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April 3, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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Far too often, I see many men repeat the same pattern, over and over again. They start off confident, decisive, and focused on their own life…and then, because of this, a woman becomes attracted to them.

Then, however, over time, they abandon the principles that made her attracted in the first place. They stop focusing on their own life and their own growth, and they start focusing on pleasing her and making sure she’s happy.

“But Jon, isn’t it a good thing to make your girlfriend happy?” someone might ask. Yes, it is—but it should never be your PURPOSE, do you understand?

This is a relatively nuanced point that 99% of people will miss, but I trust my audience has the intelligence to understand it. This isn’t a “black or white,” situation, there’s a lot of grey. Yes, obviously you can still do things to make your woman happy.

BUT, it should never be your #1 priority or focus. Your number one priority should be enhancing YOUR LIFE, and bringing her along for the ride. Think of your life as a movie, where you’re the lead male. You’re the star of the show.

You’re completely focused on accomplishing your goals and living your life how YOU want to live it. If you find a girl who loves you, and who wants to be a part of that, then great—bring her along for the ride. But remember that it’s YOUR ride, not hers.

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April 2, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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10 Things not taught in high school

Rule 1: Life is not fair – get used to it!

Rule 2: The world won’t care about your self-esteem. The world will expect you to accomplish something BEFORE you feel good about yourself.

Rule 3: You will NOT make $60,000 a year right out of high school. You won’t be a vice-president with a car phone until you earn both.

Rule 4: If you think your teacher is tough, wait till you get a boss.

Rule 5: Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your Grandparents had a different word for burger flipping: they called it opportunity.

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March 30, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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We can decide to be whatever we want to be simply by controlling our choices and choosing to act as a warrior rather than a worrier or a cower. Few take this ability and run with it. Most choose to play the role of the victim because it’s far easier to excuse yourself from battle than it is to enter the arena of life.

I know this is just an article, just a brief collection of thoughts, but it can be a massive catalyst in your life.

Regardless of who you are, you’re choosing victimhood in aspects of your life; I know I am.

You’re choose to aim small rather than aiming big because you know the risk involved in putting all of your eggs in one basket and aiming all of your energy and focus toward a single, massively audacious goal.

You fail, you’re toast.

But that’s not how life works. You will fail. This is where you’ll learn. This is where you’ll persist or shift and take one more step while every other rat in the race quits.

Now, dig deep.

Breath deep, think deep.

Who do you want to be and what do you want to be great at?

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March 29, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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Success in any pursuit requires a mentally tough mind. You can have all the resources, but if your mind is a mess, you will fail. I’ve become obsessed with the mind and have tried everything to stack the odds in my favor.

I’ve spent four years training my brain every day to make it see what I want it to see. What do I want my brain to see and hopefully yours too? All the abundance, positivity, and happiness in this world. I want to have less negative thoughts and be driven by my higher self rather than by fear.

No longer do I want the traditional media outlets to poison my brain with their bad news dopamine hits. I’ve made a pact never to be defeated by any event in my life no matter how tragic or horrible it may seem. Deep down, you want the same thing as me, and that requires mental toughness.

It’s time to become like an ancient warrior. It’s time to build resilience that will help you get through even the coldest winter. It’s time to take the game of life to the next level and learn the hidden super power that is a warrior like mental toughness. Are you with me soldier?

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March 28, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

Life is tough sometimes.

Every now and then, life tends to throw you a curveball and a woman wants to be able to rely on her man to remain strong no matter what happens.

She doesn’t want to have to be the strong one or “the man” and take care of a scared, sensitive or insecure guy who can’t handle the pressures of life as a human being. She wants to be able to relax into being the more emotionally sensitive and vulnerable one, rather than having to be strong for her guy because he is weak.

All across the world, women are naturally attracted to the emotional strength in men (e.g. confidence, determination, high self-esteem, calm under pressure, etc) and turned off by the weakness (e.g. insecurity, shyness, anxiety, nervousness, etc).

