“A boy comes to me with a spark of interest, I feed the spark and it becomes a flame. I feed the flame and it becomes a fire. I feed the fire and it becomes a roaring blaze.”
- Cus D'Amato
Sit down folks and let me tell you a story on how I not only entered the friend-zone but I managed to escape. Now I wouldn’t say I’m a novice to the seduction methods around here, but I am far from being good at it as you will see.
This story starts off with your typical boy meets girl (whom I will refer to as Kate) story. I met Kate at a local book store while I was out and about. I believe I went in to buy the hard back copy of one of my favorite books or a cook book. That is not important. What is important is that I spied this beautiful little Asian girl with a copy of John Keats’s complete work tucked under her arm. I quickly worked my way over to her and opened her with a “Is that for school or are you looking for the right romantic words to say to me?” She laughed and told me that she liked his works and it had nothing to do with her Masters. I told her that he was one of my favorite poets and recited one of the verses from a poem he wrote from memory. The look on her face told me that I had performed the equivalent of bringing her to a raging orgasm while she was tripping on ecstasy. I quickly made an excuse to leave and handed her my phone while I went to purchase whatever I was buying. By the time I had finished with my purchase I had her phone number, e-mail , and name already programmed into my phone. She even dialed her phone to make sure I could return the favor.
Over the next few weeks we went out a few times, but each date was unique and a bag full of mixed signals. One date she was buying me drinks and grinding against me while we played pool; the next date she was acting as nervous as if I had told her that Chris Brown was my personal idol. What had made it worse is that I still could not K-close her. By the third date I had grown tired of the game and started to shut her out, which normally works on most girls but on this one just made her grow even more distant. I finally asked her what was wrong and she explained that she was considering taking a job across the country after she finished her courses at the end of the year. She didn’t want to be in a relationship and wouldn’t do anything intimate (including kiss) if she was going to move. After a bit of discussion she asked if I would be ok with just being friends. I stupidly agreed because I had fallen under her spell.
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When my friends tell me what I did the night before at the bar
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By Nick Notas
Nearly every “self-help guru” has preached, “just be yourself” at one time or another. Somehow, this single statement is supposed to change us into an all-knowing and ever-confident being that others want to be around. Unfortunately, it doesn’t work that way.
What does that advice even mean? If I’m scared to express myself to new people, how is that going to help? If I don’t know how I’m supposed to act, how do I know what to fix? What you really need is a thorough understanding of who you are, what you want, and what’s important to you. Only then can you be your real self.
I spent a long time as a “shape-shifter.” Because I didn’t know myself, I would always adjust to what I thought other people wanted me to be. It was emotionally draining and I felt lost to the point of depression. I was finally freed by the conscious decision to dig deeper and find the real me.
Here are five things that helped set me on the path:
Discover and go after what you want
We all have desires…why fight them? I used to be ashamed of wanting things for myself in life. It felt selfish, so I always put my priorities and needs after everyone else’s. The problem was, I never got around to making me happy and because of it I harbored resentment and a lot of negative feelings.
If you want a girlfriend, start talking to more women. If you want your dream job, hustle, start networking, and pursue it. If you want to lose that extra 40lbs, eat better and start an exercise regiment. Life is too short to wait for tomorrow. When you start fulfilling your own wants in life, a world of possibility opens up.
Stand up for your beliefs
What are your core values? Do you treasure honesty, integrity, open-mindedness, or just being a good person? Live through those values and hold yourself accountable when you betray them. Lead by example and others will take notice.
If someone challenges your beliefs, don’t be afraid to speak up. You don’t have to start a fight, but let it be known that you won’t buckle under pressure. Bootyociate with those who hold the same standards and don’t waste time with people who disregard what’s important to you.