By Nicholas Tart
- “There are two rules for success. 1) Never tell everything you know.” Roger H. Lincoln
- “The only place where success comes before work is in the dictionary.” Vidal Sassoon
- “Every single person I know who is successful at what they do is successful because they love doing it.” Joe Penna
- “Being realistic is the most commonly traveled road to mediocrity.” Will Smith
- “Whenever an individual or a business decides that success has been attained, progress stops.” Thomas J. Watson
- “To be successful, you have to have your heart in your business, and your business in your heart.” Thomas J. Watson
- “If hard work is the key to success, most people would rather pick the lock.”Claude McDonald
- “Success is simply a matter of luck. Ask any failure.” Earl Wilson
- “The road to success is always under construction.” Arnold Palmer
- “Anything the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve.” Napoleon Hill
- “Most great people have attained their greatest success just one step beyond their greatest failure.” Napoleon Hill
- “Whether you think you can or you can’t, you’re right.” Henry Ford
What It Feel Like To Be 80 Years Old
I am in my 80s. To be this age is largely luck. To be this age and reasonably healthy with peace of mind is even luckier. To be this age, be healthy, and not lonely makes one feel so lucky that you want to gulp the moments down like a drowning man reaching air. I have been in five car crashes without being hurt (none were my fault). During the war as a child, I experienced several bombs falling within close range and where people within yards of myself were killed or injured. Numerous other such incidents sometimes gives one a sense of invulnerability, and other times that the next incident won’t be so lucky.
I regret much but also realize that having regrets meant that I had opportunities to regret; I was lucky to have those opportunities. There is a desire to leave one’s mark; graffiti on the wall of time; an apt engraving on a tombstone or small plaque on a park bench. The gifts of inheritance that will be gratefully accepted, and carry the essence of one’s past. The slogan ‘I was here’ seems as important as always, but much more in the sense of ‘I hope I deserve it’ rather than ‘And now you know.’
Much thought is sometimes given to organ donations, with an underlying feeling of ‘Please God keep me healthy and I will give my body to science in return.’ Though living on as a kidney transplant is more of an altruistic gesture than a religious one.
When friends pass away, it is not just their presence that is lost, it is also the memories they have of you. The “Do you remember when…?” conversations that pepper the elderly reminiscences. Fear of death is actually rare and is commonly a joke. On the other hand, fear of losing one’s memories, faculties, or independence is real. We put a great value on having people who we can trust — especially to carry out wishes when we are gone. Making final decisions can be upsetting, particularly if they relate to young people who are distant in age and lifestyle yet close in relationship.
One gets comfort from familiarity; the same cup; the same chair; the same view. One can be disturbed by the disruption or criticism of established habits. Having pets is a comfort, but caring for them can be increasingly difficult when joints get stiff, and even bending over is an effort.
It is easy to put off things till tomorrow, though there is the thought that there may not be a tomorrow. Oddly enough, the older one gets, the more likely it is that one will live longer. If the Devil hasn’t taken you yet, he may not be bothering. There is the constant sorting out of possessions no longer used, and not acceptable even for charity shops. The clothes that once looked smart in ones finger-clicking days now seem to say “How can you do this to me?” as they read your thoughts. There are the books you intended reading, but now never will. The postcards of forgotten places with ‘Hope you are well’ signed by some long lost friend. The photos of someone you knew well, but cannot now recall the name. Perhaps the more intimate letters from those you knew when time stood still.
So, what is it like to be in your eighties? It is really not much different from being any age where your concerns are getting through the day. On the other hand, people have more importance than possessions; comfort more worth than ambition; trust more value than money; love more satisfying than immortality.
Perhaps in some ways, one wants to leave the world as one entered it; without fear or pain; without anger or distrust; without possessions or debts; without demands or expectations; in innocence.
As a former mechanic, here are some repair shop tips:
If you don’t know what you’re talking about, don’t try to pretend that you do. We’ll know.
