Currently I am on an 200 day streak I think. I haven’t kept count anymore, because how you spend your days matter more than a number.
2 years ago I was depressed, had terrible social anxiety and was very unhappy with my life, only sitting inside on my PC. You can read everything back in my history. I was sad not having friends or a relationship.
Currently I have a few friends, with whom I sometimes go out. I go to festivals alone to socialize. I have had my first job, first kiss, went on a few dates, no longer a virgin, a girlfriend, I am more social, better self esteem, stopped therapy since I outgrew it (according to the professionals) and probably more that I can’t remember. A lot of good stuff has happened.
It takes time, practice, patience and a lot of effort, but it is all worth it. NoFap was just a small part in it, in the beginning it got me motivated and helped but it isn’t everything. Today I don’t even think about it anymore, I haven’t visited the forum since the start of my current streak. The real growth comes from outside, in the real world.
Today, I am far from perfect. I still experience anxiety and I sometimes still feel very sad. But so does every other human once in a while. I just know now that I can work for what I want, and that happy times are ahead of me.
The thing about the increase in attraction people notice. I found that NoFap didn’t make girls like me more, instead it made me realize that I was already attractive the way I was, I just didn’t know it. I’m not saying I’m very good looking but I just didn’t realize girl could like me, for me. I never knew I had a sexual side and that someone would want to kiss me, or that I had the ability to kiss someone. I felt a whole new world opening for me the first time I kissed. All this time I thought no girl could like me, or that someone would be interested in me, I would have never dared to kiss someone else. But when it happened I realized it was a lie, I can kiss someone, I can be attracted to someone else.
I am now focusing on learning how to have good small talk and make friends. For every day 0 or day 1 person on here. If you really want to, you can make it. The more work you put in, the more you get out of it
I think people need to start to realize that there is no such thing as “benefits” or “superpowers” when it comes to quitting your porn addiction. Now the truth is, from my experiences is, all that is happening when you are quitting Porn, YOU are just becoming YOU again. And your TRUE self, free from any addictions or compulsive behaviors is CONFIDENT, FILLED WITH ENERGY, MOTIVATED, CREATIVE, PASSIONATE and EMPATHETIC. Nofap is not some magic hocus pocus pseudo science bullshit. Its fucking real. Your brain starts to rewire and your dopamine sensitivity is returning back to normal once you cut off this filthy addiction. So what im suggesting here is, instead of calling it superpowers because that makes it seem less real and serious, just realize YOU are returning to YOUR TRUE SELF. Nothing more, nothing less. Take this serious. If you want to reach your goals, your desires, your dreams…if you want to become successful..you cant be a fucking porn addict with a fucked up brain chemistry.
I still can’t believe this happened. For over 3 years I’ve been trying to get away from pmo (porn, masturbation, orgasm) and nothing worked until I found this community. The last year was just an awesome journey overall.
I met my girlfriend of now over seven months, improved massively when it comes to doing chores and just regular everyday tasks.
My motivation to do stuff has increased by so much. Just simple things like doing the dishes immediately have become so easy. My ability to focus on tasks has also improved and I finally gained the ability to properly study which is something I never really needed to do and so it was really hard for me adapting to that since I needed to for my finals.
I finished school with a grade I am more than happy with.
Being in a relationship has never really been a priority of mine since I always believed that I would meet the right girl at the right time and what can I say I am happier than ever.
Being happy has never been a thing I struggled with, despite pmoing, but with nofap it all has reached a hole other level.
Sure there is still temptation but fighting that temptation is way easier than in the past.
The benefits are incredible. My self esteem has improved greatly and other than that I think I am the most fit I have ever been even though there is still much room to improve but now that I am free from pmo I have the ability to do that.
Porn is the enemy. It’s the delusion. It’s the cancer of this generation. Sexual desire is not. Being attracted or sexually aroused does not make you a deviant. Watching porn does. Devolving to base desires for seconds of pleasure does. Vicariously living sexual fantasies of rape, incest, all the things that porn has normalized does. But seeing a girl in person and thinking she’s hot and getting sexually aroused is not abnormal. It is if you then go home and jerk off to porn that reminds you of her. It definitely is if you stare, can’t stop staring, and linger. But if you happen to see someone attractive and were sexually aroused, that’s fucking normal.
Please stop pushing this asexual nonsense. You are not fucking incels. You are not betas. You are not freaks. Lower your gaze but don’t punish yourself for being attracted to someone. Have self respect and share your respect for them. You don’t respect someone by pretending they don’t exist. Quit associating NoFap to eliminating all sexual desire. Porn is the enemy. Habitual masturbation is the enemy. Being attracted to someone, being in a relationship, having sex is not deviant behavior. Fucking stop this asexual shit. Conquer your desires, don’t cower below them.
I quit porn after a 5 year addiction, i am 30 days in and i literally feel my brain rewiring.
I have got to say, i could not be happier with myself.
I am finally getting my attraction back for girls in REAL LIFE.
I honestly cannot wait to see a girl naked, as it’s been a while.
Now that i aren’t just flooding my brain with all these pictures of naked women, i have actually been galvanized to get with a girl in real life for the first time in ages.
I hit up a girl (whom i had sex with 1 year ago) on valentines day, and although it didn’t work out i’m really happy to see myself getting back out there.
I keep catching myself checking out girls (subtly) who i meet in real life, which i hadn’t even been bothered to do for a few years.
I know this sounds seedy but I’m weirdly proud of myself for this haha.
I feel like I’m learning to walk again or something.
I can’t really say this to any of my guy friends, I think because porn is so heavily promoted as must-to-have in a happy life, especially with how liberal sex is becoming in western society. But I want to say something. Giving up porn was the best thing I did for myself and my marriage.
Married 14 years. Stopped watching porn 5 years ago.
I used to watch porn. Not a ton, as much as other guys would do I guess. Our relationship was fine when I did. We were happy. But i decided to stop at some point. Not sure exactly why.. to see how things might change?
I find her even more attractive. I think about her more during the day, especially when I’m horny at work and can’t do anything about it.
I stopped noticing all the little flaws she had during sex; scars, sagging breasts, stretchmarks. All the things I shouldn’t have cared before but I did. Now they don’t bother me at all.
I look WAY more forward to sex. We fuck more often. If she can’t or isn’t feeling up for it one day? I wait. Fucking when you’re horny for a while is great. Or I jerk off to pictures of her if I really need to get off.
It was a bit off an effort in the beginning but if it means something better between me and the only woman in my life that really matters? I wouldn’t loo back. I have no desire now to fantasize about woman that I’m not going to even be touching at the end of the day.
And now, we’re both happier. We also used to have the occasional fights. We haven’t fought in 4 years at least. I think partly because I don’t imagine an idealized version of a woman when I lose my patience with her.. I calm down and we both just get along better when disagreements come up. I wish I had done this earlier. I think we’re both much happier. She definitely notices me appreciating her sexually more often and I know she feels more confident these days.