One social habit that I used to be quite bad at was to truly listen when other people spoke. I sometimes zoned out. I got distracted or my attention started to wander before they were done talking.
Or I just waited for my turn to talk again (while thinking about what I should say next).
Not very helpful. So things had to change.
This week I’d like to share 10 simple tips that helped me – and still help me – to become a better listener.
I hope they will help you and your relationships too.
1. Keep in mind: Listening is win/win.
Many may not listen that well because they think they don’t get much out of it personally.
But the better you listen, the better they will listen to you. And the better and deeper the relationship will be.
If you focus on understanding him or her and on giving value based on that then you’ll get the same thing back.
This reminder has been a powerful motivator for me to become a better listener.
2. Tell yourself that you’ll tell someone else about this conversation later on.
One of the best ways to remember something better is to know that you are going to tell what you learned to someone else.
Then you’ll be more alert, naturally start asking more questions to understand and what is said – in my experience – simply seems to stick better.
Plus, you’ll stop focusing so much on what to say next and so the conversation tends to flow better.
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