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July 7, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

When you’re a boy, it’s alright to do kid things. That’s what our childhood and teenage years are for.

But with each passing year, the line between “boy” and “man” is becoming blurred. We’re taking longer to move out, find steady jobs and get married. We delay the responsibilities of manhood to enjoy ourselves for longer.

This is fantastic. It’s great that we’re making the most of our lives, exploring all available options and challenging the status quo. But all these things only have value if you do them as a man – not as a boy.

Below are 5 ways to know you’re not a real man (yet). If any of them apply to you, make some changes to your life and start living with strength, dignity and manliness. It’s the best decision you’ll ever make.

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July 6, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

People pray to win money or to be blessed with things in the future when they already have the blessing to create what they want; life. (Read This: Don’t Set Another Goal Until You Read This)

You’re born with enough to create what you want. It will take longer than you think, much longer, and it will be far more difficult than you think, but you are born with the capacities to create a great life.

Don’t dream about a gift, don’t pray for a gift, don’t wish you were given a gift.

The journey to success – however that’s defined in your heart – is where strength is acquired, toughness is developed, and grit is created.

Most people will blame God or society for them not having what they want, and they’ll never have what they want. Then there are those who realize that blessings they already have, like the ability to breathe, think, solve problems, and most importantly work harder than anyone else if they so choose, and they’ll take the steps necessary for success.

Wishing for a gift and praying for change is ignorant. It’s ignorant of the strength you can potentially create, the change you have the capacity to bring about.

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July 5, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

Were all the geniuses of history to focus on this single theme, they could never fully express their bafflement at the darkness of the human mind. No person would give up even an inch of their estate, and the slightest dispute with a neighbor can mean hell to pay; yet we easily let others encroach on our lives — worse, we often pave the way for those who will take it over. No person hands out their money to passersby, but to how many do each of us hand out our lives! We’re tight-fisted with property and money, yet think too little of wasting time, the one thing about which we should all be the toughest misers.” — Seneca

Each day there will be endless interruptions: phone calls, emails, visitors, unexpected events. Booker T. Washington observed that “the number of people who stand ready to consume one’s time, to no purpose, is almost countless.” A philosopher, on the other hand, knows that these intrusions prevent us from doing the thinking and work we were put here to do. This is why they so diligently protect their personal space and thoughts from trespassers and needy neighbors. They know that a few minutes of contemplation are worth more than any meeting or report. They also know how little time we’re actually given in life — and how quickly our stores can be depleted.

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July 3, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

When things go wrong, as they sometimes will,
When the road you’re trudging seems all uphill,
When funds are low and the debts are high,
And you want to smile but you have to sigh,
When care is pressing you down a bit,
Rest if you must, but don’t you quit.

Life is queer with its twists and turns,
As every one of us sometimes learns,
And many a failure turns about,
When he might have won if he’d stuck it out.
Don’t give up, though the pace seems slow –
You may succeed with another blow.

Often the goal is nearer than
It seems to a faint and faltering man;
Often the struggler has given up
When he might have captured the victor’s cup,
And he learned too late, when the night slipped down,
How close he was to the golden crown.

Success is failure turned inside out –
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt,
And you never can tell how close you are –
It may be near when it seems afar;
So stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit –
It’s when things seem worst that you mustn’t quit.

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June 30, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

Men love a good challenge. When we have to work for something, we see it as more valuable. We tend not to appreciate what’s handed to us as much.

Think about every good story ever written. It focuses on the hero’s journey. The main character must face some struggle which makes his victory that much sweeter.  If there was no tension, no battle, nothing to work for — it would be…boring.

The same goes for dating. A lot of men complain that they don’t want women to play any games. They just want them to be upfront. But what we say can be different than what we respond to.

When a woman is too available or shows too much interest early on, many men become hesitant. They question why things are so easy. And they are less attracted because of it.

So on many occasions, women are forced to challenge men in order to win their affection. And you need to be ready for when that happens. School is in session.

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June 29, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

The metaphor of  the road to success being a mountain isn’t right.

There is no end. Thinking that there is takes you away from that thing that’s sharpening you, strengthening you, making you tougher, and that thing is the grind, it’s the process, it’s the minutia and the struggle of a life that’s ambitious.

To expect the grind to dissipate is to desire and end to that thing that makes you better. To rest on top of a mountain and to think you’re done is to finish life, it’s to give up or give in.

You’re not working to some end. You’re not hustling trying to find a place in the sun, a place of silence and peace. No, you’re hustling because you love the hustle, you see the good in it, the necessity of it.

To be great is to forego the mindset of the many and acquire the hard view, the torturous view that every damn day you’re going to wake up and thrive at what others run from; the struggle, the hustle, the pain that makes weak men strong and strong men great.

YOU’RE GOING TO GET MORE FROM THE STRUGGLE THAN YOU GIVE TO IT.

The struggle gives, it doesn’t take. It seems like it’s breaking you down, and it may be, but you decide whether it makes you stronger or if it defeats you.

If you have any ounce of ambition or pride you’re going to guarantee that it doesn’t consume you but that you use it daily to become stronger and harder.

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June 28, 2017 | 1 Comment » | Topics: Man-Up |

He is a wise man who does not grieve for the things which he has not, but rejoices for those which he has. ~ Epictetus

Advertising is all around us and it rarely seems like advertising at all. We’re shown what we should aspire to have when our friend buys a new car. We’re told what to buy and what to desire when we watch a TV show.

A life of consumption is a life of dependence. How can a man be free if he’s dependent on the rush of a purchase?

Power comes from being self-reliant and being in control of your desires. It’s becoming more and more difficult, to be in control, to know what’s real and what’s not, or what’s needed and what isn’t.

The vision or the ideal you’re being pitched by your pal, your neighbor, or your TV screen isn’t real. It’s now what you should want because it isn’t the thing that will get you what you want.

What you want is power, freedom, accomplishment, and happiness.

A purchase cannot do that. What you do not have cannot do that.

Everything you need is within your brain and your soul and it’s your job to figure out how to bring it about.

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June 27, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

They all believe that if they are “good” and do everything “right,” they will be loved, get their needs met, and have a problem-free life. This attempt to be good typically involves trying to eliminate or hide certain things about themselves (their mistakes, needs, emotions) and become what they believe others want them to be (generous, helpful, peaceful, etc.). I call these men Nice Guys. Up to now we haven’t paid much attention to the Nice Guy, but he is everywhere. He is the relative who lets his wife run the show. He is the buddy who will do anything for anybody, but whose own life seems to be in shambles. He is the guy who frustrates his wife or girlfriend because he is so afraid of conflict that nothing ever gets resolved. He is the boss who tells one person what they want to hear, then reverses himself to please someone else. He is the man who lets people walk all over him because he doesn’t want to rock the boat. He is the dependable guy at church or the club who will never say “no,” but would never tell anyone if they were imposing on him. He is the man whose life seems so under control, until BOOM, one day he does something to destroy it all.

Every Nice Guy is unique, but all have a cluster of similar characteristics. These traits are the result of a script, often formed in childhood, that guides their lives. While other men may have one or two of these traits, Nice Guys seem to possess a significant number.

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