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The Daily Man-Up: The Most Important Life-Changing Habit in Two Words: START NOW

November 26, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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Millions of people are convinced that something must change in their lives to be better, to live life to the fullest or pursue something meaningful.

That project, that blog, that podcast, that ebook, that art, that side project is what I’m talking about.

Many people consistently hold back, and waste precious time.

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Here’s the truth. If you lack time to do work that matters to you, you’re probably wasting a lot of your free time.

If you deeply care about your life’s work, you will make time, even if it’s just 30 minutes a day building or creating something that doesn’t feel like work.

Instead of the excitement of experimentation, many people feel self-doubt and fear. They just go through life. Just like that.

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The Daily Man-Up: The Transformative Power of the Gratitude Habit

November 21, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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There’s a small habit that I practice, that can turn difficult situations into much better ones — and it won’t surprise you. It’s the habit of gratitude.

This is such a simple habit, and it’s one that we o

ften forget to practice. But when we do, it can transform our entire perspective, and with it our whole life.

Let me give you an example. About 10 years ago, I remember being caught in a rainstorm and being soaked, and also feeling generally stressed about being broke and hating my job and unhappy with my health. I was a bit depressed about it all, actually.

Then I decided to make a mental list of everything I was grateful for, right there in the rain. It was a long list, and while I can’t remember everything on it, some of the things I remember include:

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November 20, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

"I have hunted our Thanksgiving turkeys for ages. I had an opportunity to harvest and take home a turkey straight from the land on which it was raised and roamed naturally @roamranch are creating opportunities to connect people to their food on deeper level. 

Your food does not come from the freezer or the store—it comes from the earth. Even if you don’t hunt/harvest your own food, consider the life and existence that preceded it being on your plate. Stop pretending that seeing words like “sustainable, renewable, organic” are anything other than marketing tools to make you buy them. Start believing in regenerative farming and that we can still save this planet. We have been jacking it up for 100 years. Be thankful for this earth and realize it’s time we start healing it."

Tim Kennedy

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The Daily Man-Up: It Would Be A Tragedy To Never Face Adversity In Life

November 19, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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No man is more unhappy than he who never faces adversity. for he is not permitted to prove himself. ~ Seneca

In our society, it’s the man who is born into wealth who is viewed as being blessed with a gift that he did not have to earn. But it is the man born into much adversity who is given the greatest gift of all: the gift to test his mettle, to prove his worth, to see what he is, indeed, made of.

It’s while this man is facing obstacle after obstacle that, if he so chooses, will acquire far more grit and toughness than his counterpart who’s faced little in the way of tribulation.

Great men aren’t always the ones we read about in history books. They’re often the men who faced life as men, who refused to refuse responsibility, who took what was coming on their feet and made the lives of those around them not only better, but possible.

Our society judges success numerically. It’s normally what a man’s done or what he’s acquired that we judge him on. The true value of a man, however, isn’t found in his bank account or on his property, but within him. It’s difficult to explain the importance of this fact because everywhere you go and everyone you talk to will likely judge you on the former rather than the latter. But it’s their judgment that you cannot fret over nor take to heart.

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November 16, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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The person who risks nothing, does nothing, has nothing, is nothing, and becomes nothing. He may avoid suffering and sorrow, but he simply cannot learn, feel, change, grow or love. Chained by his certitude, he is a slave; he has forfeited his freedom. Only the person who risks is truly free.

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The Daily Man-Up: The Mindset You Need to Talk to Any Woman

November 15, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Dating, Man-Up |

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The fear that holds you back doesn’t have to

Most men tell me they don’t approach for three main reasons:

  1. You feel you’re doing something wrong or shameful. You don’t want to creep a girl out or make her feel like you’re hitting on her. You don’t want to bother her. You’re worried what your friends, her friends, or people nearby might think.
  2. You don’t know what to say. You can’t seem to find the right words. You feel like you don’t know how to approach without something really cool or engaging to say.
  3. You’re worried about being rejected. You don’t want to face that moment when she shows you she’s not interested. Maybe you think she might even be harsh or disgusted.