When a woman can see that her man always remains emotionally strong no matter how tough life gets or how much she tests him (e.g. by being less affectionate, throwing tantrums, etc), it deepens her respect and attraction for him in a profound way.

She can look up to him and respect him as the man in the relationship, rather than looking down on him and feeling as though she’s gotten herself involved with a half a man or a wimpy guy who isn’t emotionally strong enough for a woman like her.

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March 27, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

Basic SEAL training is six months of long torturous runs in the soft sand, midnight swims in the cold water off San Diego, obstacle courses, unending calisthenics, days without sleep and always being cold, wet and miserable.

It is six months of being constantly harassed by professionally trained warriors who seek to find the weak of mind and body and eliminate them from ever becoming a Navy SEAL.

But, the training also seeks to find those students who can lead in an environment of constant stress, chaos, failure and hardships.

To me basic SEAL training was a life time of challenges crammed into six months.

So, here are the ten lessons I learned from basic SEAL training that hopefully will be of value to you as you move forward in life.

Every morning in basic SEAL training, my instructors, who at the time were all Viet Nam veterans, would show up in my barracks room and the first thing they would inspect was your bed.

If you did it right, the corners would be square, the covers pulled tight, the pillow centered just under the headboard and the extra blanket folded neatly at the foot of the rack—rack—that’s Navy talk for bed.

It was a simple task—mundane at best. But every morning we were required to make our bed to perfection. It seemed a little ridiculous at the time, particularly in light of the fact that were aspiring to be real warriors, tough battle hardened SEALs—but the wisdom of this simple act has been proven to me many times over.

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March 26, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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Instead of saying “I don’t have time” try saying “it’s not a priority,” and see how that feels. Often, that’s a perfectly adequate explanation. I have time to iron my sheets, I just don’t want to. But other things are harder. Try it: “I’m not going to edit your résumé, sweetie, because it’s not a priority.” “I don’t go to the doctor because my health is not a priority.” If these phrases don’t sit well, that’s the point. Changing our language reminds us that time is a choice. If we don’t like how we’re spending an hour, we can choose differently.

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March 23, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

“It’s so sad that so much of our society says, ‘man, thank God it’s Friday.’ Thank God that five of the seven days of my life are over because I hate five-sevenths of my life. Now I’m going to spend two-sevenths getting drunk at the Olive Garden so I don’t have to think about the upcoming five-sevenths. Thank God.

That’s so sad. Find something to do that you love, or at least something you can do that you can tolerate so that you can then have time to do what you love after work. "

― Nick Offerman

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March 22, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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One of the oldest rules of personal finance is the simple admonition to pay yourself first. All the money books tell you to do it. All the personal finance blogs say it, too. Even your parents have given you the same advice.

But it’s hard. That money could be used someplace else. You could pay the phone bill, could pay down debt, could buy a new DVD player. You’ve tried once or twice in the past, but it’s so easy to forget. You don’t keep a budget, so when payday rolls around, the money just finds its way elsewhere.

And besides: What does “pay yourself first” even mean?

To pay yourself first means simply this: Before you pay your bills, before you buy groceries, before you do anything else, set aside a portion of your income to save. Put the money into your 401(k), your Roth IRA, or your savings account. The first bill you pay each month should be to yourself. This habit, developed early, can help you build tremendous wealth.

Why pay yourself first?
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March 21, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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There is never a perfect time for you to take action. There is never a perfect time for you to launch that project, to spend time with your family, to write a book, change your habit, or embrace a new habit. Once you acknowledge this, you will get a lot more meaningful work done everyday.

I’m too tired. I don’t have the time. I am not capable. Someone else will do it. It’s too late now. Now is not the right time. I am not talented. I am not ready. I’m too scared. Nobody will help me. What if I fail. I don’t feel motivated. I’d rather do nothing. I don’t have the money..yet!

It’s easy to come up with excuses and justify not getting started. The longer you fill your head with rationalizations and empty excuses, the less time you have to take action.

It’s easy to say, “I will start when I have more experience, money, time and resources”. By this time next year, you will have a lot more excuses.

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