What’s the deal with fighting in Hockey?
In hockey, fighting isn’t seen as a way to injure someone, like it would be in “real life”. There is a code of sportsmanship in hockey that goes beyond the rules of the game. When that code is broken, players will square off against the offender in defense of themselves or a teammate. For instance, it’s not a penalty to intentionally bump the goaltender after play is whistled dead, but occasionally someone will. This is viewed as especially unsportsmanlike, so one of the goaltender’s teammates will pick a fight with the player who bumped him in order to impress that behavior like that won’t be tolerated, even if there isn’t a rule against it. Essentially, if another player is acting in such a way that is considered unsportsmanlike, he might be challenged to a fight by a member of the opposing team. A player might also choose to fight as a means to motivate his team, especially during high-tension and high-pressure situations, and especially in the playoffs.
The code of sportsmanship also extends to fighting itself. Fights are usually agreed to (sometimes in advance) by players involved, and only occur during play. Except in extenuating circumstances, players will not fight with someone with whom they are mismatched (a 6’3″ 225lb player isn’t going to fight a 5’11″ 190lb player, unless the 5’11″ guy initiates it), and the fight is over when either of the players loses his balance or the officials interfere.
Also, fighting is technically illegal and carries a 5-minute major penalty (5 minutes in the penalty box, team is down 1 skater on the ice unless both players get the same [offsetting] penalty, in which case the teams do not lose a skater), plus additional penalties for instigating (an extra 2 minutes, team is down 1 skater [5-on-4]) and game misconduct (player out rest of the game, team is not down a skater) should the fight occur when it’s not agreeable to both players. Typically, a fight will result in offsetting 5-minute major penalties, the players involved sit in the penalty box for 5 minutes, and the teams carry on 5-on-5 as usual. Worst-case scenario is that one player unscrupulously picks a fight, gets a 5-minute major, a 2-minute instigation penalty, and a game misconduct so he can no longer play in that game, and his team has to send an additional player to the penalty box; the opposing player gets a 2-minute roughing penalty, which offsets the instigator, so play is 5-on-4 for 5 minutes. In the case of the example I gave above, it would likely be offsetting 5-minute majors with no instigator because the refs will view the bump into the goalie as a reason to start a fight.
What’s it like to be addicted to porn?
I have been addicted to porn all my life.
I started watching it (stealing it from my parents’ bedroom) at the age of 12. Watched almost every weekend (my parents were out on saturdays to work – leaving me home alone) in the beginning. Then, started exchanging it with older guys in the neighborhood. By the age of 15, I was scouting a 2 mile radius around my house on my bicycle – trying to find a “dealer” selling some “new stuff”
Now, I am 38 and I still watch it everyday.
Internet (and now smartphones) have only made it worse.
I spend about $100 every month on subscriptions to live cam websites. I spend probably 10 hours “wasting” every work day.
I search endlessly for “new” kind of porn every time I am alone with internet. I have membership of many underground private porn forums that cater to various fetishes and subgenra. (there is one forum dedicated to just audio files of women of a particular race.)
If its out there – I have seen it.
Now, how does it impact me?
- My sexual life: I can never find enjoyment in a sexual act with another person. When I am in a sexual act, I am thinking of a scene in the movie. In my entire life, I remember only one sexual act when I was thinking about the person. I can never connect sexually.
- My romantic life: In my romantic partners, I only look for a similarity with a pornographic character. No wonder, no relationship ever works out. I am just abusing people to be a stand-in for a character in the fantasy life in my head.
- My social life: There is little motivation to relate to people. I have no friends, no social skills and no family that I care about. I am quite sure I do not know how to talk normally to women.
- My work life: Most of the time in the office, I am watching porn (I run my own company so its easy). I waste entire days ( and sometimes weeks) doing nothing but watching porn. Many of my employees have seen me in the act. Mostly just ignore but word gets around. Many do not respect me at all.
- My career: I could have been widely more successful. Easily making 10x more. Possibly, 100x more.
- My health: I am massively overweight. have high blood pressure, high cholesterol. Everytime I am alone, I do not want to exercise. I want to watch porn.
- My family life: I worry that my kid will find out and I will lose all his respect.
- Most importantly, I know I am phony. Just getting by. No love, no relationships, no emotions, No feelings. Nothing.
What is professional gambler James Holzhauer’s strategy when competing on Jeopardy?
His gameplay strategy is deceptively simple, ballsy, and conniving all at the same time. His strategy is simple in that he plays horizontally (vs. the traditional vertical progression, or ‘one-category-at-a-time’ style of play that we’re all used to), so he starts by sweeping across the highest value clues first — no matter what the category is. Once he’s cleared out all the $1000 clues (first round), he usually starts climbing up the bottom left corner of the board where he inevitably hits on his first Daily Double. His strategy here becomes ballsy in that ~8/10 times he goes all in. At this point in his streak of 7+ shows, it’s definitely apparent that he isn’t competing against the other contestants, he’s going for something much greater. Finally, and this may be the most genius move of all, his strategy is conniving in that when you jump between categories horizontally you make it extremely difficult to grasp what a category is even asking in the first place. When you start from the easiest clue and work downward toward the most challenging clue you get some sense of how the category is working, but he subverts this by moving around the board horizontally (from the bottom up), making it that much more difficult for his opponents to gain any advantage whatsoever.