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The Daily Man-Up: The Importance of Eye Contact

November 14, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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How often have you talked with another guy who never looked you in the eye during the entire length of the conversation? Or perhaps he did meet your gaze a few times, but then his eyes shifted back to his shoes or to some point off in the distance.

I’d like to say that the ability to make good eye contact is one of the social skills a lot of young men seem to be struggling with these days, which would be true, but I’ve encountered enough gaze-averting middle-aged men to know that it’s a multi-generational problem. And actually, it’s probably something men have always struggled with—females are on average better at making and holding eye contact than males, and in fact, it’s been found that the higher the levels of testosterone a fetus is exposed to in utero, the less eye contact they make as infants—across genders. Interestingly, the exception to this rule are male babies who have the very highest levels of T; they end up being as adept at eye contact as their female counterparts—alpha babies aren’t afraid to look you in the eye!

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The Daily Man-Up: The Impatient Mind

November 13, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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Shit’s not going to happen overnight! In a world that moves so fast, you must be able to slow your mind down. Most of us are willing to try to push ourselves harder to achieve our goal but the second we hit a setback, we get down on ourselves and allow our minds to spin out of control. Don’t let your setback define you!!! Don’t get all poopy-pants, kicking rocks with your head down! Always have your head up and shoulders back during setbacks. That body language sends a direct message to your brain that you are still in the game until you hear the whistle! 
If you goal is to lose weight, your setback might be that you have plateaued. I remember when I was trying to lose the weight to go to BUD/S and for the first three weeks, I lost 15lbs a week and then in the 4th week…I lost 4lbs. I pushed extra hard the 5th week and again, lost a staggering 3lbs. The clock was against me as I had just a few weeks left in order to make the cut-off date so I had to realize that while I wasn’t dropping the weight as quickly as I was initially, my new norm was 52lbs lighter than where I started and from there I had only 54lbs to go! I was no longer looking at 106lbs, I had just 54lbs left and it happened in the weeks to follow. 

What works for me during a long setback is to look at your setback as your new normal for a while until you get past your plateau. 

The key is to quiet your mind while in mental hell and embrace whatever obstacle is in front of you with open arms. We must learn to conserve energy and to control the emotional and mental stresses of our setbacks.

David Goggins

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The Daily Man-Up: How to Stop Comparing and Start Winning

November 12, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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“Comparison is the thief of joy.” Theodore Roosevelt

Nothing good comes from comparison. Not good can come from comparison, and even those things that are good turn sour by that nasty little habit that’s become far too common today.

It’s easy to compare. We know far more people than we used to (without truly knowing them at all). We have visual access to snapshots of their lives that they want us to see, without the visuals that they do not want to show.

There are so many paths in life that yield so many different results, give varying benefits, and provide results at different times in life that comparing is even more futile than it once was.

The young fella who has a great business idea early in his life and makes a buttload of money has a far different path than the fella who works for a company, learns the ins-and-outs of the industry, finally creates his own business, and makes a buttload of money later in life, regardless of if they both earn the same amount in their lifetime.

The only certainty is that comparison would rob the guy who finds success later in life of the energy, motivation, happiness, and perspective that would warrant that eventual success.

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The Daily Man-Up: 5 Ways Social Media Can Cripple Your Self-Esteem

November 9, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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#1: Thirst for Validation

Imagine this: you open your phone and post a photo to Instagram. 

Think about what happens next…

Do you continue your day as normal? Or do you sit around waiting to hear your phone vibrate with a new notification? Be honest with yourself.

The harsh truth is that most of us are just looking for validation. We just want a bunch of people to “like” our post. It makes us feel important. It makes us feel popular.

You love hearing that notification come in. You love getting other people’s attention. You love the feeling of approval that comes with each and every “like” your new post receives.

This is natural. It’s simple human nature. The problem is that social media allows you to “indulge” this instinct with incredible ease. And then you get addicted. You “need” to feel this validation every so often to feel good about yourself…

You begin to rely on “likes” in order to be confident.

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