Regret #2: I Wish I’d Loved Myself More Instead of Chasing Approval From Other People
Everything in our culture screams that we need to be in love with another person in order to be happy. Movies, TV and books show us that we only feel truly alive when we’re in love with another person – that’s when we can sing in the shower and shout in the streets.
But this is a lie.
The only way to live life with no regrets is to live, first and foremost, a life of self-love.
The most important relationship you’ll ever have is with yourself. Until you fall in love with yourself, no other love will ever satisfy you.
You’ll suffer for a lifetime, putting your heart at the mercy of others. No wonder you got hurt.
Think back to a time when you sacrificed your own desires – your own happiness – for the sake of a person you loved, who didn’t love you back at the same level.
Now imagine how your life would be different today if you’d treated yourself as someone you love, truly and deeply, in your thoughts, words and actions. Imagine how that situation would’ve played out if you’d made your choices out of a genuine love for yourself.
Loving yourself doesn’t mean being narcissistic. It doesn’t mean being obsessed with yourself at the expense of all other people, or thinking your above others as some sort of superhuman.
No. All it means is prioritizing your needs and making sure you’re getting those needs met, instead of putting other people – especially women – on pedestals.
One thing you can’t hide – is when you’re crippled inside. – John Lennon
A lot of us rate women on a scale where “10” is the most attractive. Imagine if you thought of yourself as a “10” – not necessarily in terms of physical attractiveness, but in terms of the value and worth you placed on yourself. How would this impact all of your decisions?
The foods you put into your body…
The people you surround yourself with…
The work you do…
The thoughts you tell yourself when you’re alone at night…
Think about a choice you’re facing right now. How would you choose differently if you truly loved yourself – if you thought of yourself as a “10” in that situation?
Love yourself now like your life depends on it – because it does.
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