1. Stop feeling sorry for yourself
The more you feel sorry for yourself, the more it’ll become an excuse to run away from your problems. This can be elaborated better with the help of a story I got to share with you.
There’s a man who works as a gardener for many houses in my locality including one of my neighbors and he has been doing that for years.
Of late, I learned that he has a hearing disability and I was left in shock because I was totally unaware of it. He’s one of the most hardworking folks of the maintenance department of our society and the fact that he never let his disability be his excuse to feel sorry for himself inspired me instantly.
People like him give us all the more reason to not feel sorry for how life chooses to treat us. So let’s stop pitying ourselves and celebrate the little blessings of life.
2. Never give away the power you have in your hand
You are an individual and you have to build your own authority if you want to prevent being dominated by others. When you allow someone else to dominate you and to influence your decisions, you give a lot of your power to that person which is what makes you mentally weak. Don’t give anyone the authority to your power because how they treat you is exactly how you want to be treated.
3. Things take time. Be patient and don’t expect immediate results
Expectations do hurt and when unmet, they cause all the more damage. “Rome was not built in a day”. It takes more than a hundred falls for a child to take his very first step. Don’t give up after your first failure. Patience is what measures your real mental strength and impatience is what breaks it. Be it Albert Einstein, Leonardo DiCaprio, or Steven Spielberg, every single successful person you can think of had to go through a long struggle to give this world a reason to remember them forever. Patience is the building block to your mental strength.
4. The world out there doesn’t owe you anything
If you are always on a lookout for getting recognition in return for every little thing that you do for people, it’s time that you either stop doing what you do for them or you give up on your desire of being recognized. Don’t get me wrong here. Recognition is what we work for but you must accept the fact that not all of them know the value of your deeds or support. If you’ve been there for someone in their bad times and the person doesn’t value that support, it’s destiny’s way of conveying the message that this world doesn’t owe you anything. You are the only one who needs you and it’s your duty to be there for yourself before being there for others.
5. Never fear alone time
Practice being alone to build up your mental strength. Your alone time will help you know yourself better. Of course, that doesn’t mean you should give up on people and lock yourself up in your house but you must recognize the fact that alone time is your asset and you should use it like one.
6. Regret is your biggest enemy
A non-stop feeling of regret works as a slow poison. We are all humans and each one of us must have made big blunders at some point in life. But mistakes once made shall be realized and forgotten there and then else you’re simply worrying over something you can’t change. Be it the fights and breakups that could have been avoided or a business loss that could’ve been reversed, regrets will test your mental strength every now and then. The onus lies on you to take them in your stride.
7. Never resent other people’s success and never make them your benchmark
Jealousy often leads people to commit mistakes that can’t be undone. It’s what drives your happiness down and further feeds to the feeling of resentment. Never envy someone in a way that you end up making that person your benchmark. This might make you work hard for a while but won’t make you feel happy at all. Focus on what you want to do and how you can be an inspiration to others.
8. Don’t dwell on the past
Don’t think too much about what has happened in the past to avoid unnecessary worries. Always believe that you are stronger today and ‘now’ is the time what really matters. Past isn’t a thing to dwell upon, it’s rather the thing that has shaped up your present.
9. You don’t need to please anyone
Being a people-pleaser, for once, can win you an invite to a party or can even get you some extra points in the annual appraisal of your job. But it’s one thing that will make you feel at the mercy of others and can drive down your self-confidence. All you need to do is to remember that you don’t need to please anyone and no hike is worth being cordial with people who can’t respect you. You need to respect yourself in order to make others respect you.
10. Change is your ticket to success. Don’t fear it. Embrace it
I spent 15 years of my childhood in a very small house. At 15, when I had to shift with my family to a spacious house, I couldn’t adjust to the change. As someone who had studied in one school for her entire life, I kept missing my old house (and the neighborhood friends) which held a lot of memories in its small space. But that phase came as an eye-opener when I realized that I was being depressed with something that should make me feel happy. It helped me be prepared for the later stages of life, especially when I had to shift my base to an all new city for higher education. Changes are good and they are your ticket to success.