1. I (24m) met this girl (24F) on a dating app, supposedly as FWB. However she soon told me she’s not interested and we never had sex. We continued just to kiss and we remained friends but she comes over from time to time. She walks around naked sleep next to me, lean on me. But We don’t kiss anymore. I never told her I’m a virgin at first. but when i later did, she said she will take my V card one day and that it’ll be the only sexual encounter. She has many partners, she tells me about them too.
This whole thing is making me feel empty. But i like her so much. She’s very interesting as a person. I just want to know how i should behave with her ? I can’t cut her off my life anytime soon but I’m getting so confused and feel empty and sad.
2. So I (24f) am dating this guy (30m). We’ve been seeing each other for around 3 months. He’s smart, funny, and very nice to me…so I thought.
Well last night he got drunk due to the fight being on. This morning we had plans for him to come over and for us to hang out. Now mind you, even though he has no kids. He’s broke (and I don’t mean that in a mean way, I’m just describing him). He still lives with his parents and hes very behind on the bills. He can’t afford to take me out, so our dates consist of him coming over to my place (I live alone) and we’ll hang out and watch movies. He doesn’t buy me anything so I usually eat before he gets here.
However, there has been times where he asked to buy me food but I told him no. Well anyway, fast forward to today. He called me this morning. I couldn’t tell if he was drunk or hungover. But as soon as I picked up the phone he DEMANDS for me to give him $20 for him to buy food. He starts saying “girl just give me $20” and being very disrespectful and telling me to give it to him. He didn’t even ask me. When I hung up he proceeds to text me and tell him to give him the money. When I said “no” he kept saying that he would “give it right back when he gets paid”. I still say no. I said no more so because the way he asked me was very disrespectful.
So after I hung up he starts asking me if I still want him to come over, he then blows up my phone and started accusing me of having someone else over. ..I didn’t. Honestly this whole thing gave me the ick and makes me want to stop talking to him. Am I just being overly dramatic about this whole thing? Should I just give him the money?
3. I don’t know if this has ever happened to anyone else. But I (29F)had the most magical first date with a guy let’s call him L (30M). He was such a gentleman, so respectful and kind, he asked for a kiss, and I went for it, I felt so good with him. He was such a good kisser, he said that I was too, and we kissed for 5 hours. 2 in a row, then other 2 and 1…
I went back home, stood in the shower while giggling to myself like a teenager. After 10 years of unsuccessful dating, you think you’ve seen it all, and then you find yourself in fantasy land. I have had 2 very abusive relationships (one was a gambler, stalker and a cheater, the second one was addicted to drugs and was also abusive). I felt I was finally getting justice. ..
Anyway. I got ghosted. The boy stopped replying to my messages, his follow up was very cold, he didn’t update me or give me a feedback on the date. Now he stopped replying.
… I’ve had a massive breakdown after that. I felt I couldn’t trust myself, my judgement and other people. I’m done.
How can you fucking kiss someone for 5hours and then pretend it was normal…
4. Got called a creep for the first time ever and it genuinely confused me as well as piss me off.
Im basically attracted to a chick who works at arcade and I couldn’t help but look at her a little too much. Not long creepy stares but a few glances every now and then. Not at her ass or anything, her face is just really beautiful.
Also asked others about info about her instead of just asking her. I personally lack A LOT of exp with this type of stuff so my confidence always varies. She found out and confronted me and said I was creepy.
“Maybe if you stop being creepy, maybe you can get a gf” Kinds hits deep coming from a crush Im not a creep. I apologized for making her uncomfortable, but idk.
Never been called that or gave those vibes. I just acknowledge beauty and wanted to check the situation and see what my chances were… I shouldve just asked.
5. I (26m) met a nice girl (25f) on Hinge. We went on two dates so far. First date we went for lunch and afterwards she suggested we could walk around for a bit. A week later we went on a second date at a museum and got a coffee afterwards. We both felt like the date shouldn’t be over yet so again we walked around for quite a bit.
During the second date we got a little closer to each other. While looking at the exhibitions I started moving closer to her and she didn’t back off and after a while even moved closer herself. I also got some chance to put my arm around her and she didn’t seem to mind.
Afterwards when walking I suggested we hold hands and she agreed but said she doesn’t really enjoy holding hands so we didn’t. She didn’t seem to become more distant and I felt her mood was unaffected.
After the date she said that she really enjoyed it, I agreed, we hugged and we went our separate ways home. When I got home she texted me again that she had a great time and I replied that I really want to see her again. I made some suggestions in public places and she replied that she’d love to meet up at my place and cook together.
The thing is that she’s the first person I am dating. I never had a girlfriend before, never had sex and never even kissed anyone. I’m happy with my life. I have great friends, family and a good job and I’d say I’m socially well adjusted 🙂 Our dates also were great and I think I handled them well although more experienced guys probably would have dealt a little better with certain situations.
I really like her and we both said in our dating profiles we are looking for a long term relationship. I’m just not sure how to deal with it. What should I expect from cooking together? I’d really love to kiss her and at some point have sex with her (not necessarily on the third date but I’d be open to it). So far the dates went well because I felt comfortable in the situations. Now I feel like we are moving into unfamiliar territory for me. I don’t even know the logistics of making out of having sex and I expect I’m not a great kisser as I never had any practice haha.
I’m looking for some input into how I should deal with it. I feel a little paralyzed and I know I want to talk to her about all that but I don’t know how to do that without possibly turning her off and walking away. In what situation would I even start a conversation like that? I really like her and don’t want to mess this up.
6. I constantly fart and it controls my dating life.
I (F19) have never really had issues before with gas, but a year or so go something just happened with my stomach and now I pass gas pretty much all the time.
I’ve been to the doctors and they said nothing is wrong with my gut health. It doesn’t matter if I eat healthy, unhealthy, in between, but I constantly seem to be farting. I don’t mind it when I’m alone of course, but at work or around family is especially embarrassing. And holding them in makes my stomach hurt, and especially noisy with gurgling and stuff. The thing is, my stomach doesn’t hurt usually when I do pass gas. Just feels normal— sometimes relieving.
These aren’t quiet farts either, all of them are usually pretty deep and loud. The last boyfriend I had couldn’t stand it and I’m pretty sure he left because I dutch oven’d him a few times in bed and he got pretty sick of it. He also stopped going down on me when he heard my stomach rumble once from the fart I was holding in, just didn’t want to risk it.
What do I do here? Feels like I can’t win no matter what.