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Remember when you were young and you thought love was this invincible, bulletproof force that was immune to outside influence, impervious to evil and capable of overcoming all obstacles? And, then you found out your girlfriend was sleeping with your best friend since a week after you met, and that bubble was ruptured, never to be restored again.
Sorry. Maybe we got a little personal on that one. Maybe, you’re one of the lucky few who remains a fool for love, and the wool has yet to wear away before your eyes. We hate to single-handedly destroy your remaining naivete, but women do cheat. Thankfully, more often than not, these kind of things don’t often happen without some sort of warning. Or in some cases, many. Here are intimations of infidelity that should tentatively raise flags:
Your Intuition
Your gut feeling may also be an indicator that something is wrong somewhere. If you have worked on overcoming your jealousy but still feel something is not right and have that sinking feeling in the pit of your stomach or you find yourself looking for excuses for your partner’s behaviour-then pay close attention to other things on these signs of cheating spouse for a recurring pattern. Pay close attention to the signs and your instinct but make sure you don’t confuse signs with proof.
She Starts Paying More Attention to Her Appearence
If you girl suddenly starts taking more time with her hair and make up and dressing up without any special occassion then she could be trying to impress whomever she is cheating with. Pay attention especially to her underwear selection since most girls like to wear sexy undergarment when they are with someone new. If she wears granny panties when she is around you but puts on a lace thong to head to work then this could be a sign she is seeing someone.
She Uses the Computer a Lot When You Are Not Around
You don’t need to hack into her mail to observe she behaves online. Does she uses the computer excessively especially after you have gone to bed? Have you discovered an email account you never knew about and she refuses to share the password with you? In today’s world this happens to be one of the most common of the signs of a cheating girlfriend.
Accusing You
Another common sign your are being cheated on is her accusing you of the very same she is gulty of, cheating. They may drop hints that you are having an affair because their own guilt is starting to wear on them
Secret Phone Conversations
Does she leave the room everytime she gets a call on her phone? Is she just trying to be polite? If your partner is trying to guard her conversations on her phone then there may be a reason to make you worried.
Sudden Changes in Sexual Desires
Some cheating spouses will begin to avoid sexual contact with their partners, while others may seek it out more than usual. Both increased and decreased sexual interest can also be signs of other things such as hormonal changes so this sign of cheating needs to considered along with the presence of other signs. Beyond her level of sexual desire, one thing you need to look for is change in how she does certain things during sex and intimate moments. Does she kiss dirrerently? Does she want sex in certain positions or activities that she never expressed interest in before? If so, this could simply suggest an interest stimulated by a magazine article or perhaps a tip from one of her friends, but a sudden change in sexual technique can definately be a sign that she is learning new tricks from a new partner.
"I need some space to figure out my feelings"
Women who are involved with some one else will require more space, time alone or away from the family. She may say it due to confusion over her feelings or stress at work. This can be a sign that there is someone else and she is trying to figure out ways to have more freedom.
Her social calendar is suddenly bursting at the seams
Saturdays used to be your day. Nothing was said, no plans were made; it was just assumed that you’d be spending time together. But lately, it seems something more important to her comes up each week. Your weekly dates are no longer set in stone, and everything and everyone else takes precedent.
If you see your quality time slowly dwindling away, it absolutely points to her waning interest in the relationship, and it could mean she has transferred her affections elsewhere, or is at least entertaining the thought.
She falls off the radar for large gaps of time.
So, she disappeared for five hours for the third time in a week and blamed it on falling asleep, and you actually believed her? That’s cute. We guess what they say is true—love is actually blind.
We hate to be the ones to pry those stubborn eyelids open, but if your girl goes M.I.A. for days at a time, you need to stop making excuses and start getting answers.
A Sudden Need for Privacy
If things the two of you used to share suddenly becomes private pay close attention because something is probably up. She may start password protecting computer activity. Cell phone and credit card bills may also be hidden. If you make out an attempt to find out info that used to be common knowledge between the two of you, you will be accused of snooping or trying to control your spouse. BIG WARNING SIGN!!!
Arguing over Nothing
Will she argue with you over the tiniest things? If it feels like she’s coming after and you are unsure as to why, it could be because she is looking for a way out. Reasons to validate what she did "hence her cheating on you". Incase she starts blowing up over little things and the relationship seems unsteady this may be signs of things to come.