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March 20, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

“A well built physique is a status symbol. It reflects you worked hard for it, no money can buy it. You cannot borrow it, you cannot inherit it, you cannot steal it. You cannot hold onto it without constant work. It shows discipline, it shows self respect, it shows patience, work ethic and passion. That is why I do what I do.”

― Arnold Schwarzenegger

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March 19, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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You prove why you were born every day and every minute by the things you do and by the things you don’t do. ~Chad Howse

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There are a lot of babies that don’t make it out of the womb. There are others who die in infancy.

There are children and teens who die early deaths and here I sit thinking about what it is I should be doing.

Every minute I give a reason for my life. I determine whether it’s a good reason or a bad one, whether I’m worthy of the gift of life or whether it was wasted on me.

The harsh reality is that most of our lives are wasted. Many spend more time in avoidance than in actual action. Many others set to be mediocre not understanding the travesty of such a pursuit, the waste of such an attempt when the choice to pursue something greater is also on the table.

Few live with the tenacity of someone who understands that, not only are their days numbered, but millions didn’t even get the chance at the thing they now waste in laziness and mediocrity.

We prove we’re worth the chance by living.

Living, however, isn’t found in seeking safety nor falling in line. Living is using fear as a compass, something to guide you to, not from.

Living isn’t found in ease but in challenges, and in constantly finding greater challenges.

It exists in daring greatly, getting into the arena of life and getting your ass kicked while you’re in there, but getting up time and time again.

Life isn’t found in self-pity, in envy, in the narcissism and cynicism that pervades so much of our society.

Are you worth the gift?

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March 16, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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At the beginning of any path, we’re excited and nervous. So we seek to comfort ourselves externally instead of inwardly. There’s a weak side to each of us, that — like a trade union — isn’t exactly malicious but at the end of the day still wants to get as much public credit and attention as it can for doing the least. That side we call ego.

The writer and former Gawker blogger Emily Gould — ­essentially a real-­life Hannah Horvath — realized this during her two-­year struggle to get a novel published. Though she had a six-­figure book deal, she was stuck. Why? She was too busy “spending a lot of time on the Internet,” that’s why.

“In fact, I can’t really remember anything else I did in 2010. I tumbld, I tweeted and I scrolled. This didn’t earn me any money but it felt like work… It was also the only creative thing I was doing.”

She did what a lot of us do when we’re scared or overwhelmed by a project — she did everything but focus on it. In fact, many valuable endeavors we undertake are painfully difficult, whether it’s coding a new startup or mastering a craft. But talking, talking is always easy. So we do that instead.

It’s a temptation that exists for everyone — for talk and hype to replace action.

Doing great work is a struggle. It’s draining, it’s demoralizing, it’s frightening — not always, but it can feel that way when we’re deep in the middle of it. We talk to fill the void and the uncertainty.

The question is, when faced with your particular challenge — ­whether it is researching in a new field, starting a business, producing a film, securing a mentor, advancing an important cause — do you seek the respite of talk or do you face the struggle head­-on?

Ryan Holiday – Ego Is The Enemy

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March 15, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

On February 6, SpaceX launched its first Falcon Heavy rocket and shot the electric car into deep space with a spacesuit-clad “Starman” dummy in the driver’s seat. The Tesla will cross the orbit of Mars sometime in July, swing past the orbit of Earth in August 2019, and repeat this roughly nine-month cosmic loop for thousands or even millions of years.

Musk said this was the “silliest thing” he could imagine launching with Falcon Heavy, leading some critics to bring up his ego — after all, it was Musk’s car, and one made by a car company he runs.

But Musk tweeted on Saturday that his intention was part of something much bigger.

“Life cannot just be about solving one sad problem after another,” he said. “There need to be things that inspire you, that make you glad to wake up in the morning and be part of humanity. That is why we did it. We did for you.”

Musk expanded on his rationale for the stunt and his larger dream for space travel.

“We really wanted to get the public here to wonder, to get excited about the possibility of something new happening in space — of the space frontier getting pushed forward,” Musk told the audience at SXSW. “The goal of this was to inspire you and make you believe again, just as people believed in the Apollo era, that anything is possible.”

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March 14, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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“Don’t think about winning the SEC Championship. Don’t think about the national championship. Think about what you needed to do in this drill, on this play, in this moment. That’s the process: Let’s think about what we can do today, the task at hand.” – Nick Saban

Process finds a way to turn something complex into something simple. Simple isn’t easy, but it is easier. You’ve got something difficult? Don’t focus on the whole thing. Instead break it down into pieces. Simply do what you need to do right now. And do it well. And then move on to the next thing. Follow the process and not the prize.

