When you wake up in the morning and see your room a mess do you typically look at your room and go “Ugh, Fuck i need to fix my room” You groan a bit then lazily clean your room just enough to look decent.
The reality however is that you want to clean your room. If you didn’t truly desire self improvement then you wouldn’t bother with things like this, as you technically don’t need to. So you want to clean your room but you don’t say it to yourself.
Next time try this. Wake up and say “I want to clean my room” “I want to get out of bed” “I want to do my work”.
You may think that this is bullshit but its a real psychology trick. Often times when were told we “need” to do something we desire to do the opposite, or if were told not to do something we desire to do it more.
By saying this to yourself your convincing your mind that this is something you yourself want to do, not a rule set upon it by force, but rather your own will.
Similarily, Instead of saying “I’ve got to ….” (mow the lawn / go to work / do the laundry)
Realize that it’s just as true to say “I get to…”
Gratitude is one of the strongest drivers of happiness. Right now there are millions of people who would love to be able to do any of those things you’ve “got” to, but are unable to do because of illness, injury, circumstances…
Try it out, let me know how it works out.