Hopefully for obvious reasons.
A lot of us here are asking questions like:
– How do I get myself to get out of bed on time?
– How do I fool myself into thinking that I like broccoli?
– How do I push myself into hitting the gym every day?
… and what’s worse is that you’ll actually receive answers to these questions! People will teach you the latest techniques on pushing yourself, prodding yourself, punishing yourself, and tricking yourself.
But how would you feel if someone were asking internet people for ways to push, punish or trick you? Would you like it? Would you be willing to go along with what’s being asked of you? Probably not! Whatever they try might work once or twice but ultimately you’d find a way to get out of it.
However you treat yourself is how you yourself are treated.
If you’re harsh or cruel toward yourself, then your very existence will feel harsh, cruel, threatening.
But if you’re kind with yourself, then the opposite happens.
Disabuse yourself of this idea that being nice to yourself means nothing will get done. You can only make true progress, true growth, true evolution, by being increasingly kind and loving with yourself. You can only get yourself to cooperate with you if you’re kind and understanding.
Example: You’re having trouble with procrastination.
DON’T ask “what’s wrong with me?” because nothing’s wrong with you. DO ask “Why am I procrastinating about this? What do I need? What’s scary or overwhelming about this? What is my procrastination attempting to tell me?”
When you ask THOSE questions, you use the answer to figure out how to make the task more inviting, more enjoyable. THIS means that you no longer need to overcome yourself in order to do it – you can just simply do it.
I hope this helps! Please leave a comment if this requires more elaboration.
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