Whether it’s pursuing the pinnacle of success in your field, or simply surviving some awful or trying ordeal, the same approach works. Don’t think about the end—think about surviving. Getting it right from meal to meal, meeting to meeting, project to project, paycheck to paycheck, one day at a time.

Trust the process.

Ryan Holiday – The Obstacle Is The Way

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March 13, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

"I have nothing left"

David Goggins finishes third in the 2007 Badwater Ultramarathon in 25 hours and 49 minutes. Goggins shares his experience in the race and receives his award. Badwater Ultramarathon is the world’s toughest foot race. This legendary, epic, 135 mile running race travels non-stop in the heat of Summer from Badwater in Death Valley (elev. 282 feet below sea level) to Whitney Portal on Mt. Whitney (elev. 8360 feet).

 

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March 12, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

Most guys make the mistake of making friends with a girl first in the hopes of working it into a meaningful relationship later.

This couldn’t be more wrong. Not only are they wasting their time and money on the girl, but they are also digging their own graves.

These men wait around with their heads down in the hopes that she will change her mind and become romantically interested in them. However, these men fail to recognize the most basic facts: If she wasn’t interested in you romantically in the beginning, what makes you think she will change her mind later?

What makes you think she’s not using you as a surrogate boyfriend until she finds somebody she really wants?

What makes you think that she isn’t just around for the ride while you spend your money and time on her?

The "Friendship Zone" is a trap… a trap so elaborate and strong that freeing yourself out of it is about as easy as climbing Mount Everest.

To her, being friends with you means she doesn’t have any sexual attraction towards you or have any romantic interest in you. You’re simply around to kill boredom or until she finds something else better to do.

She may at one point in time have found you attractive, but since she’s spent enough time with you, she now believes you are as challenging as a game of checkers with her grandma. You simply do not stir the electricity in her body and that’s why you are who you are: A Friend!

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March 9, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

Embrace the struggle; the harder it is, the more you gain from it. The more you test yourself and are required to push yourself, the tougher you become, the greater your capacity for effort becomes. It’s in the struggle that we grow and evolve, yet so many of us distract ourselves from the struggle instead of embracing it and rejoicing in it.

Harsh times aren’t curses, they’re blessings, gifts that are bestowed upon us and they’ll lead us to greatness if we see them as such. So many, though, see them not as challenges, but as curses. They compare their hardships to the cushy lives that others aim to portray. They see the hours they have to spend working to yield little results while others are traveling and partying and lying on beaches, sun-hat on head, Corona in hand.

You need to embrace the struggle, to flee from it is to fail, it’s to weaken your resolve and relegate yourself to what can only be a shell of the life you have it within you to lead. We aren’t born with this understanding, it’s something we have to learn and we usually discover its necessity through failure.

I’ve failed more than I’ve won and every time I’ve failed its the work and the persistence after that failure that created something good from it. It’s the struggle that came after the fall, the climb back from the abyss, that not only made me tougher, but generated some kind of victory that could not have been without a sadistic love for the struggle, for a prolonged focus on a single thing and an avoidance of avoidance.

If you are to be anywhere near what you can be, you must seek to forge your potential within the fire of the struggle, within the flames of hard work and persistence because there is no other way.

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March 8, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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“Generally speaking, you’re free until you’re about 4 years old. Then you go to grammar school and then you start becoming…oriented and shoved into areas. You lose what individualism you have. If you have enough of course, you retain some of it… Then you work the 8 hour job with almost a feeling of goodness, like you’re doing something. Then you get married like marriage is a victory, and you have children like children is a victory… Marriage, birth, children. It’s something they have to do because there’s nothing else to do. There’s no glory in it, there’s no steam, there’s no fire. It’s very, very flat… You get caught into the stricture of what you’re supposed to be and you have no other choice. You’re finally molded and melded into what you’re supposed to be. I didn’t like this.”

― Charles Bukowski 

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March 7, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

 

Money has been a symbol of status and power for thousands of years. And for thousands of years, women have desired wealthy men.

It makes sense…money makes the world go ‘round.

A man with money provides stability and a better standard of living. He can support children. He can offer new experiences.

We, as men, know this. It’s why so many of us work hard, dress to impress, and buy possessions that display our financial status. We want to position ourselves as high-value mates over other men.

However, some guys take this too far. They shower women they just met with absurd amounts of money. They pay for fancy dinners, lavish gifts, and high-end vacations.

The thing is, overspending doesn’t always get you the outcome you desire. It can be a viable option when you’re looking for a short-term hookup or a one-night stand…but when you’re looking for a more substantial connection, using money to attract women only sabotages your chances.

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