How Embracing Embarrassment Can Propel Personal Growth
Let’s be real: embarrassment sucks. It’s that gut-wrenching, face-reddening, I-want-to-disappear feeling that we’ve all experienced at one point or another. But here’s the thing – embarrassment is also one of the most powerful tools for personal growth and development.
Think about it. When was the last time you tried something new and felt totally comfortable doing it? Chances are, never. That’s because growth and comfort rarely go hand in hand. In fact, if you’re not feeling a little bit embarrassed or awkward when you’re pushing yourself outside of your comfort zone, you’re probably not growing at all.
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What is an Enabler?
An enabler is someone who, often with good intentions, supports or facilitates another person’s unhealthy, destructive, or addictive behavior.
This can include making excuses for the person, covering up their actions, providing financial assistance, or taking on their responsibilities.
Relationship Matters: “My girlfriend lost her job and isn’t looking for a new one.”
My girlfriend lost her job and isn’t looking for a new one. Unfortunately I can’t support us both just on my income alone. I don’t know what to do.
We’ve been together for 3 years so she is aware of my financial situation and we are very open and honest with each other about our finances.
My girlfriend was fired from her job in November for being habitually late for work. When she first lost her job I figured no big deal, I have some savings and can afford to just be a one-income household for a little bit, but as time has gone on she has indicated that she is not interested in working again and is not looking for work. She doesn’t look for work and spends most of her time either sleeping, watching TV, or playing video games. When I ask her about finding a job or what she wants to do for her next job, she just laughs and shrugs it off, saying she will “figure it out.” She has hinted at wanting to remain unemployed and just live off my earnings.
The Art of Truly Hearing Others: Active Listening
In our fast-paced, constantly connected world, it’s easy to fall into the trap of hearing without really listening. We’re often so focused on formulating our own thoughts and responses that we fail to fully absorb and understand what others are saying.
But the ability to listen deeply and attentively is a crucial skill, one that can transform our relationships, both personal and professional. Enter the practice of active listening.
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What’s So Great About Akira Kurosawa and His Movies?
Akira Kurosawa is a filmmaker whose name is synonymous with cinematic greatness, and for good reason. Over the course of his illustrious career, Kurosawa crafted some of the most stunning, influential, and emotionally resonant films ever made.
His work spans an incredible range of genres and styles, from pulse-pounding samurai action flicks to quiet, introspective dramas, but they all bear the unmistakable mark of a true master of the medium.
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15 Photos That Will Put a Smile on Your Face – Ned Hardy
A Vigilante Hacker Took Down North Korea’s Internet. Now He’s Taking Off His Mask – Wired
This under-desk headphone mount helps keep your desk nice and tidy and helps prevent your headphones from getting scruffed – Amazon
Inside the World of Leg Lengthening – GQ
The best puzzle games to play right now – Polygon
Scientists gave octopuses some molly. Here’s what happened – PBS
How Disney’s Bob Iger Vanquished Wall Street Agitator Nelson Peltz – WSJ
Soccer’s most lavish VIP tickets, from helicopters to hot tubs – ESPN
Maserati Owner Sits Atop His $100K Vehicle After Disobeying Basic Rules Of The Road – Twitter
Nine Inch Nails “Excited About Starting on” New Album – Consequence
On This Day in 2014, Emma Watson Wore One of Her Best Looks – Go Fug Yourself
There Are Some Things You Just Can’t Argue With – Ned Hardy
If you car breaks down, these emergency beacon are effective at alerting other drivers of your presence – Amazon
‘Can’t stay long’: How to deal with friends who won’t make time for you – She Defined
See inside a new ultra-luxury river cruise line that’s charging up to $59,520 per person – Insider
The 20 Greatest Beach Towns in the U.S. – Thrillist
Powerball jackpot jumps to $1.23 billion after another drawing without a big winner – NPR
What to Do If You Get a Sudden Financial Windfall – Art of Manliness
Taiwan’s earthquake preparedness saved a lot of lives — and prevented a catastrophe for the global tech economy – VOX
How to Grow From Your Regrets – Mindful
The Dumping Grounds
How To Spot A Gold Digger
1. Understand what a gold digger is, and is not.
There’s nothing wrong with a person being concerned about your financial stability. A long-term partnership means depending on each other through the ups and downs, and being financially reliable does help with that to a degree.
The difference between a gold digger and someone who values your role as a provider is that the gold digger would deride and perhaps leave you if you lost your ability to provide for them financially.
A good person can appreciate your financial resources, but a gold digger appreciates only that, and will not see the relationship as worthwhile if you’re not well off.
What to Say to a Cop When He Asks “Do You Know How Fast You Were Going?”
My dad, 3 uncles, 5 great uncles, well over 20 cousins are all law enforcement.
I pretty much drive 10–30 mph over the speed limit everywhere that’s outside of the city (live in a city of 100k people, and travel all over the state for work, all the time).
I get pulled over at least 6 times a year. So far this year I’ve been pulled over 8 times and got 1 ticket. On average, I get a ticket once every 2 years. Yes, I normally get a ticket less than 10% of the time I’m pulled over.
When I am speeding and see a LEO put their lights on, I IMMEDIATELY do the following:
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