To pet owners that have to put your baby down; stay there with them! As much as it’ll hurt you to see them go, it’ll give them a sense of comfort, and perhaps you a sense of closure. I worked at a clinic, not as a vet, but as an assistant. Sometimes, I had to hold them as the final shot was given, and it would kill me a little every time I saw owners walk out of the room, while their baby lay there on the table looking for its parents, confused, and in some cases freaking out.
A few owners stayed and actually held them as it happened, those pets remained the calmest and looked the most peaceful. As the voice of their master whispered “it’s going to be ok” into their ears and they got scratched in their favorite spot, they mustered the energy to give that final purr, or that last lick to the face. Their glistening eyes, still full of life, telling their sobbing parents everything they wanted to say, everything you needed to hear, without a single bark or meow – even if your little guy was one of those that loved to wake the family up at 4 in the morning.
By John Brhel
Listen up, cause I’ve figured out who’s been keeping you from achieving all of your goals, from realizing all of your hopes and dreams, from securing your dream job or scoring a date with that cute redhead who sits in the next cubicle over. He’s been right under your nose this whole time, holding you back from working hard, from pushing yourself to be all you can be. Are you ready?
Drumroll, please. It’s…………….YOU!
Stop blaming your life circumstances, your appearance, your height, your lack of a prep school education, your horrible dancing skills, etc., etc., etc. and stop taking responsibility for your own actions. If you’re not where you want to be in life and you’re not giving it your all, the only one you have to blame is yourself.
No one is going to push you to become better than you already are. Did anyone force Einstein to come up with the general theory of relativity or John Lennon to write brilliant pop songs? No! Guys who get things done do so by their own volition. Okay, some may have it easier than others. Some guys are born rich, handsome, famous, etc., but all of us have the potential to reach great heights if we try.
Who’s in control of your destiny? If you believe in fate and just think life’s going to work itself out for you, good luck with that. If you don’t want to end up waiting around for life to happen to you, you’ve got to take the wheel and drive.
You can either be your best ally or your own worst enemy. You can be an independent, responsible man and take action to better your situation or you can keep playing the blame game, keep procrastinating, and keep living a dull, unfulfilled life.
No one, not your dad, girlfriend, professor, boss, etc. is your keeper. If you’re not living up to your full potential, you can’t blame your manager or your well-off friend for your own lack of success. That’s the easy way out, and it’s the one that will keep you where you are.
The only one keeping you from succeeding is that dude in the mirror, that lowly bastard who isn’t doing all he can. He’s the one who’s not taking the steps to achieve your goals. He’s the one who’s skipping class, not working out, sleeping in, feeling sorry, etc.
Now that you know the culprit, what are you going to do about him? Are you going to sit back and let him win or are you going to take charge? Do you want to be looking at a sorry loser or a go-getting winner the next time you go to shave? The choice is yours alone.
You can either be the person that keeps you from succeeding or the one who propels you to success. No one else is holding you back; don’t hold yourself back either. Be the guy you want to be and the other guy won’t know what hit him.
“Just know that people will always try and test you, and no matter what you think, only a real man can walk away.”
The Reflect Project, by Trent Bell, is a series of powerful images that shows us what a group of U.S. Convicts would tell their past selves if they could turn back the hands of time. In the “Reflect” project, each inmate was first asked to pen a letter to their past selves. Bell then took their portraits and had the text of their letters edited into the images, serving as powerful testaments to their regrets, their mistakes, and their new-found wisdom.
This project makes you think about just how easy it might be to make one wrong choice that will change your life forever. Click on the picture to zoom in for gretater detail.
By Nick Notas
How many times have you avoided talking to someone new because you were afraid that:
- You wouldn’t know what to say.
- You would eventually run out of things to talk about.
- Conversation would be boring or awkward.
That kind of self-doubt can be paralyzing. But you’re not alone.
Each week I get dozens of questions like, “Nick, can you please just tell me exactly what to say? That would really help me get started.”
I wish I could provide you guys with a miracle fix but then I’d just be another scammy marketer.
Conversations are dynamic and unique. You’re speaking with different people, with different personalities, in different situations. If you’re having the same conversations with all of them, then you’re never truly connecting with any of them.
Let go of the idea that a discussion is a mathematical formula. Stop looking for the “secret” to learning how to talk to people.
The answer is to become socially confident through real-world experience.
What I can provide you with are proven guidelines to make those experiences easier and more successful. But it’s still up to you to apply them.
Here are my 17 tips towards mastering conversation with new people.
I don’t know you, but if you are here reading this letter, you are probably at least somewhat curious about BJJ and maybe considering training.
This letter is for you, and I hope that you will read it. Technically, this letter is actually to me, to the “me” of just over two years ago, but I want you to consider that this letter could just as easily have been written by you, about two years from now. I hope you will continue reading.
You don’t know it yet, because right now you are just staring at that business card you picked up in your favorite Mexican restaurant, but that card in your hand is very important. It says Gracie Jiu-Jitsu on it. You have been staring at it for about an hour. Your food is getting cold.
Since the divorce, this has been your routine: Take a long lunch alone to escape the office, eat way too much and wonder how in the hell you ended up in such a strange place. Fat and unhappy. Sleep apnea. Cigarettes. If you have 3-4 beers really fast before bed, you won’t remember your dreams, and that is a really good thing these days. Melatonin doesn’t work anymore. Your dreams are never good these days.
No, you are staring at that card because the logo on it reminds you of a time in your life long past. It reminds you of Before. Before you stopped doing martial arts so you could finish up school, before the stress of a bad relationship that turned into a bad marriage that turned into a gut wrenching divorce.
Before you were self-medicating with food and alcohol.
My wife was addicted to cocaine. I should rephrase that, my now ex-wife was addicted to coke. We were married a very short time, three years, but we have a child together… so I’ve had to deal with her, her temperament, moods, druggie boyfriends, and addictions until our son turned 18. We met when I was 26 and she was 22. I had one more year left in the Marines and had met my future wife at a party where she did a monstrous line of coke. I had naively thought that she could walk away from drugs if she wanted, at any time. I was so very wrong. It took her almost 20 years to kick her addictions: alcohol, drugs, and sex. It would start with one drink on a Friday night with girlfriends. By the end of the night, she would have progressed from a drink to coke to whatever drug was also available to leaving with strangers to having sex with strangers for more drugs and she would find a way home by Tuesday or Wednesday.