I’ve always been a skeptical dude growing up with a crazy mother and sister, thus seeing threads of BPDish behaviour a mile away. Used to be NAWALT (not all women are like that); but would only date hot aspergers girls (a rarity) because they don’t do the social bullshit, and usually realise they lack empathy in their teens and go off principles rather than feelings. It’s a little safer, when they get angry, they still act on principle (A commonly masculine trait) but.. I learnt my lesson, ALWALT (all women are like that). Anyway, been GMOW (going my own way) for about 3 years (pissed I wasted my early 20’s chasing validation and bitches).
After waking up out of a Disney daydream having spent a good chunk of your life chasing “true love” (lmao), it can be disheartening and hard to see the bright side. So here are some Benefits that hit home for me and turn that initial disappointment into gratitude.
You don’t ever have to trust a person who’s moral compass is their current level of affection toward you. It’s fucking dangerous, girls acting like sweethearts, lovely people, because you never see how they treated people they don’t like. Or when you did, you brushed it off and bought the bullshit they fed about the person being evil/manipulative/abuse etc. It all dawns on you at once when you’re put in that boat.. Now you’re safe, you’ve been given the redpill and are A LOT harder to be taken by surprise. Idealism is dangerous with women. No more being paranoid, no having your fucking trust broken. This shit destroys so many mens lives, self confidence and esteem. It’s a blessing in disguise because it often wakes you the fuck up, but can waste years with depression after having your trust shattered and betrayed by some bitch swinging branches. You can’t be cheated on, discover your girlfriend is/was a sugar baby, fucking old men for money and coming home and calling you baby. Remember: The power of accurate observation is often called cynicism by those who do not have it – George Shaw
SLEEPING ALONE & your space becomes a palace of PEACE. Fuck man, don’t know how I used to miss company in bed. I tried it a week ago after a pump and dump and Jesus Christ. Someone tossing and turning, blowing their nose, having an early alarm, fucking farting, sleep talking, constant fucking bathroom trips. Women can be a nightmare to sleep with. I never feel rested if Im not in my own space. And nocohabitation = this applies to your whole fuckin house/apartment. No bathroom filled with fucking hair, tampons, a million makeup/shampoo bottles. your mirror is generally clean, no underwear left in the bathroom. Having a wife to do the dishes sounds neccesary when young, until you live alone and realise, if it’s just for one person, it’s a 10 minute washup at best. And if you wanna eat out.. it’s half the price haha
TIME. it’s yours, forever. at first you’ll be bored… who are you now? You’ve spent all these years doing everything to find that lifemate. Your interests, how you dress, the persona you present etc. You can wake up out of the bluepill dream feeling lost. What the fuck do I ACTUALLY enjoy? After a little while this turns complete 180. You’ll find the hobbies, live exactly as you want to, do what you want when you want, and you’ll forget about this all. Until you run into a bluepill simp complaining about doing something ridiculous for a girl, or a married mate getting run through the mill at work, with a bratty kid and a demanding wife. You’ll feel so fucking grateful. You’ll look to the sky and thank god you got redpilled and woke up. Shit man, Im atheist and I say thanks to the big guy lol You’ve got time for the boys, time to ride, time to game, time to chill, time to fuckin build lego if you wish. You aren’t going to waste your life working a job you hate, to pay a AWALT’s way in life, to have your kids taken away from you and left in the fucking dirt, only to realise the best years of your life were wasted in fantasy. TIME is the most valuable resource.
You will never be divorce raped (again for some). You’d think once was enough, but there are bluepill men going round 3 with alimony busting their balls, starting again at 40 or 50. This idea of one true love, a compassionate loving wife whom you can trust and hold and be best friends with etc, It’s a fucking drug. Many many men are hooked, the delusion can be strong. I’ve never been married, so I cant preach, but read up on some posts here and advise you do the same, great shit to make it sink in, and make ya count your blessings.
Dress… however the fuck you want. I originally had this idea in my first couple months of GYOW. but feared.. Im gunna be pussy repellant, whats comfy are fuckin’ pajamas, cant do that. Trust me, you won’t look like you’ve given up. Chances are you’ll start gyming or at least one of your activities will be physical. Wearing comfortable fitness clothes will still get you laid. The huge confidence you get in yourself when you stop judging you self worth by the amount of pussy that chases you ironically attracts it the most. Amount of dudes that put in so much fucking effort to look good.. for women haha fuck that. Throw out all that bullshit your ex bought you, you’re never gunna wear it
No one can steal your kids away from you if you don’t have any. Countless men have been broken having the children taken away from them, brainwashed by a psychotic mother to hate him, all the while knowing they’ll be treated and risen horribly by her. Pretty self explanatory, you won’t have your power taken away from you to care for the ones you love the most.
Dudes want to be you. I’ts really ironic this MGTOW stuff. Women start chasing you, love the non challant attitude, guys watch you confidently reject, not shaking in your boots cus pussy on legs decided to give you attention. “wtf dude, why’d SHE approach YOU.. and why the fuck did YOU reject HER?!” I’ve become a god to these men, I just look at them pathetically like.. she’s just a person.. And I know what women can be like.. and she was only a 7″. Watch weaker men admire you. Yeah some bluepill simps will rage, calling you a pick up artist, shallow etc. But once you know what we know, a very genuine, hearty laugh comes out which makes them far less confident that they know better than you. You’re no longer “missing out” haha
The money. Whether you choose to work 3 days a week and have a huge amount of spare time for your hobbies, or whether those hobbies and investing make you millions. Chances are, if you’re young enough, your going to retire early and have a MUCH more comfortable life. No nagging, no whinging, no paying for girls dresses, make up, dinner, shoes, handbags etc just for her to monkey branch to a richer dude and leave you thousands of dollars in time and money worser off.
Life becomes a comedy, especially in the west. You’ve been free’d, you’ve seen the light. Now everywhere you walk, you see blue pilled simps getting yelled at by women, sucking up after being given the cold shoulder, slapped for looking at other women. Going to the mall is hilarious, Im filled with smiles, and SO MUCH GRATITUDE. That could’ve been me! men trying to manage screaming brats, talking to a wife who’s on the phone, or even worse, being fucking nagged at while looking sleep deprived and fucking broken inside. At first it’s sad, you want to wake them up, you feel angry for your brothers, but fuck man, redpill signs are everywhere. This isn’t new knowledge, I think most men know they were being naive and idealistic, trust is a fools game, you pay the price for your own ignorance. You laugh at the rants of bitches asking where the good guys are, you’re gleeful at the overtly miserable femenists, and un-fucking-touchable to judgement. Romantic places are often nice to chill at on your own, you’ll even be provided a good show of men being tortured to accompany your dinner.
Your general level of peace is WAY higher. Your mind is the most valuable thing you have in this life, and your state of mind/perceptions of reality are EVERYTHING. You see yourself as lonely, broken, unlovable, ugly and life is hopeless, your going to fucking see it everywhere and in everything. You get that nagging bitch out of your ear and mind and suddenly life becomes so much simpler and quieter. You go to work, stick to yourself, come home and enjoy your downtime and hobbies. No nagging, no being insulted, no jealousy, no SHIT TESTING! Einstein once wrote a note which recently sold for 1.6m saying “A calm and humble life will bring more happiness than the pursuit of success and the constant restlessness that comes with it.” chasing a career you don’t want for the status and women it will attract is a straight up waste of a life. This doesn’t mean you settle for an easy job, find something you love and pour your life into it. Work hard. Not for love, not to make an attractive mate, not to buy shit you don’t want to be validated. But to GYOW and be happy.