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This question can solve your challenges with laziness and self-sabotage.
Take a minute to consider the following:
1) How do you speak to yourself?
2) How do you speak about yourself to others?
3) How do you treat yourself when you do something right?
4) How do you treat yourself when you do something wrong or incorrect?
5) How do attempt to control your behaviours/habits?
Really take a minute to answer those questions! When you’re done, consider now how you’d react if your boss/employer/parent/teacher treated you this way. What would you do? Would you behave? Would you listen? Would you care about the things they care about?
My point is that however you’d react in that situation is probably how you operate in THIS situation. In other words, if you’re trying to get yourself to work more, or wake up earlier, or exercise more, you’re probably getting the same amount of cooperation as you offered in these other situations.
Therefore you should try working with yourself in a way that inspires more cooperation!
Here are some ways you can do that:
A) Ask: “What approaches am I using that simply are not working for me?”
B) Ask: “If I were truly free, and if I were fearless, what might I do today? This week?”
C) Ask: “What can I do today as a sign of respect to myself?”
D) Ask: “What needs of mine have been going unmet for a while?”
Choose any one of these questions that stick out to you, list out some answers, and then take action on them as soon as you can. You’ll likely notice yourself feeling more relaxed, centered, and clear. This will dissolve some of this self-sabotage and get you back in a place of self-control and (most importantly) self-leadership.
I hope this helps you! This might also be up your alley .