something better than what we have, where we discover meaning, purpose, and pride.

It’s in struggle, strife, and pain, it’s in effort, hard work, and battle, that we create power.

Nothing good has ever come from a quest for ease. 

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The Daily Man-Up: 7 Strange Questions That Help You Find Your Life Purpose

November 6, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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One day, when my brother was 18, he waltzed into the living room and proudly announced to my mother and me that one day he was going to be a senator. My mom probably gave him the “That’s nice, dear,” treatment while I’m sure I was distracted by a bowl of Cheerios or something.

But for fifteen years, this purpose informed all of my brother’s life decisions: what he studied in school, where he chose to live, who he connected with, and even what he did with many of his vacations and weekends.

And now, after almost half a lifetime of work later, he’s the chairman of a major political party in his city and the youngest judge in the state. In the next few years, he hopes to run for office for the first time.

Don’t get me wrong. My brother is a freak. This basically never happens.

Most of us have no clue what we want to do with our lives. Even after we finish school. Even after we get a job. Even after we’re making money. Between ages 18 and 25, I changed career aspirations more often than I changed my underwear. And even after I had a business, it wasn’t until I was 28 that I clearly defined what I wanted for my life.

Chances are you’re more like me and have no clue what you want to do. It’s a struggle almost every adult goes through. “What do I want to do with my life?” “What am I passionate about?” “What do I not suck at?” I often receive emails from people in their 40s and 50s who still have no clue what they want to do with themselves.

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The Daily Man-Up: You Know You’re a Pussy If…

November 5, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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If you live the life of a pussy, you’re going to live the life of a dependent. You’re going to live a life where others are in control of your present and your future. You’re going to be envious and cynical. You’re never going to realize the talents you possess or the opportunities that have passed you by.

Laziness has never won anyone anything, and neither has weakness.

As a society we need stronger, grittier men, clearly. But on an individual level, if there’s any ounce of you that wants to improve, to become better than the man you currently are, you, like I, are going to have to toughen up.

You’re going to have to forgo many of the habits that you’ve incurred over the years and replace them with new ones.

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The Daily Man-Up: You’ll Only Develop Self Discipline If You Have A Strong Enough Why

November 2, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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If you want to have self discipline to do the things you know you need to do, then you need to know your “why”.

Your “why” is what drives you and stops you from getting lazy and giving in to temptation. For example, if you weigh 500lbs and you want to lose all that extra weight, you will be presented with temptations to over eat, eat unhealthy foods, etc. In those moments of temptation where you want to binge on 3 big Macs and 2 Oreo mcflurries, the only thing that can get you to resist the desire to over eat is to have your “why” deeply ingrained in your mind. Your why in this situation is your ideal body. What feelings does having that ideal body evoke inside you? You need to keep that visual of your ideal body at the forefront of your mind. When you’re tempted by the food, visualize the body you desire. If that vision of your future self in an ideal body evokes stronger emotions than eating the unhealthy food, then you will succeed. You should feel emotions of excitement everytime you think about your future body if you are to be successful. If you don’t feel those emotions then you will give into the food because that is what excites you more.

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The Daily Man-Up: There Is Never A Perfect Time For You To Take Action

November 1, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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There is never a perfect time for you to take action. There is never a perfect time for you to launch that project, to spend time with your family, to write a book, change your habit, or embrace a new habit. Once you acknowledge this, you will get a lot more meaningful work done everyday.

I’m too tired. I don’t have the time. I am not capable. Someone else will do it. It’s too late now. Now is not the right time. I am not talented. I am not ready. I’m too scared. Nobody will help me. What if I fail. I don’t feel motivated. I’d rather do nothing. I don’t have the money..yet!

It’s easy to come up with excuses and justify not getting started. The longer you fill your head with rationalizations and empty excuses, the less time you have to take action.

It’s easy to say, “I will start when I have more experience, money, time and resources”. By this time next year, you will have a lot more excuses.

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