Jareth Nebula wants to raise awareness for those who feel like they’re from another planet – and officially identifies as a genderless alien.
Nebula, 33, was born female, but transitioned to male when they were 29 years old, changing their name to Jareth (inspired by David Bowie’s character in the Guillermo del Toro film Labyrinth).
Jareth initially described themself as a “hyper-feminine female” and even modelled in their teens, by their late 20s, Jareth decided to transition to male, and began hormone treatments right away, changing their sense of style toward something more masculine and getting their breasts removed in surgery.
The Washington native and barbershop receptionist was disappointed to find that their gender transition didn’t seem to fill that lifelong void which inspired them to go through with it in the first place
“After coming out as transgender and believing I had finally found myself, I realised I was wrong, they explained.
“I thought being a trans man would solve all of my issues and inner battles with finding out who I was, but I wasn’t as happy as I expected to be. I felt like I was trying to fit into someone else’s box. I didn’t want to be constrained…I wasn’t male or female, or even human. I don’t think or feel like humans. I can’t really explain it to others – I’m simply otherworldly. I didn’t feel comfortable as either gender or even anything in between. I know I’m stuck in a human form and that’s how I’m perceived by others – but to me, I’m an alien with no gender."
Thus, Jareth decided to label themselves as an agender or genderless — and as an alien.
Agender means that Jareth is genderless or gender-neutral, as opposed to being gender-fluid, which refers to a person whose gender identity is not fixed, or a person who feels they could be a mix of both genders. This newfound identity was no mere intellectual move though, as it included Jareth to have their nipples removed, adorn their face with a swath of piercings, and wear an otherworldly layer of makeup to look “less human.”
“I’d always been obsessed with aliens, too, and what it means to be extraterrestrial, so the idea of being an agender alien fit perfectly as an identity for me,” explained Jareth, before revealing the body modifications they have undergone to fully commit to being a genderless alien.
“To feel less human, I have a huge circuit board tattooed on my face – which makes me feel more android and disconnected from humanity. I don’t have nipples, as I had them removed during my top trans surgery. I shave off my eyebrows and have lip, septum and nose bridge piercings.”
Unfortunately though, not everyone is on board with Jareth’s latest transition – they explained that, although their family understood and welcomed their transition from male to female, they were less supportive of them identifying as an alien.
“My family still see me as a trans man, because they don’t understand what agender or alien really means. I have online friends who support me, but offline is harder. Not everyone understands – but that’s okay. I don’t expect them to get it, I only want acceptance.“
“People treat me like a freak. They’re happy with how they look, however, and try to brush it off the best they can, stating: “I’m happy with who I am and will continue to become more alien-like every day.” because I’m an alien, but it’s a completely valid thing to call yourself,”
Jareth also revealed hey have suffered from abuse online due to their appearance:
“I feel sorry for people who attack me online,” they add. “I think they lack empathy and just want to target me, so I deal with it pretty well by brushing it off. I’m happy with who I am and will continue to become more alien-like every day.”