How to Write a Good First Message in Online Dating
In online dating, you’re going to competing with a massive male population. Too many men bombard women with boring statements, lewd comments, and over-the-top sappiness. The best thing you can do is be interesting, intriguing, and please, show some class.
Make your subject line stand out.
These girls are flooded daily with messages that start with “Hey” or “What’s up?” Say something different or funny. Point out a detail from her profile. Maybe lead in with an attention-getting title like “I just wanted to tell you…” and continue your thought in the beginning of the message.
A meaningful and genuine compliment can do wonders.
Take a moment to read about her and get a feel for her personality. Be sure to put some weight behind your compliment. Instead of “You’re cute”, try “You have a cool indie style.” Things such as “I find your love of (an interest of hers) adorable” work great, too.
Tell her briefly about yourself.
Keep it short (1-2 sentences), unique, and add a dash of humor. Let her wonder about you and leave her wanting more. “My name’s Nick, I’m a brunch enthusiast and I like my eggs over-easy. I’m a urban explorer, adventurer at heart, and love playing drums on the side.”
Finish with an open-ended question.
This gives her something easy to reply to and encourages her to respond. “If you could travel anywhere in the world, where would you go?”
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