If you do know what you’re talking about, don’t talk our ears off, and don’t stalk our bay like a vulture. Use your knowledge to tell us exactly what we need to know, stand back, and let us do our job. I’m not saying you shouldn’t keep a watchful eye on your technician if you have the ability to do so, I’m just saying that you shouldn’t hang over their shoulders trying to, for lack of a better phrase, "talk shop" with them. 9 times out of 10, as long as the shop doesn’t have a rule against it, if you ask if you can watch and promise to be quiet, mechanics will gladly let you. Gaining their permission to do so is generally a solid indicator of how confident the shop is in their work, but turning you down does not, on its own, mean they’re running a shady operation. Shops are dangerous as all hell, and something bad can happen before you even realize it.
Call us out. If for any reason you aren’t comfortable with what we’re telling you needs to be done, ask us to show you exactly what we’re talking about. Trustworthy mechanics will practically fall over themselves to give you proof to back up what they’re saying, because earning your trust is their top priority. They will also be extremelyhesitant to do any work before they’re 100% sure you understand what they’re talking about. The shops you need to stay away from will fight you tooth and nail, and will do everything in their power to divert you away from their bullshiet (and, in some extreme cases, will actively push you to authorize the work knowing full well you have no clue what they’re telling you.)
Nearly every mechanic out there has an eidetic memory when it comes to cars and their owners. If you treat us like trash even when we’re being patient and polite, we will remember. That goes the other way as well; if you’re nice to us, we’ll go out of our way to ensure your next experience is as smooth as possible, and if we’re allowed to, will often give you a small discount.
There are very few truly shady shops out there. From my experience, most of the places that seem like they’re trying to rip you off are actually just piss-poor operations that don’t have people skilled in the delicate art of customer service. No time are people more testy and more defensive than they are with their vehicles. Combine that with a general lack of customer service, and honest ignorance can easily look like a willful act of fraud. That said, trusting mechanics with the life of you and your family yet treating them all like moronic swindlers is not a polite thing to do. Bootyume that they are trustworthy, until they give you a reason to believe otherwise.
With that in mind, you know how I said that we remember if you’re a jerk or not? Shady places also remember if you’re gullible or not. They’ll essentially outright lie to you, and if you buy what they’re selling, shablam…they’ve got a stooge for life. Given the nature of shady shops, they don’t require a large number of customers, just a cadre of very gullible ones. As other posters have mentioned in the comments though, it’s extremely rare to find a shady person working in an otherwise squeaky-clean shop, as they get run out pretty quickly. As a general rule, either the whole shop is crooked, or the whole shop is on the up and up.
1. What you do today is important because you are exchanging a day of your life for it.
2. If a person wants to be a part of your life, they will make an obvious effort to do so. Don’t bother reserving a space in your heart for people who do not make an effort to stay.
3. In life, you usually get what you ask for, but it rarely comes in the package you think it’s supposed to come in.
4. Never let one bad day make you feel like you have a bad life.
5. Tell the truth, or eventually someone will tell it for you.
6. Surround yourself with positive people who are going to push you toward greatness. Eliminate those who are trying to keep you from it.
7. Maturity is not when we start speaking about big things, it’s when we start understanding the small things.
8. Not forgiving is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die
9. Age wrinkles the body. Quitting on your dreams wrinkles the soul.
10. The past can’t hurt you anymore – not unless you let it.
11. The path to our destination is not always a straight one. We go down the wrong one, we get lost, and we turn back. But maybe it doesn’t matter which road we embark on. Maybe what matters is that we embark.
12. You can grow stronger from the pain if you don’t let it destroy you
13. The worst person to be around is the one who complains about everything and appreciates nothing. Avoid these people at all costs.
14. Live in such a way that if someone decided to speak badly of you, no one would believe it.
15. It’s your road, and yours alone. Others may walk it with you, but no one can walk it for you.
16. If someone can’t accept you at your worst, they don’t deserve you at your best.
17. The road to success is always under construction.
18. Never make a big decision when you’re angry, and never make a big promise when you’re overjoyed.
19. Don’t count the number of friends you have; count the number of friends you can count on.
20. Imperfections are important, and so are mistakes. You get to be good by learning from your mistakes and you get to be real by being imperfect.
21. Not trying is failing.
22. Being happy doesn’t always make us grateful, but being grateful will always make us happy
23. The only time you should look back is to see how far you’ve come.
24. When something bad happens you can either let it define you, let it destroy you, or you can let it strengthen you.
25. Good relationships are not just about the good times you share; it’s also about the obstacles you go through together, and the fact that you still say “I love you” in the end.